To ask MN to suspend AIBU temporarily...

[noroominthefridge]

...so that posters have to look for the vaguely correct section to post in?

Yes, I get the "posting for traffic" mentality and it is occasionally relevant when someone has a bona fide emergency, but fucking hell.

Yes, yes you are being massively unreasonable to ask if your shoes go with your dress when there is a perfectly adequate style and beauty section which I have hidden as it doesn't interest me

Yes, yes you are being totally unreasonable to ask for travel tips to (insert destination here) when there is a very straightforward travel section, which may even have the answer to your question if you could be bothered to look Lots of MNers have been to California/New York/Berlin/Centre Parcs/Efteling and have posted extremely useful advice about them.

I could probably go on, but it has definitely been getting worse lately.

While I'm at it, maybe there could also be a new "sticky" section with the answer to questions which come up with depressing regularity re sheet/towel washing, what present to buy for some random relative that nobody knows or how much to give in a wedding card?

Genuinely interested to hear opinions on this, and if anyone is horrid I will just add the disclaimer that I was tired when I posted.

YANBU. 'Am I Being Unreasonable' is rapidly turning into 'Any Old Shite'.

I mean if you're that desperate for traffic or can't work out how Google functions then at least put it in Chat, which is more of a generalist forum.

MNHQ also needs better signposting to other forums and the moderators need to work on moving posts which are clearly in the wrong place. The lack of traffic on other boards won't be helped by no-one ever posting in them and everyone converging on one forum.

Guilty of posting on here for traffic . Once maybe twice . I did worry it would be wrong and it seems I am right.
I feel very uncomfortable now and and would be most reluctant to start a thread again.
But I get the message , to post in the right sections.

MNHQ also needs better signposting to other forums and the moderators need to work on moving posts which are clearly in the wrong place

They can’t handle moderation consistently, can you imagine how that would go?!

The stupid thing is if everyone used the correct topic, everything would get equal traffic.

Hey @JacquesHammer I never said it wouldn't be chaos

I never said it wouldn't be chaos

Very true

*"should I ask for an Am I Being Ridiculous topic?"

Definitely!*

But would I get a voting button? still sulking at not having a voting button

A really stupid suggestion. If you don't like it, hide it.

I've an idea, I think I'll ask MNHQ to suspend your account temporarily.

I posted on miscarriage and pregnancy loss forum and I had no answer, so I copied and pasted on AIBU because there's generally more traffic and I was more likely to get a response.. and I did! I don't think it was ridiculous or stupid that I posted on there. I was asking for help and reassurance. Nobody minded that. I honestly don't know why it is bothering you so much?

The only problem with posting in AIBU because your specific board is quiet is that you can’t always rely on posters to be kind and sensitive.

@GrannySquares
If that was referring to me....
I've said and only said that asking strangers on the internet if you're pregnant is stupid and ridiculous. Nothing more.. Nothing less

Yabu you're not in charge of mumsnet and the people that are in charge clearly don't care.

I really hate these threads trying to police other users.

@Roozy123 I'm not referring to you at all. I've only read the original post on here. I haven't read any replies.

I hate AIBUs that are just posted on AIBU for traffic or have a vague titles too. Plus don't post here then have a strop if people say YABU.

@GrannySquares
Okay, I just wanted to clarify as I wouldn't want anyone thinking I would ever say any thing negative about someone posting about an actual pregnancy worry like miscarraige or loss.

Or where they're actually asking for reassurance with a pregnancy issue or problem x

The problem with objections to AIBU in terms of posters not posting in the correct place, is that no-one is consistent.

Quite often you’ll see posters bemoaning on threads “there’s a board for that you know” whilst posting with impunity on other threads that should equally have been started elsewhere.

In general I feel the internet is becoming more intense and weird as time goes on. I think MN may just be reflecting the trend.

I’ve had a bland Twitter account for a few years which I rarely use and when I log on it’s just more and more surreal with aggressive comments then counter aggressive comments and someone trying to point score or humble brag.

Or with a chip on their shoulder about X, Y or Z who wants to go full at it. Or even creepier someone who wants to “connect” in a sentimental weird way to others they know nothing about.

And always the random odd bloke who thinks “woman online” equals “dating site”. Which I suppose at least you don’t get on here.

I need to get a social media presence for work at some point and my game plan is to go for a completely bland avatar of a pot plant and give no details about my personal life.

I think all the topics should be suspended except AIBU. Then it won't be a problem.

Roozy123
I agree with you.
There's a big difference between silly "AIBU to ask for line eyes" (why would anyone be able to judge a photo of a stick better than the person holding it in front of them?) or "AIBU to ask if I'm pregnant?" (how the hell can people online tell you if youre pregnant, pee on a stick, if it's negative, wait and pee again in a few days) and people actively seeking some support, albeit in perhaps a more heavily visited section rather than the appropriate topic.

@LolaSmiles thank you!!!!! Lol

Its like not everyone understands where I'm coming from!
I'm here to support anyone needing reassurance or advice etc when it comes to pregnancy, labour etc!!
But JUST posting "Could I be pregnant!?" And the post just states "I had unprotective sex but it was near my period am I pregnant!?" Or something along those lines is ridiculous!!! How would any one know!? X

... some of these people are not looking for help to work out dates.. they don't have a pic of a Preg test and they're not looking for reassurance they're actually asking if they're pregnant!! Or could they be!!?
Like they're not the ones that have had unprotective sex

I like the variety of AIBU.

Do you really like label makers?

@Roozy123.

What other people need/get out of a thread can’t be judged by you (or anyone except the thread starter).

Lots of women are woefully ignorant of basic biology and have very little idea of anything related to conceiving a baby - when it’s likely/unlikely it’s NOT pointless posting for them.

They obviously want to be reassured/congratulated/supported in some way that helps them

You don’t get it - that’s fine, scroll on past

@Cryalot2
I feel very uncomfortable now and and would be most reluctant to start a thread again.

Don’t. It’s only a minority of people who get their knickers in a knot over this- the rest of us care more that people post, than where they post 🌷