Would this bother you? Wedding

[pandaandba]

Small wedding, 19 people in total.

Groom, best man, his two brothers and our dads are wearing the same blue suit. The bridesmaids partner has bought an extremely similar style suit/same colour and will look like a groomsman.

Feel like I can't dictate what people wear. Would it bother you?

No this does not matter in anyway.

I think it will look nice. Co ordinated guests look great!

Do the male guests even know that the grooms party are wearing blue suits?

Thanks all - appreciate it!

For what it's worth, I was never going to say he couldn't wear that. I was just quietly annoyed in my head.

I am however, a little upset about the waistcoat as that is a sort of "stand out"-ish one and the tie is a similar colour but hey ho, Groom etc will have buttonholes!

And those of you saying it's odd to have them matching, I don't think it is. We specifically wanted these people to coordinate so as per MN police, we paid for them to wear what we wanted them too, to avoid getting told off for that! I personally think it's nice that they'll be coordinated!

I don’t think YABU to be bothered by it but you might BU to say something. A similar thing happened at my wedding, although this man (a friend of DH) turned up in exactly the same outfit as the groomsmen. Suit, waistcoat, tie, the lot. And he tried to get in the wedding party photos until someone reminded him it was wedding party only. I took it as a compliment that he wanted to be included.
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding.

Perhaps he bought the suit to match his girlfriend's dress, which I imagine work best with a blue suit as that is what you chose too.

That is what I would assume too. It would make sense that they maybe want complimentary colours for their outfits.

Surely other men in blue will only serve to make your photographs look better anyway.

I made this faux pas. My OH was part of the bridal party and ofc I wanted to match. My dress was a totally different shade but the same colour as the bridesmaids so it very much looked like I wanted to be part of the party.

It is tricky because you don't want to clash with your partner either.

I think with a small wedding it would be better to match than clash in the photos.

What’s this about the waistcoat? Are you saying he bought the same “standout” (how?) waistcoat as the wedding party?

Btw, why did the bridesmaid tell you what suit her partner would be wearing?

I don't know why she told me? We discuss most things and as such she told me they'd been shopping . She knows what they're all wearing and has helped her partner pick the most similar thing

I have been to 12 weddings in the last three years, every groom and most of the guests wore some shade of blue, mainly navy. Except for mine, my DH wore black tie to ours!

Some couples ask guests to dress to a 'theme' - appreciate that you haven't done that but maybe your bridesmaid actually thought you would prefer if her partner didn't clash with the groomsmen in the photos? And, as others have said, she probably just wanted him to wear something that looked nice with her own dress.

I think it will probably like nice in your photos, honestly.

It’s not like he’s wearing a bridesmaid’s dress - the overwhelming majority of men’a suits are blue, black or grey, surely?

This is seriously odd, op. You have less than twenty people in the wedding party, and you’re afraid that one of the blokes is going to look as if he’s one of the special ones because he’s chosen a blue suit...
The poor bugger!

With such a small wedding how are people going to get confused about roles?
You should have a lovely time. A great positive of smaller weddings, we had a small one, is that stress should be reduced.