To go for a swim without shaving

[CandleWithHair]

I’m going for a wax before an upcoming holiday in a couple of weeks time so can’t shave before then, but I really want to go for a swim today and obviously Mary is definitely a little bit Hairy at the mo...
We’re not talking the wilds of Borneo, but there’s enough spider legs visible for anyone who might happen to be staring at my crotch for more than a couple of seconds (serves them right, right?)

So AIBU to think fuck it and go for a swim anyway, unruly pubes and all?

Nobody will notice or care. Even people who think they'd notice and care really wouldn't, because at a swimming pool or a beach you have your own stuff going on and you're not staring at crotches! (And if you are, you need to sort your life out).

If you're really bothered just wrap a towel around you and leave it poolside, but it really isn't necessary.

You would hate to see me at the pool, you would think a gorilla had joined you.

I've got a legsuit and it is so so comfy!

Bonus is no need whatsoever to worry about hair.

Shame on the woman who wants to shame other women for their natural hair. I mean are we supposed to keep at it till we're old? Start when we're children? No fuck that. Keep your insecurities to yourself.

I'm not 'looking' but sometimes you notice other people when out and about.

I know it's frowned upon by MN but I don't want to see your pubes. And before anyone says it I don't want to see a man's pubs either!

People really do notice. I don't know why people on mn state that nobody cares or notices. Of course they do.

I've never shaved or waxed and I'm nearly 40. I do trim sometimes with some nail scissors, perhaps if you are self conscious. I've never seen anyone looking at me

So if you see an elderly woman getting out of the pool and there's a stray pube or 2 you think it's, what. Revolting? She's revolting? Lazy? Do you say anything? Glare pointedly? Passive aggressively remark about it loudly to the person you're with?

Do the same with a child? What age should girls start getting rid of their disgusting body hair? Mine started growing pubes at 8.5.

It is a serious hang up tbh

It's just hair

As if anyone should give a shit whether you want to see their pubes though alicia.

Cocomelon, why do you care so much? I couldn't give a shit about mine or anyone else's.

If I saw someone with pubes hanging out the sides of the costume I would judge. Not half as much as I judge you for peering at other women's crotches.

It's a bit of hair. Those who judge need to question themselves why they judge. What is it about another woman's choice for her pubic hair that affects you so.

How much hair can there be if waxing forms part of your normal maintenance regime? Try the costume on. Any stragglers that bother you, snip them off. Go swimming. Personally I wouldn't give a fuck what your minge looked like in its natural state anyway. Certainly don't about my own.

As if anyone should give a shit whether you want to see their pubes though alicia.

If they don't give a shit, what I think won't matter, will it.

Answer me this: Why in the absolute fuck would it be unacceptable?

If you're the kind of utter ballbag that judges someone for their choice of pubic hair grooming then honestly, your opinion literally is bottom of the list to give fucks about.

I honestly can’t say I’d notice. The only time I ever have was someone in a changing room with very light skin, a light costume and a good few inches width either side of very dense black hair. And even then my only thought was fucking hell, it must take some effort to maintain the blonde dye job on your head with hair that dark. Not omg female body hair.

Otherwise I don’t tend to scrutinise other women’s crotches enough to notice, let alone care.

I suppose I would if it was like Mr Twits beard with bits of food in, but that would be about the hygiene. And possibly a quick shudder at what type of weird fetish would involve baked beans being spilt there.

“If you're the kind of utter ballbag that judges someone for their choice of pubic hair grooming then honestly, your opinion literally is bottom of the list to give fucks about.”

This is my new favourite post.

I saw someone with pubes hanging out the sides of the costume I would judge

And what would be the outcome of your judgement? That she was lazy, disgusting, unhygienic, slutty, - what conclusions would you draw from thosr few stray pubes?

I can't imagine anyone would notice. If they did and judged you for it, they're arseholes you don't need in your life.

I am definitely pro retro-minge. All that plucking/waxing/shaving/lasering/depilation cream stuff is more hassle that I need in my life.

It’s really depressing that’s grown woman would even ask this question let alone @AlicjaCross’s answer.

I'm still fucking fuming about the judgey fuckers. Where is the fucking solidarity or sisterhood? Is it not bad enough that the porn-sodden men judge us for the completely natural "crime" of being hairy, we have to have the judgemental cunts at it too?

If I gave a shiny shit what they thought I'd spend three in every five weeks not being "good enough" in my personal grooming to swim.

Luckily, I think they're vacuous pond life and understand that the worth of a woman isn't dictated by what's creeping round the sides of her knickers but what's in her heart. I find them sadly wanting.

What @youmeandconchitawurst said.

All. Of. It.

If a man walked around in budgie smugglers with his pubes hanging out he'd be branded a pervert and accused of some sort of manspreading/wilfully making people uncomfortable.

So, keep your pubes contained in whatever manner you choose, whether that's shaving or wearing shorts/a boyshort swimming costume or whatever.

If they don't give a shit, what I think won't matter, will it.

Hopefully not to OP, but I can still amuse myself laughing at the level of entitlement it took for you to make your contributions on this thread.