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To ask the nursery if they say this.

134 replies

Dylaninthemovies1 · 20/08/2019 20:12

DS (3) has recently started shouting “oh my god” when he’s excited.

I’m sure this isn’t something I say: and my husband definitely doesn’t say it.

My mum is very religious and we live near a lot of religious people, so I don’t really want him using this phrase. Growing up my mum would have went mental if I used this phrase. She would have rather I swore instead of blaspheming (she doesn’t like swearing either)

DH was going to Ask the nursery if it’s something he could have possibly picked up there. But would we be “those” parents?

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FrancesFlute · 21/08/2019 08:50

Prob the other kids. Very unlikely to be staff but perhaps mention (no blame) and ask them to gently correct if they hear him.

PhilCornwall1 · 21/08/2019 09:01

If you are worried about him saying OMG at this age, just wait for the fun and games as he gets older.

If you keep correcting, he's going to keep saying it. I am sure your mother and the religious people around you have heard other children say it. He's only young, if they are offended (everyone is these days and sometimes even on behalf of others), they need to get over themselves.

I really wouldn't worry about it at all. I can remember my eldest coming home from primary school and proudly announcing that the teacher had been talking about dildos in class today. After dying on the spot laughing it turns out she was talking about dodo's.

AndNoneForGretchenWieners · 21/08/2019 09:04

Could be worse. Could be "Christ on a bike" or "Jesus Christ" like my DS as a small child. He grew up in an atheist family, blasphemed with impunity and still caught religion himself at the age of 12, took himself off to the vicarage for bible study and arranged his baptism.

SmartPlay · 21/08/2019 09:05

"Why isn’t it okay for my child to tell Their school class that Santa isn’t real then?"

Your question implies that I've said that's not okay, which I haven't.

BizzzzyBee · 21/08/2019 09:07

I couldn’t get worked up about this. I’m a staunch atheist and I still say OMG occasionally. It’s just a meaningless phrase.

whattodowith · 21/08/2019 09:09

Does he ever watch YouTube? It’s pretty rampant on there and I’d guess that’s where many children pick it up.

SeaSaltandLime · 21/08/2019 09:11

@FiveLittlePigs You could've followed cunt with 'Yes, you can darling!'

CassianAndor · 21/08/2019 09:15

BizzzzyBee well, of course it's meaningless to you - you're an atheist. What a weird comment.

There is a kid at DD's school who has parents who fall into the YABU, mountain out of a molehill camp. Their little darling taught all the children in Year 2 all the swear words, including the 'n' word. In a school with a substantial black population.

But hey, doesn't matter, amirite??

MonsterKidz · 21/08/2019 09:18

Explain that it is disrespectful to God and you’d rather be say ..........

He’ll get it eventually, he just needs reminding.

Teach, remind, repeat.

Just like anything else you will teach him. He may still use it as he’s s
learning but he’ll get there

Aria2015 · 21/08/2019 09:31

I’m learning not to make a big deal out of stuff my lo says that I don't like because he then says it more!

He too picked up ’oh my god’ but from an inlaw. Every time he said it, i’d get excited too and mirror him but just tweak what he’d said to ’oh my gosh...’ Soon he was saying ’oh my gosh’ instead as he was copying me back.

Thing is, even if you identify the ’source’ it won't change the fact he's picked it up. I'd focus your efforts of repeating a better alternative and hope he picks that up instead.

KUGA · 21/08/2019 09:45

I hear OMG on a daily basis.
And from all ages.
It`s only blasphemy if your religious.

AnnaBegins · 21/08/2019 09:57

We had this with my DS, told him he'd got it wrong and it's oh my gosh, he believed us Grin he'd picked it up from his cousins.

CaptainMyCaptain · 21/08/2019 09:59

We ”cured” my dd of saying ”fuck” by giving her a fork every single time she said it. And asking why she needed it. That's fine until she has to actually ask for a fork - at school or in a restaurant. Wink

The children in my Reception class regularly wrote 'cunt' in their work. It's how they say 'couldn't' round here.

awsomeDean · 21/08/2019 10:04

To those of you saying the op is over reacting- it's her child, she has a religious background which makes this term unacceptable to her.

We corrected oh my God to Gosh.
I run Scouts at a church group and we have always corrected the kids on this oh my days or gosh are fine.

Yes they hear worse but that doesn't mean you don't correct phrases or words you don't want them using g

cjt110 · 21/08/2019 10:57

We say Oh my god at home but note that DS school have been teaching the child "Oh my" and "Oh my goodness" as it is a CofE school. We aren't religious but I respect what they are doing and am reinforcing the same at home.

Cyrusc · 21/08/2019 11:16

maybe being offended by this is a British thing?

I think you're right Puff it is a peculiarly british affliction to be offended by everything, I found it so tiresome when I lived there. I remember well my first day at an English university, we spend the first "tutorial" being schooled in this nonsense. They handed out random lists of words and we were told to circle all the words which may be considered offensive, followed by a lengthy discussion about how we should remove said words from our vocabulary. I wish I still had that list as so many of the words were completely innocuous it was so daft, but that exercise set the tone for the next three years - I was glad to escape the reaches of those oh so "enlightened" walls!

CassianAndor · 21/08/2019 11:46

Cyrusc why are you comparing what happens at university with a very young child at nursery?

BarrenFieldofFucks · 21/08/2019 11:50

I don't think you are being ridiculous at all, and as for those saying all the kids they know do, their 7 yr olds say worse etc...that is very unusual to my mind! I would pick up my 9 year old if she said anything stronger than her/our usual 'oh my gosh' or 'oh goodness'.

Fl0rence1985 · 21/08/2019 12:59

I was on a train a few years ago, the announcement said, 'This train is for Kings Lynn' My dd, who was about 3 looked at the man sitting opposite, rolled her eyes and said 'fucking Lynn'

fotocayo · 21/08/2019 22:11

@Helendee
I guess it’s deemed ok to be cool about kids using language that might offend Christians but how about if it were a different religion, is that also acceptable?

You realise most other religions have gods too, right?

iklboo · 21/08/2019 22:23

You realise 'oh my god' might not refer to your Christian god? Emphasis on my.

Helendee · 21/08/2019 22:39

Fotocayo

Well obviously! That’s the whole point!

Helendee · 21/08/2019 22:42

Pedantry.
If a nursery allowed a child to use words they were deemed blasphemous to Allah or the Buddha for example would that be ok?

Angelf1sh · 21/08/2019 22:46

Allah is the same God as the Christian one, isn’t he? So that’s the same thing. And Buddha definitely isn’t a god at all so you can’t blaspheme him.

fotocayo · 21/08/2019 23:23

Right, so og my god could mean any god, not just the Christian one. I say it all the time and I don't even believe in god.