Hiya,
Up late fuming so thought I'd get some opinions 😂
I'm currently 18weeks pregnant. I cleared out my wardrobe a couple of weeks ago, and there were lots of party dresses and outfits I couldn't see myself wearing again. All the items were in the £40-£100 range. I have three younger sisters, 18, 16 and 14. They beg me for clothes, so when I clear out they have always had "first dibs" before I sell/charity shop clothing.
Anyway, as this stuff was all a bit more expensive, I took a black bag over to my parents house for said 18yo. I said she could pick what she wanted, but if there's anything she didn't want to please return it, as they have a reasonable value and I could sell on to buy some baby bits! My partner left me when I was 6 weeks so money is tight, and I explained it would help so to let me know. She agreed and was very excited at a big bag of new stuff!
I followed up a week later, and asked if there were any bits left over. She said no, because all the bits she didn't want she had passed to other sisters, which was great.
Anyway, I see on her Depop profile (selling app, bit like eBay) tonight that she is selling some of the clothes! One of the tops she wore once to dinner, and then put it up for sale the same evening, the rest is all unworn.
I'm really hormonal, so I feel awful, but I do feel quite used? And I'm disappointed as I feel like she's used the opportunity for personal gain instead of doing as I asked. The resale value of the stuff I gave her was probably £500-£600 which would have really helped in my situation. I really thought she would return the bits she didn't want instead of hiding it so she could sell them herself.
What would you do? Should I just avoid giving her anything in future? Am I being a megabitch? I really don't want a confrontation but I do feel sad about it :(