AIBU not to find this card cute? (Pic included)

[SteveHadTheRightIdea]

Yes, it’s a first world non-issue really.

However, in the context of our not fantastic relationship atm, which is something I’ve had a bit of help with on the relationships board, I actually find this a bit... depressing.

Thoughts? I am probably overreacting.

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The drawing is a bit weird, but the message isn't that bad. I'd rather 'still not bored' rather than 'not bored yet'. Then again, I sent DH a card saying 'you'll do' so I'm probably not the best person to ask about this kind of thing

I wouldn’t like it, but as my DH does have a sarcastic sense of humour if he gave it to me , I would be ok. He often says jokes along these lines like “Think I’ll keep you” or “remind me why I married you?”
I think how you feel depends on your DH and whether this is normal joking for him or a jab aimed at you.

To be honest it's hard to tell because I and likely others on this thread haven't seen your other threads (and I haven't searched them) so we don't know the background and the background could very well change the replies on this thread considerably!

It's about context isn't it Steve a card like that from a partner who while going through a rough patch but you know loves and cares for you is very different from a person who treats you like total shit giving you it.

I personally would enjoy that card even if I don't particularly like the animation but then I know my partner is completely committed to me and us, so the gentle teasing would be just that.

Il come back and post the birthday card he got me this year.

I usually like wry humour but this doesn’t do it for me joke-wise.

Totally irrelevant but this is my DD's current favourite card - EVERYONE is getting one....

This is the card he got me for my birthday this year.

I think it is all about the context. If you are going through a rough patch and have certain issues to work out then I can see why you aren't impressed by the card. If you have a jokey relationship then this card would be absolutely fine. YANBU as only you know the true context of your relationship and whether this card is appropriate at this moment in time. I personally find it quite funny but I probably wouldn't if I didn't feel secure in my relationship at the moment. Is this his usual sense of humour? Could it be that this is actually him trying?

It’s definitely the drawing. It’s just dreadful (subjective opinion, obviously).

The grammar error hadn’t occurred to me.

He isn’t having a jab. He is trying to be nice I think, but I simply don’t understand what he’s trying to say. If he had just handed it to me I’d have thought nothing of it, but he made a big fuss of it, asking me an hour after he gave it to me whether I liked it... ‘because they’re in bed you see’? No, I don’t see! Say what you mean please! I am not bored of you sexually? Ok, thanks for that . That is the one area we have no problems at all, so is that it? I don’t NEED a deep and meaningful card, but if you’re going to make a big fuss about it when you give it then... is that the only nice thing you can think of to say to me? I honestly think it is.

M3lon

I bought that for a friend a few years ago. Love it.

ginkypig I can imagine that heading my way at some point soon it did just make me laugh at my desk.

It's something we'd say to each other as a joke but not for a card. We tend to buy very similar cards, a bit soppy but not gushy. This year he was the cheese on my cracker. It referred to a running joke about some strong cheese we buy 'you only need a little bit of' and the fact my mental health has been pants for the last year. My point is if you're going for funny it has to be something you both find funny.

I think the drawing is rubbish, but not offensive.

I can totally see why you wouldn't find it funny if your relationship is a bit rocky at the mo.

I'm not sure about the explanation 'it's because they’re in bed you see.' If it means 'I'm not bored sexually' then I don't find that particularly funny.

As crappy cards go your DH is at least trying. My husband is utterly useless. This year he managed to pick up a great grandma birthday card for my birthday...my eldest child is 12!

I'm sure he just walks into a shop, finds something that vaguely represents the sentiment and buys it.

Fortunately this isn't indicative of how he treats me so I just make a joke about it...I suppose that's where you're having trouble SteveHadTheRightIdea your card is just shining a light on other issues you're having, so receiving it is like more confirmation that you aren't valued/being listened to because if you were then he'd know a card like that would land like a lead balloon.

Don't let it become a thing though, just chalk it up to different styles and concentrate on the bigger picture. Getting weighed down by things like this is insidious if things are already rocky.

It's just another weak, fairly crap, card; you're not unreasonable to find it not cute, but I don't think you should find it offensive.

Where can I buy really funny cards?

I think it's meant in same way that Terry Wogan always used to refer to his wife as the current Mrs Wogan. He could make the joke because they were secure in their relationship.

No idea nothingwitty. I think I got the spider one that M3lon posted in a small, independent gift shop.

Thanks @CreatedBySombra, you’re right of course. It’s such a small thing really.

Nah - 'I'm not bored of you yet' feels like the rest would read 'so be grateful woman, I'm obviously the best and you are lucky to have me until I get a better offer'.

Bloody love the one Ginkypig got! That's perfect.

Haven’t read your other posts, so don’t know the context. You don’t like the card, and you said earlier “why didn't he say that” or something that implies he needs to explain the card. In your last post, you said it would be fine if he’d just given it to you, but he asked after an hour if you liked it.

The poor guy obviously is aware you’re in a slightly rough patch, and is trying to make an effort. You don’t seem to know whether you’d prefer him to explain what he means or just give you the card. So how is he meant to know?

If you over think and over criticise every gesture, your rough patch is less likely to improve IMO.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. He’s given you a card and he’s trying to be sweet, and is worried about what you think/how you take the card. Focus on that, and what it signifies rather than whether you like the illustration. (I know it’s easier said than done sometimes)

I don't know if ANY of my friends or exes would like or not like that drawing. How on earth do you expect him to know something so specific?

I have to use an old MNism... you sound like hard work.

I dislike the 'bored OF', should be 'bored WITH'.

Stupid card.

Derbee, I totally agree, he IS trying to be sweet and he doesn’t seem to know we are in a rough patch. He is blithely pootling along despite me being extremely specific about how unhappy I am. I don’t see that he is being terribly communicative with this card though. My point was that if it was just a card bought on a whim, no big deal, then fine, but why make a fuss about it?

So I don’t think it isn’t a case of me not knowing which I want. I did say up thread that I do not need any deep and meaningful message from a card. I’d rather he just said whatever he wants to say. But if you give someone a card and present it to them as having a special meaning, I’d rather know what that special meaning is. Does that make sense?

And re being “hard work”? Meh. If not being hard work means pretending everything is fine all the time, when it isn’t, then I’m glad I am hard work.

*I don’t think it IS a case of...

I would be happy to actually have him sleeping in a bed with me instead of on the sofa.

I wouldn't have liked it OP. But when it comes to cards from my DH I don't want jokey cards, just get me something nice.