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Help me with bedroom situations!

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Emcont · 28/08/2019 19:17

My DD's are 4 and 6. At the moment we co-sleep in my kingsize bed in the 'master bedroom' while DH is sleeping on the bottom bunk in the girls bedroom. This has been working fine for us up until now. DH goes to work very early and we have co-slept from birth, so it's just worked.

But now they're getting bigger and they have more 'stuff' I'm contemplating swapping bedrooms with them and taking the very small, barely double, bedroom.

Currently their bunk beds will separate to two single beds. Do I keep these or opt for a double bed for them to share? I've seen this mentioned quite a lot in my research while trying to decide what to do!

Would it bother you if you had a bedroom that fit your bed in and not much else?!

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EdtheBear · 28/08/2019 19:40

I don't think it's the co sleeping that's frowned upon its the DH being shoved aside to make space for the kids.

myself2020 · 28/08/2019 19:41

we are in the smaller bedroom, our kids in the bigger. youngest is still sleeping with us, but about to move himself out (oldest moved himself out after youngest was born). just do what feels right to you!

lau888 · 28/08/2019 19:41

I'd keep the bunk beds. The children are small enough to share the lower bunk if they still want to sleep in the same bed, while they transition to their own room. The elder child can move to the top bunk, once they've settled in. Bunk beds will give them a larger communal play area on the floor. Whichever room you put them in, there will still be two people per room and the bulky toys will soon be outgrown. I think it's six of one and half a dozen of the other as to who will eventually need the most space.

gamerchick · 28/08/2019 19:41

I'd give them the big bedroom. Kids have more stuff

Adults DON'T need the biggest bedroom, it's not as if we use it for anything other than overnight where kids play in theirs.

There's also nothing wrong with co sleeping, they go in their own beds eventually and sex can happen anywhere. It must be boring as fuck just to do it in bed at night.

mybabyisteething · 28/08/2019 19:41

My mum recently gave up her big bedroom for my 10yo sister.

So she is in a room that's 7x9ft BUT it is just her. She has a double bed, one bedside table and a couple of shelves. Her clothes are in the airing cupboard on a rail. (It is a large cupboard)

I said to DH that i would happily swap to give our DD our room, but he said no because she does have her own room, just ours is bigger.
Our boys (1 and 7) will share eventually, but we cosleep with 1yo atm.

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Emcont · 28/08/2019 19:42

He wasn't shoved aside though. It was his choice.

(Our marriage is fine before anyone suggests he's sleeping in another bed for any other reason than this!)

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myself2020 · 28/08/2019 19:42

@EdtheBear but the DH wasn‘t shoved out. it was working for them

Almostfifty · 28/08/2019 19:44

Could you put the bunk beds up in your room for a few weeks, till they get used to sleeping in them, then move them into their room?

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Emcont · 28/08/2019 19:48

The thing I'm hung up on at the moment is that we currently have a big bed frame and I think we would need to go to an ottoman for the storage. Which isn't the end of the world.

Growing up we were always playing musical bedrooms every year or so. We have had the biggest room for 6 years and can honestly say that they have only slept in their bedroom alone less than 10 times.

So whichever way we do it we're obviously going to have to be persistent.

I do like the idea of giving it 6 weeks and seeing how we go.

We haven't actually even put this idea to them yet. My DH has been trying to convince me for a couple of years to swap rooms and the only thing that's stopped me so far is that the back room is very dark which hasn't been a problem for the girls as all they've done in there is play during the day.

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sugarplumfairy28 · 28/08/2019 19:52

DH and I have the smallest room, all we do is sleep in it and keep our stuff in there, whereas the children live in their rooms and have a lot more stuff so it makes sense. Whether your DDs still share a bed or not, I would feel that you and your DH get back an adult room just for you.

Toothproblems · 28/08/2019 19:53

Op i understand what you are saying get rid of the bunk beds and seperate your two king size beds then put one in the other room for you and they have your old room.

