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To ask the nursery if they say this.

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Dylaninthemovies1 · 20/08/2019 20:12

DS (3) has recently started shouting “oh my god” when he’s excited.

I’m sure this isn’t something I say: and my husband definitely doesn’t say it.

My mum is very religious and we live near a lot of religious people, so I don’t really want him using this phrase. Growing up my mum would have went mental if I used this phrase. She would have rather I swore instead of blaspheming (she doesn’t like swearing either)

DH was going to Ask the nursery if it’s something he could have possibly picked up there. But would we be “those” parents?

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SmartPlay · 20/08/2019 21:17

I think people who are offended by something like this, simply because of the fairy tales they choose to consider reality, should just suck it up.

I find it absolutely ridiculous to prohibit my child from saying something completely harmless, simply because of some religious believes.

quizqueen · 20/08/2019 21:17

Ask the nursery if the staff say it and then you can express your displeasure. I stopped a member of staff at the nursery where I work saying, 'Blimey', which is a derivative of God Blind Me.

hmwhatsmynameagain · 20/08/2019 21:24

Is it a church officiated group?
My pre- schooler came home saying 'oh my god' but it was the first part of their prayer ' oh my god, you see me...... can't remember the rest but was all good xx

pancaketits · 20/08/2019 21:25

OP, I'd be far more concerned that in a few years thanks to phonics, he'll be confidently sounding out words and phrases, including those written on the side of phone boxes.

"Mum, what does fuck her in the pussy mean?" whilst meandering through the suburbs is what you really need to watch out for Grin

tmh88 · 20/08/2019 21:33

DS is 21 months and says “oh god” I like to say it must be nursery but I’m not sure if it’s me Blush

Hollanda40 · 20/08/2019 21:33

@pancaketits DS still does that. At 7. I just explain some people aren’t very nice and use foul language for no reason. I don’t let him get as far as reading the swear words, I give him The Look.

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Dylaninthemovies1 · 20/08/2019 21:35

I hadn’t even realised “went mental” was so offensive (I have MH issues myself). So thanks for pointing that out, and I won’t use that phrase again

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Dylaninthemovies1 · 20/08/2019 21:36

@SmartPlay. Because you don’t believe in God, doesn’t mean it religion is a “fairy tale”

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SmartPlay · 20/08/2019 21:37

"Because you don’t believe in God, doesn’t mean it religion is a “fairy tale”"

True. It would be a fariy tale, even if I believed in god. :)

SarahAndQuack · 20/08/2019 21:44

That's a really polite reply but I admit, I'm gobsmacked you didn't know that was (very) offensive.

@smartplay, a fairy tale is a different order of narrative from the Bible, FWIW. Doesn't matter, but makes you sound a bit dim rather than incisively anti-religion, which I suspect was what you were going for.

Itsreallymehonest · 20/08/2019 21:48

I wouldn't have let my children say "oh my God" etc either right up to the end of primary school, so you should mention it to nursery. For context though my DC attend faith schools, so the teachers would have considered it swearing. Once there are at high school however its quite frankly a free for all Grin

SmartPlay · 20/08/2019 21:50

"a fairy tale is a different order of narrative from the Bible, FWIW. Doesn't matter, but makes you sound a bit dim rather than incisively anti-religion, which I suspect was what you were going for."

I thought it was pretty clear what I was going for, which is, that it's quite preposterous to demand other people adjust their behaviour to fit someone's personal believe, which is not based on any evidence.

It would be equally ridiculous to demand noone uses anything made of wood in my presence, because it upsets me, as I believe it hurts the Ents.

Damntheman · 20/08/2019 22:12

When my son was 4 a car cut me up while I was driving and he yelled from the back seat "Jesus fucking CHRIST!!"

Sadly I'm the only native English speaker he is around on a regular basis so there was nobody else to blame..

I ignored it every time he did it and I haven't heard him swear in well over a year now (he's just 6)

SarahAndQuack · 20/08/2019 22:16

Yes, I knew what you were going for. I didn't say I was confused - I pointed out that you sounded rather silly and ignorant. I know we all go through stages where we're raring to show everyone how special and different and daring we are, but past the age of 15, it doesn't make you look big and clever.

If you don't like religion, just say so.

If you enjoy saying 'oh my God' or whatever (and I do), just say it. No one is going to lock you up, even if some of them tut under their breath.

It's really not as big a deal as you might think.

SarahAndQuack · 20/08/2019 22:16

Grin @Damntheman, your name feels very appropriate to this thread!

HandmaidJune · 20/08/2019 22:18

I heard Sid James from the carry on films call someone a bastard when I was 4. This became my favourite word for about 18 months (school was a bastard and so were the teachers!!) so I can hardly reprimand my ds (7) for telling the shop assistant in Sainsbury's that their freezers are too bloody cold !!!

PuffHuffle5 · 20/08/2019 22:22

My family are very religious too, but say it - they’re from a different country though, maybe being offended by this is a British thing? (I find being offended by words, especially swear words - I mean there’s warnings/apologies on the tv and everything, as though someone could get hurt by them! - or being offended by random things in general is a very British thing anyway tbh).

Oatgroat · 20/08/2019 22:41

@FiveLittlePigs

I have no idea what we would have done had she uttered ”cunt”

Given her a raisin and said, "Here's your currant, poppet"?

iklboo · 20/08/2019 22:48

I stopped a member of staff at the nursery where I work saying, 'Blimey', which is a derivative of God Blind Me.

Sorry but that's completely OTT.

Yabbers · 20/08/2019 22:50

Also from a religious family, all I did was correct to OH MY GOSH every time. It sinks in eventually

That’s what we did. We explained the phrase could hurt people’s feelings and just corrected her when she used it. Soon wore off.

She learned it from MIL

DD came home from nursery and uttered a phrase used sometimes in the local area. It’s quite a stereotypical phrase and no one I’m fond of. I did mention it in a lighthearted way when I dropped her off the next day, and asked who was the one who used it. Everyone in the room chimed in unison “Amanda!” and we had a laugh about it. She said she hadn’t realised she did it and would stop. Nobody suggested I was “that” parent.

BananasAreTheSourceOfEvil · 20/08/2019 23:21

My youngest struggled with pronouncing 'st' until a couple of years ago, it came out as 'd'.

Playing fetch on the beach with the dog was hilarious.

dollydaydream114 · 20/08/2019 23:35

I stopped a member of staff at the nursery where I work saying, 'Blimey', which is a derivative of God Blind Me

I realise it must be hard for you being a time traveller from 1600s Puritan England, but get a bloody* grip.

*Yes, I know that’s either a derivative from By Our Lady or a reference to the blood of Christ. No need to step in.

JazzyGG · 20/08/2019 23:38

Tell him it's "oh my gosh" worked for me.

TitianaTitsling · 20/08/2019 23:44

I stopped a member of staff at the nursery where I work saying, 'Blimey', which is a derivative of God Blind Me. Lawksadaisy I hope you had the horrific chattel struck out for her employ for affecting your poor ears!

TitianaTitsling · 20/08/2019 23:46

-of her employ, clearly am too shocked to type coherently!

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