I've name changed for this because some details are quite outing. Just for a bit of background-
When I was pregnant, I set up a Facebook group for other pregnant mums due the same month as me. There are just over 90 members! Our babies are all toddlers now so most of us know each other fairly well and a few members have even had meet ups etc which is lovely. It's a great group and in the 2 years it's been running, there's not been a single argument or bad word against any member at all.
Back in May, one member had an accident which needed a hospital stay and surgeries etc. Someone came up with the idea of having a whip round and sending her a gift to show her we were thinking of her. A lot of people contributed and she was overjoyed with her gift.
At the end of May, a close family member of mine was in a very bad accident, it was very touch and go for weeks, they nearly died at one point, we were called to the hospital to be told it was very likely. The day after the accident I cut a parent out of my life (long story) the next day I was told my grandparent had a few weeks to live. So I was upset about my parent and grandparent, spending every minute I could at the hospital with broken family member as well as juggling my homelife. Basically the whole of June was absolute hell for me, it was a horrible stressful time.
I was posting about all of this in my mums group on FB and they were fairly supportive, said nice things like they were thinking of me and they hoped my family member would pull through (they finally just got out of hospital last week!).
Sometime in June a different group member lost a close relative so another collection and gift was organised. She was touched and very grateful.
In July my grandparent passed away. And a group member had a health scare so we had a collection for her. She was delighted and happily, her health scare turned out to be nothing sinister which of course is wonderful news.
Now another member is ill, which is awful, and the group are organising yet another collection.
I just can't help but feel really hurt that they did nothing for me. I'm not greedy, or grabby, I certainly didn't expect anything. But with all these different collections going on, and I was passed by when I was going through hell, it just feels really hurtful and I want to say something to them. But at the same time I don't want to say anything for fear of coming across as grabby and entitled.
AIBU to feel hurt? Would you feel hurt?