Aibu on flight

[perroy]

I was on an plane today. Family of four were travelling. One child with father in the seat in front of me and mother with another child in the seat behind me. Children were shouting, beeping a fictitious horn, making motor noises all through the flight. The parents were tickling them and making them squeal with laughter. It was a plane full of children and this family was noisy throughout the flight. All the other children had settled down in some time.

After the fifth time the child with the mother had got up on his seat and squealed in my ear I turned around and said SSSh quiet to the child.

The mother used profanities, showed me the finger and told me her child was only two.

Was I wrong to address the child when the parents were not taking any efforts to settle the children?

Would you mind if you were, for example, talking and someone said “SHHHHH” to you?

If I stood on my seat and bellowed in to their ear I'd probably consider myself grateful to only be shushed.

Granted, this is just a wee one we're talking but if we're always saying "it takes a village" it seems fair to remember that sometimes people in that village will shout at you to put a cork in it.

Lesson. Be more compassionate. It's a short flight and you were in a public space.

That's what the parents of the squealy kids should have been thinking

a stranger telling u to shh could cause negative effect
Possibly the worst drivel I’ve read on here!
For all those saying OP was U, you probably think your brats screaming and running about coffee shops are cute so why not on a flight? The mother was encouraging the noise not employing her ‘mummy skills’ at all and her disgusting reaction says it all; no thought for anyone but herself and her noisy brats.

YANBU. Fucking parents these days.

Well bloody obviously you were, because the child is two?! Your complaint is with the adults, clearly. What the hell were you thinking?

Would you mind if you were, for example, talking and someone said “SHHHHH” to you?

The child wasn't 'talking' they were screaming so how is that even comparable?

Ffs YWBU!

If someone spoke to my child like that they would be getting told not to.

Fair enough the parents weren't bothered and that's annoying but you shouldn't be speaking to other peoples children like this.

Omg this would’ve made me see red. Nothing worse than parents who encourage their kids to make as much as possible with absolutely no regard for others. It’s an ‘I’m alright, Jack’ attitude.
YANBU at all. The mother sounds vile as well.

And ffs you only said ‘shhhh’ to the child!!! You didn’t have a go at them!

YWBVVVU.

You have no right to speak to another person's child. You have no idea if that child has special needs and would have had a meltdown if the parents didn't try to distract. What they were doing may have been their way of keeping their child as calm as possible. To scold a stranger's child, especially a toddler, is batshit.

Yes normal people try and keep their kids quiet and sad bastards who can't tolerate toddler/child noise should stay at home.
And fwiw shush my child and you won't know what's hit you

You have no right to speak to another person's child.

WTAF??!! Are you on glue?

You have no right to speak to another person's child. You have no idea if that child has special needs and would have had a meltdown if the parents didn't try to distract. What they were doing may have been their way of keeping their child as calm as possible. To scold a stranger's child, especially a toddler, is batshit

Maybe if the parents had been encouraging inside voices, the incident wouldn’t have happened and the OP wouldn’t have had to tell the child to hush. Why shouldn’t she have said ‘shhh’ when the parents were doing nothing to prevent them disrupting other people around them?
Should we tiptoe around telling kids/parents just on the off chance they may happen to have special needs? It’s so pathetic and precious this attitude that children and their parents can do no wrong and the rest of us have to just suck it up. Where’s your concern for the OP who was given abuse in return for a simple ‘shhhh’?! Disgusting. Grow up.

What’s with all this ‘shush my child and I’ll kill you’ attitude?

Budget airline (guessing this as family were not seated together), summer holidays, its par for the course.

I seeth and judge when kids are loud and unruly on planes, but I'd never say anything it's really not worth it.

PMSL at Mumsy

since when has it been unacceptable to ‘ssshh’ someone else’s child??? If your children are bothering other passengers on a flight then they should be admonished. Whilst most folk would understand a modicum of distress, they would be very annoyed at willful encouragement of unacceptable behaviour. A number of folk find flying distressing enough. To have errant brats tootling a horn in your ear or squealing is possibly unbearable.
No you were not wrong, I’d have called a member of cabin crew and referred the matter to them.
( memories of screaming brat , who refused to be strapped in, whose parents said” he hates being strapped in” as the plane was taxiing for take off; squealed with delight and walked down the aisle as we were about to take of! Cabin crew had to unbuckle themselves twice during taxiing , parents told them to leave off!!! ) ... very close to the flight being cancelled but child was eventually persuaded to sit on a lap ( illegally!)

And fwiw shush my child and you won't know what's hit you
Chill out nutcase. It’s not the end of the world. Talk about melodramatic. No wonder children aren’t disciplined these days- because of daft parents like you who think their precious darling brats run the world and we should all put up with it. Get a grip, it’s just a ‘ssshh’

My god. Honestly, I wonder why there are so many inconsiderate adults around who don't give a toss about how they affect others around them - and then I come on a thread like this and see parents reacting with furious indignation to the idea that someone might not like their child screaming repeatedly in someone's ear - and it all makes sense.

Sure, giving someone the finger for asking for a little consideration and doing what the the parents should have been doing all along is completely fine. Presumably you are all the people who think it's fine for their child to kick the person in front of them for hours, no matter if it might actually be hurting them.

Awful parents. Unacceptable behaviour from them.

Bloody hell, I grew up expecting to be told off by random adults if I did wrong, it's what made me an exceptionally well behaved child!