I'm getting married abroad whilst on holiday, it's coming up very soon, it's been booked over a year. Only me, OH and our two kids are going. The idea is to get married and tell family afterwards, either once we are home, or whilst we are still there, reasons being, I'm not close to my family, including my mum, but get on ok-ish with them, haven't seen my dad since I was a teen, I've never wanted a big wedding, it's actually my worst nightmare been the centre of attention, but the biggest reason is my MIL, she doesn't speak to two of my OHs brothers, either she wouldn't come, or they wouldn't come, if they both did come it would more than likely end up in a argument, as it did on Xmas when one brother turned up unannounced whilst MIL was there, argument broke out at my house Infront of my DC.
But, The closer it gets the more I'm starting to crap myself about the fall out, people aren't going to be happy, but it's what we want, a nice relaxed day with just our DC.
So AIBU to get married and not tell everyone until afterwards?