I work in a large organisation, I have moved roles, sideways and up, within it over the last 8 years and have built up some lovely friendship groups. I've been in my current role since just before Christmas.
I've got to know a group of 2 men and 4 women on my team well and we often lunch together. (I catch up with old work colleagues at lunch separately too so it's as and when) Sometimes it's all of us together and sometimes it's just a few of us due to others are catching up with others themselves. We socialise outside of work too.
Anyway, I've come home today feeling upset and angry and want to know if IABU.
I was meeting these new(ish) colleagues for lunch and walked over to their table. The 4 women and 1 of the men were sat on the table eating and as I walked over I saw man number 2 at the tills talking to another colleague. I grabbed my food and as I walked past I asked if man 2 was joining us for lunch today. He snapped back: No, don't you mean YOU are joining US. (All I meant was, was he having lunch with us or having lunch with this other colleague)
I felt a bit hurt but sat down and all was fine until man 2 joined our table and said "nice of you to grace us with your presence" I asked him what he meant by that and he said where have you been the last week or so, I said away with work and catching up with others. One of the women was then talking about her ex- husband who is being difficult and she was saying how she had no family around for support so I said, we are here if you need us. To which man 2 said "well YOU'RE no use are you"
I made my excuses and left the table early.
I just feel really upset with this and angry with myself for not standing up for myself more.
We all get on well and I get on with man 2 well, I'm not sure what happened today. His comments have made me feel worthless and that I'm not really part of that group. It's pathetic, I'm in my 30s. It's brought back memories of being bullied at school and I have to admit I've had a cry since coming home.
AIBU to feel this way? Maybe I'm over reacting or being oversensitive.
Can someone shake some sense into me? I'm meant to be going out tonight for drinks with them all but am thinking of saying I'm tired and not going.