My 2 middle kids share a king size bed because they like it. However we have a bunk bed in their brothers room so when second eldest wants to stop sharing he has the bunk bed. My youngest is only 4 months and is in our room and when she's older she will go in with her sister in the king bed. But if they want to stop sharing we will get a bunk bed.

Mine like sharing but are not made to do so.
Why don't you ask them what they want to do? Bunk bed or keep sharing but mummy and daddy are moving to the other room.
Let them choose however I would think bunk bed best because they won't want to share forever and you will end up buying one again in the future...

Butterymuffin · 28/08/2019 19:53

Agree with gamerchick about giving the kids the larger room. Adults don't need as much bedroom space.

purplelila2 · 28/08/2019 19:53

OP is getting a lot of flack here for no reason!
I share a bed with my 6 year old Dd my husband sleeps in the bunk bed too

works for us!
my daughter wakes up having nightmares or needs the loo or whatever

DontGoIntoTheLongGrass · 28/08/2019 19:54

No clue on your layout but, as you mentioned having an abnornally large master bedroom, would you consider moving a wall perhaps to make the rooms more equal in area? Just a thought if it's a possibility for you.

Whattodo20192 · 28/08/2019 19:57

If you only need your bedroom for sleeping and won't be spending other time up there then you can take the small bedroom and leave you dc in the big room with their toys

Namechanger001 · 28/08/2019 19:59

Are your children dry in the night? If one or both aren’t you can’t really have a double bed to share anyway- assuming if one isn’t dry they’re in pull ups now. You’d need to change the bedding and wake both kids up when moving on from pull ups. Bunk beds and room to play.

Kuponut · 28/08/2019 20:00

We have the smallest bedroom in our house and the kids share the large "master" bedroom. We've invested a fair amount into very good built-in storage in our bedroom to maximise the space we have in there - so have lots of wardrobe space but basically it's a wall of wardrobes with a TV alcove (I like telly in bed so shoot me) and then the double bed and that's about it in there.

The kids play in their room, have toys in there and make more use of the larger space than we would. They have bunks because my two would throttle each other in under a week if they had to share a bed and both are squirming starfish sleepers.

SoyDora · 28/08/2019 20:01

Their bedroom isn't big enough to have the beds as two single beds and still have room to play

Just keep them as bunk beds and transition them into their own beds? Mine are similar ages and slept in bunk beds until very recently when we put DD1 in her own room (DD2 needs less sleep and was waking her early).

Cryalot2 · 28/08/2019 20:05

You say it works for you, well why change then?
Not everyone is into co sleeping. It just wouldn't work for so many, and I would have been terrified of rolling on top of baby. But yours are past this stage.
If you own your own home and the kids bedroom is beside , could you make a door or arch way ( small ) between the two rooms . Just a thought.

raspberryk · 28/08/2019 20:08

Persist with putting them in their own bunk beds, in the small room. At 4 & 6 that is not hard (from the parent of a 4 & 7 yo) , it's a discipline issue now not a mumsnet solution thread issue, as there isn't really a problem other than 2 parents not parenting.

RelaisBlu · 28/08/2019 20:08

When I gave birth to our 3rd DD the older 2 were sharing a bedroom. They were really keen for the baby to share with them too which she did from the age of 7 months. We swapped rooms with the children to do this as the master bedroom was very large and we were fine in the room the older 2 had been occupying. It worked well until we moved about 3 years later, then they all got their own rooms.

Rachelover40 · 28/08/2019 20:10

We co-slept for years, lots of people do. It doesn't last forever.

DontGoIntoTheLongGrass
No clue on your layout but, as you mentioned having an abnornally large master bedroom, would you consider moving a wall perhaps to make the rooms more equal in area? Just a thought if it's a possibility for you.
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That's a good suggestion.

momtoboys · 28/08/2019 20:11

I could not possibly have read this correctly. Your husband has been sleeping on a bottom bunk for 6 years?? Who cares if he agreed to it or it was his idea in the first place? This is crazy.

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Emcont · 28/08/2019 20:13

@momtoboys No you're not reading it correctly

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Flupibass · 28/08/2019 20:16

I was just about to say the same as pp
Can you change your layout to make the smaller room larger?

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