To hate life with misophonia

[Harmony83]

For those who don't know, misophonia is a condition that literally means "hatred of sound"
It's not a made up condition, it's becoming more recognised and researched. However, there is no cure and little is known about the cause. For the record I'm not a snowflake, this is a condition that has plagued me since childhood and I have only recently discovered it has a name and I'm not the only one suffering!
To me, trigger sounds are
Slurping hot drinks
Flicking newspapers
Chewing noises
Clicking pens
And many more, I seem to develop a new trigger every couple of months. My immediate reaction is sheer rage, it makes me want to punch a wall and scream and cry ( for the record I'm only an angry person when triggered, usually I'm a happy funny girl! ) it can take hours to come down from being triggered and life can only be described as a living hell some days. It really is unbearable. Sometimes my only solution is to sit alone with ear plugs and my fingers shoved in my ears and my eyes shut until I calm down. Not ideal for a young mother with a professional job!
I'm becoming desperate as my relationship is suffering due to my ever increasing irritability with DH eating noises. I understand I must be a nightmare to live with.
My reason for posting is to see if any other sufferers have any tried and tested methods for easing the reactions? Please no abuse. I really just want help to overcome this and stop my kids from picking up on it.
I get abuse regularly from friends/family that don't understand and people that think it's funny to trigger me just to get a reaction.
Apparently Philip Schofield also suffers with this!

I feel your pain OP. I’ve had this for a number of years, triggered by my husbands snoring I think. Ear plugs, closing one ear on the side closest to the noise and breathing meditation are the things I’ve found the most helpful.
What I find the most difficult thing is going from zero to one hundred with absolute rage over certain noises and finding it very difficult to contain my raging irritation. I feel like I’m going mad sometimes. My family really don’t understand how difficult it is for me and I’ve been labelled as unreasonable and irrational.
Tiredness makes it 100 times worse so I try and make sure I get a decent nights sleep. Since my husband had given up drinking and lost weight this is far more doable these days.
It’s a real problem that most people dismiss as an undesirable personality trait.

I have it.
I know I am being weird and unreasonable but omg the rage.

I think I might need noise cancelling headphones...

Yabu for calling yourself a girl.
Assuming you have self diagnosed, get referred and sort yourself out.
I have hyperacusis. It's painful and really annoying that basically to keep on top of it I have to use will power (although Citalopram knocks it right off, I don't enjoy the side effects).

I would add that whistling, snoring (the big one!), eating, mouth breathing, biting cutlery when eating, background baseline thumping, and high pitched electrical noise (it’s never ceases to amaze me how many appliances emit a noise when not in use but plugged in!) are the worst triggers for me.
If people are eating in the same room I have to make sure I am eating at the same time to drown out the noise.

I have it too.
Pen clicking
Noisy eating
Ticking clocks

I also struggle with repetitive movements, like foot tapping.

Also my daughter clacks her teeth together even when eating soft food. How do you need to chomp a boiled egg so noisily?!

I suffer from it too - only realised it was an actual thing when I heard a programme about it on radio 2.
For me it’s what it I call ‘wet’ noises. Absolutely rage. Instantaneously.
I also think my eldest DS may be also starting to suffer, some of his reactions to certain noises are very familiar. No idea how to ‘treat’ it, I guess unless it gets to the point when in inhibits normal life, we just get on with it and deal with noise makers at the time.

my BF suffers with this. She had Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy privately and says it has been life changing in helping her change that visceral reaction to sounds

My trigger is sneezing. I want to punch the sneezer, it's the only time I feel any kind of aggressive feelings.

I also struggle with repetitive movements, like foot tapping.

Repetitive movements are a trigger for me also.

It's the pure rage that's frightening - in the moment I could happily throttle the perpetrator, I'm like David Banner turning green!

Then when I calm down I feel guilty lol. I always do my best to hide it but sometimes the rage is so overwhelming I have ended up screaming like a banshee. Not proud moments.

