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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To go for a swim without shaving

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CandleWithHair · 01/09/2019 14:17

I’m going for a wax before an upcoming holiday in a couple of weeks time so can’t shave before then, but I really want to go for a swim today and obviously Mary is definitely a little bit Hairy at the mo...
We’re not talking the wilds of Borneo, but there’s enough spider legs visible for anyone who might happen to be staring at my crotch for more than a couple of seconds (serves them right, right?)

So AIBU to think fuck it and go for a swim anyway, unruly pubes and all?

OP posts:

Cryalot2 · 01/09/2019 19:43

Its your choice, I think if anyone notices they are far to close and why are they looking anyway?

If others have a problem well then it's their problem for looking.

ELM8 · 01/09/2019 19:48

Is this for real?

isabellerossignol · 01/09/2019 19:56

Pubes are intimate are they not? They grow exclusively on an intimate private area. I have no weird ideas, this is anatomy.

Not really, isn't the whole issue that some people are saying they grow on the tops of their legs? I don't understand the logic that says that the tops of the legs are an intimate area only if they have hair on them, but without hair they aren't an intimate area.

Krisskrosskiss · 01/09/2019 20:05

@isabellerossignol I agree. Unless someone is wearing some kind of Cher leotard as a swim suit then we are talking about hair that is actually on the legs. Some women luckily dont grow much of that but some do. And it's an awful area to shave or wax because of the sides of your underwear or swimsuit rubbing on the crease with your leg.. why should anyone be expected to be in discomfort just so no one sees a stray leg pube?? No one would be remotely bothered if it were a man because lots of them are covered in hair... often you see guy pubes coming out the top of their swimming trunks never mind the legs lol... they dont get accused of flashing private parts because people accept they are hairy... well many women are quite hairy naturally too!

maddiemookins16mum · 01/09/2019 20:12

This is why I have a boy leg swim suit.

simonisnotme · 01/09/2019 20:13

who cares apart from you just keep bloody swimming and noone will see them

Parsley65 · 01/09/2019 20:14

I swim at the local pool twice a week and can honestly say that my eyes have never strayed down to anyone's groin
Am I missing something?

StrumpersPlunkett · 01/09/2019 20:16

I never shave my bits and shave my legs every couple of months.
I swim 3-4 times a week surrounded by ladies who come in all shapes sizes and ages. No one cares.

BettysLeftTentacle · 01/09/2019 20:18

Hair is just well...hair. That’s it.

The word ‘flaps’ as an adjective to describe a woman’s pubic area is offensive and deeply misogynistic.

berlinbabylon · 01/09/2019 20:18

People really do notice. I don't know why people on mn state that nobody cares or notices. Of course they do No they don't. Why the hell would you be looking at other womens' crotches? I know I am getting really snippy on here today but I am truly amazed at some of the comments.

SimonJT · 01/09/2019 20:19

What do those who would judge do when they see a bloke at the pool?

I take my son every Sunday, I have the hairiest thighs I have ever seen, I’m like an actual monkey, if I’m in a rush I have to blow dry the backs of them. It is just hair for goodness sake, if someone has a problem with it they can keep their eyes above the waist.

ohcarriemathison · 01/09/2019 20:19

Unless I've waxed or shaved then I wear shorts.
I keep thinking I'd like to wear a swimsuit but not sure I can be bothered waxing / shaving every week.

BettysLeftTentacle · 01/09/2019 20:21

not sure I can be bothered waxing / shaving every week.

Radical idea I know but have you ever thought of just not doing it?

SimonJT · 01/09/2019 20:23

@ElizaDee
If a man walked around in budgie smugglers with his pubes hanging out he'd be branded a pervert and accused of some sort of manspreading/wilfully making people uncomfortable.

So, keep your pubes contained in whatever manner you choose, whether that's shaving or wearing shorts/a boyshort swimming costume or whatever.

I do this every Sunday (they’re pink with pineapples on, very fetching with my brown skin) and I’m yet to be called a pervert.

MyLeftArm · 01/09/2019 20:40

People really do notice. I don't know why people on mn state that nobody cares or notices. Of course they do

So what if they do? Fuck em.

CloudRusting · 01/09/2019 20:44

Those people who judge might want to take a moment to ask themselves why that is. I don’t speak for a position of saintliness- earlier this summer seeing a woman with extremely hairy legs wearing shorts next to me on the train and my immediate reaction was “ew, hairy”. My second thought was WFT woman, you consider yourself a feminist why is your mind judging body hair when left unchecked? And so I had a good hard think about how those views had got in there, what I had learnt from family, friends, men and society on the topic. I then decided if those views arose again in my head they would be promptly squashed as I refuse to be someone who decides to judge in that way.

CloudRusting · 01/09/2019 20:45

Faod I didn’t say anything out loud about train woman or let a look of disgust cross my face this was just internal dialogue.

MyLeftArm · 01/09/2019 20:51

"What other people think of you is none of your business".

I'd judge you if you were swimming with an open wound, or chickenpox. How you decide to manage your own body hair? It doesn't directly affect me, you do you! Go swimming, enjoy yourself

Hennysmommy · 01/09/2019 20:54

Oh god op your description has really made me laugh and cheered me up after a very shitty day. Go for a swim lol 😂.

Imstickingwiththisone · 01/09/2019 20:54

I think we have to question why the majority of women's swimming costumes are cut the way they are. Men disliked Speedos and got shorts which are more common now.

I'll be wearing a legsuit from now on having found out they exist! I hate swimming costumes for tons of reasons including having to pick wedgies out my arse after climbing out the pool but not wanting my pubes on show is a factor too.

TrainspottingWelsh · 01/09/2019 20:55

At least when any of us go swimming we’ll all be able to identify any weird local mumsnetters as those women taking an interest in examining our groins in order to judge whether our pubic maintenance is acceptable or akin to flap exposure.

HopeIsNotAStrategy · 01/09/2019 21:13

What is transparent is how unnecessary this thread is. For whatever reason,

Hennysmommy · 01/09/2019 21:24

@HopeIsNotAStrategy maybe an unnecessary post but hilarious and interesting. 😂 Amazing how much people have an option on about body hair 😂

ThirstyGhost · 01/09/2019 21:48

"Sparklesocks Sun 01-Sep-19 16:02:39
If you are looking long enough at a woman’s crotch that you can work out her pube situ from a distance - that’s on you!"

Hahahaha

AveAtqueVale · 01/09/2019 21:59

I only shaved one leg before going swimming last week. (Had to hop put of the shower to resolve some kind of DC trying to kill each other situation and forgot to get back in.) Didn't notice until I was getting them dry after swimming - DS1 started stroking the rather luxuriant hair on the unshaven leg and said it was 'almost as soft as the cat' .

I've decided to ake it in the complimentary spirit in which it was intended .

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