To wish people would stop feeling sad that I only have sons?

[3LoudBoys]

Someone at work just told me how 'it won't be the same' when they are older. No one to go shopping with or talk to on the phone, limited access to grandchildren, won't ever see them at Christmas.

Why say all these things? Even if they are true, let me enjoy them growing up. 😟

It's clearly nonsense- look at all the women on here moaning about all the time they spend with their MILs.

@DuvetCaterpillar not heard from you for a while. How are you?!

Oops wrong thread 🙄

My DH doesn't really want to know his parents, in particular his mum. That is because they put all their eggs in his sister's basket, waiting for her to marry and have loads of DC they would look after. They kept all HIS baby stuff for her DC. The wrote him off after he got married as "losing a son". Its so sad because he is very much a family man and loves inviting people over but they hurt him so much he doesn't bother. They think it is him but they very much started this. Whenever his Dsis gets a new boyfriend they treat him like a son as he is an extension of their DD.

@3LoudBoys What a load of SH.T ! I WISH my MIL was normal so I could pick her up and go shopping / out for afternoon tea! I also wish she wasn't so self absorbed so I could drop DD of for the night and spend time with DH!

Not all DIL are from hell, some of us actually crave a relationship with our MIL! Ignore the idiots, my mum has 1 son and she speaks to his wife more than him, she also has a better relationship with her DIL than what she does with her own DD 🤷🏻‍♀️

Its about how you bring your children up and act yourself as a person!

My husband and his brother and really close to his parents, they see them every week and speak every few days. Most Christmases are spent with them, and I love spending time with them too, so it's great!
This could easily be the relationship you have with yours in future!

What bullshit. As if you need a penis to talk to your mum on the phone! My brother moved back to near my parents when they had kids, they see that set of CG more often than my children due to distance.

Just dont be a batshit MiL (insisting on being the first person to see a grandchild, taking over the wedding day, letting yourself into their house and rearranging their underwear drawers) and I'm sure the relationship with any future GC will be fine!

Anyway getting ahead of myself there...its the same if you have girls, someone said to me 'your husband must be gutted' as no one to play football with etc. As clearly women dont play football.

Its sexist and stupid. I'm not sure if people really think about it. For people that have two kids, half will have one of each. So according to these people, half of the population should be devastated they dont have one child of each gender.

My husband is the youngest of three boys and we have two DSs. We live near his parents and see each other several times a week. MIL regularly babysits our boys. We have all been on holiday together and spend Christmas together every year (my mother is invited too). We see far more of his family than I do of mine an my MIL knows my son's far better than my mother does. It totally depends on the individuals not the gender how close you will be to your children in the future. Ignore these people with their strange ideas x

Nonsense OP some people just love to talk shit like this to try and upset you. Take no notice. I only have a son too.

We live next door to PIL. We go on holiday with them with DS - go to the park on a whim - DS goes round to them to watch telly at night. DH has just come back from a motorbike racing weekend with DFIL. There are two daughters as well but I would say DH has more to do with his parents than any of them.

Clearly, you have some spiteful work colleagues. Ignore them, enjoy your children and if they are 'sad that you only have sons' then that is there problem, not yours

How close you are to adult children depends upon personalities and relationships, not the sex of the children.

I always find these threads a bit odd.

I have three sons of my own and a DSS. No one has ever suggested this sort of thing to me? I have had conversations with my mum where I have a wistful think about what it would be like if I had a daughter, but it genuinely is idle musings!

Sometimes people will ask if I’m going to ‘try for a girl’ to which I reply no, I’m totally happy with my lot.

Can you just ignore those people? I have 3 DS and 1 dd in that order. When DS 3 was born, if I had a pound for every time someone asked if I was disappointed it was another boy, I would have made a lot of money. When dd was born and I first took her out, someone came up to me and said she'd thought "poor Broken Telly, another boy" because I put dd in a blue cardigan. My only answer ever was that I have a baby and what more could I want. People are just ignorant

I think it depends on how much pleasure you get from spending time with your Mum, not the gender of your dcs.

Ignore them, I love having a boy and plan on being a great & supportive MIL in future.

My DH was always really close to his mum and they spoke almost every day. If you and your sons have a close relationship, it will absolutely continue through adulthood.

A family member of mine has 4 grown up sons. She's tripping over them in her own house with all the visits from them, DIL's and grandchildren.

Rubbish! I think that’s an ignorant, old fashioned view. Young men nowadays see as much of their families as women do - if they have a good relationship.
My sons girlfriend stays at our place every weekend they never go to hers as she doesn’t get on with her parents very well.

No one to go shopping with or talk to on the phone, limited access to grandchildren, won't ever see them at Christmas.

My MIL has just DSs including my DH - he phones her quite regularly, she sees the DCs as often as possible (we live long distance away), probably the same or more than my mum. I’ve been shopping with her quite a few times, if that counts for anything I only have DSs at the moment, we might still have a DD but if not I’m not worried.

Sons are bloody great! Not had a minute's trouble out of mine, I speak to him all the time (and we do go shopping/out for lunch). Tell them to bog off.

People do talk shit. Relationships between children and their parents are individual things, sweeping blanket statements such as 'a daughter is for life, a son until he has a wife' is total nonsense and inaccurate in my experience, I know plenty of men that are close to their mothers.

After DD2 I was asked if I would try for another child and when I said probably not I was met with 'Is that because you don't want to risk having a third girl?' Who the fuck thinks it's ok to say that to a new mother?!

So infuriating. My MIL keeps asking when we are going to try for a girl if we have another boy, before baby number 2 is even here. I don't want a girl. I want a boy.

I'll almost be cross if our last baby ends up being a girl as MIL will think she was right all along and we were just trying until we got a girl.

I have 4 sons all adult, I have 3 DIL's and they really are the daughters I never had, 2 of my Ds's still live at home with their partners, one of the couples is house hunting at the moment and they are insisting I go with them to view the properties.
I often feel that my sons involve me in their lives too much!
Funnily enough I never believed that I would ever have daughters, and I find it difficult to look after/deal with the small grand-daughters of friends!

Just ignore it op.
My mom is closer to my brother than all of us girls. There’s 5 of us girls and my brother is the only boy and he speaks to my mom every single day.

I don't go to my parents on christmas day - I stay home now we go to them either christmas eve or boxing day (usually boxing day)

My brother goes there every christmas day and then stays christmas night.

He and his girlfriend go there every Sunday for dinner, I go about every other week