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for wanting to pluck my daughter's eyebrows?

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imageiseverything · 06/08/2007 17:55

my dd is 10, she has really bushy eyebrow's (think noel gallagher like) and i think she's gettin picked on for it. should i pluck or wax them?

thanks

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longdiling · 10/11/2016 12:13

This thread is 9 years old. I expect the kid in question is sorting her own eyebrows out by now...

Twogoats · 10/11/2016 12:15

Cara Devilenge (super model) has bushy eyebrows...

longdiling · 10/11/2016 12:18

Seriously, 9 years old! Cara was probably still in school when this was originally posted.

Mummyoftwo91 · 10/11/2016 12:24

My daughter has very dark bushy beautiful full brows that are bound to meet in the middle eventually, i constantly have people asking me when I'm going to wax or pluck my daughters eyebrows or get rid of her 'mono brow'. She's not even 2 I wish people would leave her alone I would kill for her brows, I have to draw mine on every day to look semi human

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 10/11/2016 12:29

I agree with RiverTam, imageiseverything - and I think you should be encouraging your dd to focus on the things that interest her, not worrying about her appearance.

Contrary to your user name, image is NOT everything. I would say that confidence is everything, and you should be encouraging your dd to be confident AS SHE IS, not telling her that she has to conform to a particular stereotype or image in order to be accepted or popular.

The solution to bullying is not for the victim to change - it is not their fault they are being bullied, it is the fault of the bully or bullies. And it is worth remembering that bullies look for weakness, so they can exploit their power. If your dd were to be bullied about her eyebrows, and you plucked them for her, the bullies would find something else to bully her for - because it is NOT about the eyebrows (and it wasn't about you being a geek, when you were younger) - it is about their insecurities, and their desire to hurt someone.

Teach your dd that she is gorgeous, brilliant and wonderful just as she is. Give her confidence in herself, and enable her to stand up to any bullying.

It would be far better that she should be able to show the bullies that she is happy as she is, and doesn't need to kowtow to them or their demands than to tell her it is her responsibility to change, in order not to be victimised.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 10/11/2016 12:30

Oh fuck - I didn't realise this was a zombie thread.

longdiling · 10/11/2016 12:30

I officially give up. Does nobody read a thread properly any more?!

NavyandWhite · 10/11/2016 12:34

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 10/11/2016 12:43

I do read threads properly, longdiling - but I don't read all the posting dates. Do you make careful note of the dates of every thread you read?

NavyandWhite · 10/11/2016 12:45

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longdiling · 10/11/2016 12:50

Yes, I do make careful note. I have a spreadsheet. Seriously though, I don't ever just read the first post, especially not when it's a thread that has a couple of pages to it. I read the first few posts, then skip to the last and if I am moved enough to post then I'll read the bits in between. Otherwise you end up with threads like the classic 'cancel the cheque' one.

PlumsGalore · 10/11/2016 12:53

My DD was the same, she started commenting on them at high school. We went past a threading stand in the shopping centre when she was 12, before threading was really known and I suggested us both having a go. She leapt at the chance and neither of us have looked back since.

She did open the conversation though, I wouldn't have considered it otherwise.

PlumsGalore · 10/11/2016 12:54

ha ha - guilty of the above, if a thread comes alive I post. I don't check dates.

OurBlanche · 10/11/2016 12:55

Wait! You say your DD hasn't said anything and that she isn't really all that into appearances... yet you are having worries based on how you feel about her appearance.

Have a think about it. Your posts are quite conflicted, so I suspect you are just having a dither... don't. She'll be fine with you giving her the room to make her own decisions. Smile

Manumission · 10/11/2016 12:57

Gosh look at all the usernames of yore.

OurBlanche · 10/11/2016 12:57

Bollocks!

I really must get into the habit of checking dates Blush Grin

NavyandWhite · 10/11/2016 12:57

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Manumission · 10/11/2016 12:57

The DD IS 19 or 20 by now folks Grin

TheNameIsBarbara · 10/11/2016 13:03

The DD is probably Cara Devilenge! Who decided to rebel against her mother and has now made bushy eyebrows the new in trend....

Ricekrispiesquare · 10/11/2016 13:03

Ah it's a toughie.

I had a full blown monobrow and moustache (as well as goofy teeth and massive feet) when I was that age and really picked on about it but my mum wouldn't let me do anything about the facial hair and I really really wished she would have Sad

I started secondary school still with a monobrow and moustache and got picked on really bloody badly and have always felt since then that if I ever had a daughter who had a fair amount of facial hair then I would asked her if she would like it sorted before she starts secondary school.

I wouldn't go for a full blown eyebrow shape but just a tidy up and middle part waxed off, as well as moustache if she felt she needed it done.

Also FWIW from my own experience, leaving me a hairy kid did absolutely nothing to help boost my self esteem or teach me any life lesson. I just went through years of teasing and self consciousness.

ItShouldHaveBeenJess · 10/11/2016 13:05

ZOMBIE THREAD ALERT!!!

Allthewaves · 10/11/2016 13:07

I was teased horribly the first yr of secondary school for facial hair. If i had a daughter I'd be taking her just before she starts secondary school

Ricekrispiesquare · 10/11/2016 13:08

Ah a zombie

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amusedbush · 10/11/2016 13:11

Urgh, another zombie! Do people not check dates before they resurrect a thread??

Purplebluebird · 10/11/2016 15:25

I love my waxed eyebrows (it doesn't hurt that much!) but 10 is way too young if she's not insisting on it herself. Waxing is a lot less pain than plucking though.

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