To contact half sister I found through Ancestry

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So I recently took an Ancestry DNA and a half sister came up as a match. I have never had contact with my dad and never wanted to look for him but finding a sibling has taken be by surprise. I don't know what to do. What would you do?

Ok I have similar issues in my own family so I guess I was looking for some hope for you all.
Being ignore is so hurtful. Sorry

Why don't you message saying you don't know what to say? Ask if he wants to meet?

I really feel for you and I know it's hard. But...... I think you need to tell them that you would like to speak or meet your father directly. If you do. And there is no pressure to continue the relationship after one meeting.

At the moment , things may fizzle out. And that is okay too. But you are hoping your dad himself may contact you. But you haven't told him that. You need to speak up fast or you may regret it in future looking back. Be brave, find your voice and state what YOU want.

You are right. Nothing stopping me I guess just fear. Funny because I alway advise friends not to expect that people will know what you want unless you say it.

I am not ready to be that brave yet. Plus he lives in another country anyway and I can't jump on a plane ATM anyway.

Thank you all for you comments.

Exactly. You cant expect your father to guess that it is him you are waiting for. Unless you say it straight out. In fairness, you probably didnt realise yourself and it is just becoming clear now. You reached out, they generously communicated back, you are realising that you would like direct contact with your father but you are being too passive. It's hard though. Well done on coming this far.