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To ask the nursery if they say this.

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Dylaninthemovies1 · 20/08/2019 20:12

DS (3) has recently started shouting “oh my god” when he’s excited.

I’m sure this isn’t something I say: and my husband definitely doesn’t say it.

My mum is very religious and we live near a lot of religious people, so I don’t really want him using this phrase. Growing up my mum would have went mental if I used this phrase. She would have rather I swore instead of blaspheming (she doesn’t like swearing either)

DH was going to Ask the nursery if it’s something he could have possibly picked up there. But would we be “those” parents?

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Talkwhilstyouwalk · 20/08/2019 20:30

My daughter says it, I probably do occasionally. I just ignored it and have tried to say "oh my goodness" instead, she seems to like that more now. Incidentally she has said worse....not a regular occurrence but cringe!!

WhenPushComesToShove · 20/08/2019 20:31

Sweenytoddsrazor - I'm crying here!!

Hollanda40 · 20/08/2019 20:33

Amusing one.

DS was 18 months old and parroting words. DHe and I used to frequent a pub (food serving and plenty of people with children went) where the Australian guys running it used to swear a lot. Because we sat outside with DS (summer), we rarely heard this until one Saturday afternoon. The "c" word was prominent and DS just stared at them. DH and I left at that point.

Anyhow next morning we took DS to church. In the really quiet bit before the priest came in you could suddenly hear a tiny voice shout "c**t!!"

I had to leave the church with DS due to my uncontrolled laughter at all the old biddies staring at us.

Dyrne · 20/08/2019 20:34

Slightly more helpfully; it’s probably easier to correct him to “Oh my gosh!” - if you emphasise the Goshhhhh part and make it silly it’ll probably amuse him and make him want to say it.

I doubt it’s something he’s picked up from the nursery workers themselves, more likely to be the children.

wendz86 · 20/08/2019 20:36

I'm not a fan of it although i am not religious. I have taught my dd's to say oh my gosh which they remember most the time.

NameChangerOfTheNorth · 20/08/2019 20:41

Better than when my dc aged 2.5/3 knocked something off a shelf in Tesco and loudly shouted "FOR FUCKS SAKE". The whole store must have heard it. Two younger teenagers were in stitches, so at least someone was amused!

NameChangerOfTheNorth · 20/08/2019 20:42

Hollanda40- I am howling!

HJWT · 20/08/2019 20:42

@Dylaninthemovies1 respond with Oh My GOSH what?

I say Oh my god around DD but Gosh more and she only says Oh my gosh!

sweeneytoddsrazor · 20/08/2019 20:42

Kids will always let you down and come out with the most embarrassing things. They have an unfailing ability to say totally the most embarrassing thing at totally the most embarrassing time. And of course we as parents want to curl up and hide in shame but most other parents find it absolutely hilarious.

MamaBee3 · 20/08/2019 20:46

My kids tell me off for saying it, they both go to a CofE school so it’s a big no no. They correct me every time with “oh my goodness” .

messolini9 · 20/08/2019 20:47

A step-nephew, aged about 4 iirc, got fixated on crying out "Sexy!" at random & often inopportune moments.

He had no clue what it meant, only that it got a reaction.
He learned that it was a naughty word, & not to be said, but because he kept getting attention from his older siblings for it ... obvs he kept doing it.

He had a veeery slight lisp & it was awful cute in a way.
In other ways, not so at all.
So as soon as his older siblings had been 're-trained' not to respond, we adults just turned away from him & carried on our boring business* every time he said it. He stopped fairly sharpish.

(*AKA hid in garden shed to release immoderate torrents of laughter)

sweeneytoddsrazor · 20/08/2019 20:47

Same child that was on the ride at playgroup - we were on holiday on a beach with no public toilets. Said child needed a wee so I had told him he would need to go in the sea. Went to walk down with him meaning for him to sit in the shallow water but oh no before I could explain trunks were down and he was stood there proudly peeing away for everyine to see.

messolini9 · 20/08/2019 20:49

If it’s the blasphemy you object to; then try gently correcting him to say “well fuck me sideways!” Instead of “Oh My God”...
Grin grin] Grin grin] Grin grin]

cheers @Dyrne i just spilled me wine.

Greyhound22 · 20/08/2019 20:49

Just keep saying 'oh my gosh!' it does work but you just all end up sounding like something from an Enid Blyton novel.

We have the same with DS - I don't like it either OP.

NeverSayFreelance · 20/08/2019 20:50

@Dyrne I just spat Mueller yoghurt across the room laughing at that, Jesus wept.

OP, just use the classic if you do [X], Santa will put you on the naughty list. Works every time.

Cyrusc · 20/08/2019 20:53

Where do you people live that this is considered offensive?!

I'm genuinely amazed that so many are opposed to a phrase that is so common place. I grew up in a devout country which maintains draconian blasphony laws to this day and yet I can't think of a single person I know who would bat an eyelid at "oh my god".

Don't do it OP, unless I'm missing something, the nursery workers will definitely think you're "that" parent.

TheTrollFairy · 20/08/2019 20:53

My DD (also 3) has also been saying this a lot recently and I don’t think we say. Maybe it’s a toddler thing?

Hollanda40 · 20/08/2019 20:53

DD is 2.5. She can’t say “clock”, so the big clock on our city shopping centre is a “biiig cock, a hoooooge cock, look...big cock, Mummy!!!” I’ve given up being embarrassed now.

She also says “fuck” when she wants a fork, which I quietly explained with a deadpan expression at Butlins when we were eating out.

She also says “shit” instead of sit.

All these are being filed away for their wedding speeches.....!!

A sense of humour with children is essential!!!

Cyrusc · 20/08/2019 20:55

Blasphemy*

SanJuniperokelly · 20/08/2019 20:55

I also mist be missing something Confused

Are you in a different country?

twofingerstoEverything · 20/08/2019 20:57

OP, IMO saying 'would have went (sic) mental' is way more offensive than saying 'oh my god.'

Dandelion1993 · 20/08/2019 20:59

It's a phrase that's everywhere! I'm not sure you can blame the nursery.

You're overreacting. If your mum is offended then that's her problem.

c75kp0r · 20/08/2019 21:11

reminds me of going into a corner shop years ago - when all of a sudden a voice boomed out from the back of the shop "for the love of GOD Nicholas! HOW many times do I need to tell you to stop bloody swearing!?"

is a running joke in our house ever since

SarahAndQuack · 20/08/2019 21:12

As long as he's not saying anything really offensive, like 'went mental,' it's probably ok.

Separately from being a bit disgusted by the OP's own language, I'm surprised so many posters don't think 'oh my God' would offend anyone in the UK. I know plenty of people who would be upset by it. Not saying they should be, or that I don't say it myself, but I am aware of those people's views and they're not that out there IMO.

Ivestoppedreadingthenews · 20/08/2019 21:16

I wouldn’t have said this as a teacher and I would have asked staff not too as well, it’s offensive to a lot of people even if you yourself aren’t at all religious. I think it’s reasonable to politely point this out- most likely the staff haven’t thought about it.