To find him infuriating

[littleyellowjuicecup]

So every week I do the food shop. I take 2 toddlers with me, do the shop and arrive home as DH gets home from work. He then packs the shopping away.
I’m just getting mightily annoyed with his constant lack of care when putting things away.
He wastes us so much money on a weekly basis because he puts things in the wrong place.
This weeks effort was putting the pot of chilled carbonara sauce in a cupboard instead of the fridge to find 2 days later, a cook from frozen meat joint that specifies it must be kept frozen was put in the fridge so needed chucking as I’m not sure if you can cook from chilled.
The bottle of fresh chilled orange juice ended up in a cupboard along with some dairylea dunkers.
It pisses me off that we have probably wasted £10 this week on fresh food that needs to be chucked.
It’s the same with the laundry. I wash and he puts away. This week I’ve found jumpers in the pyjamas drawer, and pyjama tops in with the t-shirts so it takes me forever to find coordinating items.
Went to take the kids swimming last week, but couldn’t find their armbands. They were in the garage with the paddling pool toys 🤷‍♀️
He is a 40 year old man and acts like a man child. Why can he not put stuff away in the correct places???

Well don't say stupid shit and expect not to be called on it. It's obvious what you meant and back pedalling doesn't make it less obvious.

I would stop at "I'm sorry" if I were you.

Bully1966 thanks

Mushroomparty thanks for the apology.

Sorry you had a shitty ex who may or may not have had ocd, but really ime a lot of us our anxiety actually comes from not wanting to harm others! Certainly true for me and from discussions with other sufferers they too worry about contaminating/harming others.

Funnily enough I'm somewhat relaxed on food safety being quite a confident cook, I understand the difference between use by, best before and don't always dismiss something a day past use by as unusable. Dd however is a nightmare for this! I've caught her about to throw out perfectly good food umpteen times because the best before date is tomorrow! Been trying to drum into her for years that it's still perfectly OK!

@WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles

It's obvious I phrased it wrong, and I apologized to the person who called it out politely. I don't react well to name calling, though.

It's also obvious some people chose to interpret things the worst way possible. I've explained repeatedly what I meant. Again, I'm sorry I phrased it wrong. There's no back pedalling here.

Live with someone with OCD who bullies you into living your life just like them, and then come back to me.

No, I don't believe all people with OCD are bullies. I have nothing against people with OCD. I am sorry that my comment was phrased badly and prone to misinterpretation.