Am I too old/is this fair?

[Sundancer77]

Dp and I are both 41 and have a 13 month old Dd. We first tried to start a family at age 31, cue years of infertility, miscarriages, an emergency ectopic and ivf treatment.
Our last ivf cycle at age 39 worked and we had our miracle girl at age 40 💜
We have one frozen embryo left which we have to use until November 2020.
Likelihood is it wouldn’t work..but, would you try? If we did try, it would have to be fairly quickly.
My issues are..are we too old? The embryo is frozen from age 39, so not in than respect, physically I feel ok, but in terms of the possible child being only in their twenties when we are in our 60’s.
It would also be a fairly small age gap between the kids and i’m aware a lot more work.
In lots of ways I feel sad to not try the possibility of giving Dd a sibling and the thought of her being alone in the world upsets me 😢 but would it be selfish or a good thing to do?
What would you do?

@Sundancer77

Ooops posted too soon sorry!

I am normally against the idea of having babies over the age of 42-43, but as your lovely little girl is so young, I would say go for it - and soon! An age gap of around 2 years is fab!

60 is a wee bit old (IMO) to have late teens children, but it's not ancient! A few people have said that siblings do not always get on, but sometimes they do! And they are not going to have a CHANCE at getting if the second one doesn't exist. So take these comments with a pinch of salt.

Go for it!

Do it 😊

The giving your child a sibling argument is not grounded in logic. There is nothing to say they will get on or want anything to do with each other when they’re older. Not having a sibling doesn’t mean she’ll be alone in the world either.