I too suffer with visual triggers, the latest is people's bare feet when walking and their toes spread. It's ridiculous isn't it?! How can I find this so offensive...
Also when people curl their lip to drink a hot drink, makes me want to smash it into their mouth. What a terrible reaction to have towards a defenceless little old lady just drinking her tea. I would love to live a live without this! It's horrible.
I think I might give EMDR a try and also the tapping. I used tapping for something else previously and got good results, I didn't think to try it with this.
Thanks for all the responses so far. Sorry that so many of you suffer, I don't know anyone else irl that does so it's comforting to know I'm not batshit crazy and making this up.
I'm constantly researching this and didn't realise it was recognised by the NHS, whoever pointed that out thank you! Definitely worth a visit to the GP if only to raise awareness and understanding?
Tiredness really does make this worse, my children are both under 3 so sleep isn't a guarantee in this house so really suffering at the moment.

It's miserable - for me and my partner. I also have ocd so he feels like I'm trying to control him when I'm really not I'm just trying to make my surroundings bearable.

I really feel for you. Eating, breathing, 'tinny' sounds like from phone speakers all send me into a rage and make me want to cry, scream and punch people.

Clocks and watches ticking make me feel physically ill. All background noise disturbs me but hearing muffled tv or voices from another room is my worst trigger. I spoke to an audiologist about it before and she recommended a white noise you can tolerate so it distracts from the offending noise. I’ve also heard of tapping as someone above suggested. I wear ear plugs at work and noise canceling headphones on public transport. I sleep with ear plugs in and I spend my life leaving the room when I can hear something. It’s really weird because i don’t ever tell anyone about it and worry someone will think I am mental .

Whistling and chewing chewing gum. Those are mine. I don't mind tapping providing it's rhythmic.
Annoyingly my boss (who sits opposite me) whistles, always chews gun with his mouth open, constantly taps and shakes his legs (making the whole desk shake).
Ive cried in the toilets on more than one occasion.
The violent rage is almost overpowering!

I don’t think I have this to the extent that the OP and many others have, but I’m getting that I can’t be in the room when DH is eating - the slurpy, clicky noise, sometimes with added crunch, does my head in. Also the banging and scraping of the cutlery against the crockery takes it to a whole new level!

More generally, tap-tap-tapping of one object against another can annoy me once I become aware of it and I’ve always preferred quieter places for going out rather than ones where you’re fighting against loud music.

I can’t imagine it being as bad as some of the folk on here seem to be coping with though.

My ds had this, couldn't bear to hear us eating!

I used to get it when df was eating porridge.

My daughter was diagnosed after an audiology referral. For her it's human sounds that drive her crazy, such as breathing (if someone has a cold and breathes heavily, it can drive her to distraction!), eating, drinking and snoring.
It's so very hard for her, and I'm proud for how well she manages it. It's no picnic for the rest of us, mind you

I avoid bring in room when dh having a hot drink or when eating cereal!
I don’t have it as badly as you but I get it.
I used to have tv on during mealtimes but try not to in the evening so we can talk (4 of us drowns our eating noises a bit).

Very interesting that some of you get impatient at dog noises! We have a snorty, snorey breed of dog, and my daughter couldn't care less. It helps that she adores him, and dogs in general Definitely only 'human' noises that get to her.
She was also diagnosed with autism, and I think those on the spectrum often have an overdeveloped sense. For her it's definitely hearing.

I like silence but don't have a condition. May be get CBT if it is stopping you enjoying life.

I can't be around people who are eating unless I eat too. Part of my dashboard rattles and I am so close to just driving into a tree to escape it. I want to cry and scream and turn inside out all at the same time. The radio has to be turned up to cover it.

I was on the tube for 38 minutes yesterday and the guy opposite was jiggling his leg incessantly and the coins in her pocket were jangling. The motion and noise were intolerable. I had to close my eyes and deep breathe whilst making my own ears "pound" (does anybody know what I mean?!) to try and drown it out.

Omg! I thought it was just me ..noisy eaters, foot tappers and even the dog drinking lots of water eeek! It doesn't help that my DP is a repetitive person. I thought it was just me being a night worker/ Carer but as I'm getting older I have become more noise sensitive people smacking/ showing chewing gum too yuk! and tapping of hands/feet. Plus a noise of a radio not quite tuned on the station. Makes me want to kill. Then there's the constant tapping on a laptop/pc keyboard drove me mad when I used to do my care sheets ( written) in a back office.

I've had it for as long as I can remember. I'm normally friendly and chatty, then somebody smacks their lips when eating or chomps on crisps and I could cry with rage and feel like I could violently murder them. I'd love for everyone to just be able to eat like a fucking civilised human being OR to find a cure... neither looks likely

Soothing music on during meal times is really helpful. White noise is also good.