AIBU not to find this card cute? (Pic included)

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Yes, it’s a first world non-issue really.

However, in the context of our not fantastic relationship atm, which is something I’ve had a bit of help with on the relationships board, I actually find this a bit... depressing.

Thoughts? I am probably overreacting.

The card isn’t my taste but me and DH often say similar. We’ve both had multiple mid length relationships (he’s my third husband, I’m his second wife) and have finally found someone we are content to grow old with.

I really can’t see the difference in time between the OP’s card and that posted by amusedbush

Not surprised he got it wrong then, you seem to have very exacting standards about greetings cards...

Actually, tbh, I might not laugh at the I tolerate you card now, but would have before.

*tone

You don't have to like the card and, yes, it's always a bit depressing when someone who should know you well gets your taste wrong. But there's really nothing upsetting or offensive about the card itself. It's saying he still wants to be with you. That's a nice thing.

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There is such a difference! IMO.

@ginghamtablecloths I can still hear my mum saying 'bored WITH' to us whenever I see 'bored of'. But it seems to be ubiquitous now. Like for free.'

OP, I think it's not a great card to send when you're having problems. I'd have thought better to send if it's a kind of in-joke. But maybe it can be taken the other way, sort of like, despite our problems, I'm still in if you are?

Thanks bridget. Sense of humour is pretty specific and this is not my sense of humour at all. Maybe it’s in the delivery too...

One of my favourite birthday cards was from my best friend and said «I bought you this shit card because I think you’re a dick». It was funny in the context and in the delivery. We were SHARING a joke at my expense, but this is just... bleurgh.

Appreciate, I am definitely overreacting and overthinking though.

Thanks latin. I wish he’d articulate that, if it’s what he means. The ‘naughty’ card with smirking cartoon couple doesn’t do it for me at all. Is this really how people communicate things? I think I’m an alien.

It's totally unacceptable! What if a Manchester City fan wanted to buy it, it's only in United colours, disgraceful, I'd contact the manufacturer and do a Heidelburg, ie call them out.

Suppose it's a case of know you're audience, these are the kind of cards DH and I give each other, thought this is one of the tamer ones.

I don't think it's supposed to be cute, more funny?

The hands on that drawing are freaking me out a bit. I dont know if i like the card or not but its deffo the message me and my boyfriend would say to each other a lot.

*your audience not you're audience. WTF!?!

You make an excellent point lady. What about Evertonians too (WON’T SOMEONE PLEASE THINK OF THE EVERTONIANS?) or what if I didn’t even like football? Chuh.

I laughed. But they I'm loved up and not in a rocky patch. I'm with an American and our humour is very different (I'm a very sarcastic Brit) and we love winding each other up nicely. 'Look who is the Head of your country -says it all' says one and the other says 'Err look at yours' and we both laugh and find it funny. Likewise he might say 'I want do have sex with you all day' and I might say 'Nah, I've got to go and clean with chickens out. I have better things to do' -might be stupid but we both find it hilarious-we both agree we are not bored of each other and often he says 'I could never be bored with you ever' and I say 'I'm not bored with you yet' -so actually the card I would find very funny. Even in a rocky patch he / she is saying to you -things are tough but they don't want to give up and want to keep working at it -or that is how I would take it.

I really don't understand why you find it do disgusting? It's not that funny but it's not offensive in the slightest.

I don’t think it’s supposed to be bawdy/naughty - why do you think that, because they’re in bed? I think it’s sweet rather than hilarious or dirty. If your problem is that it’s not to your taste and your upset he doesn’t know your taste, I don’t think strangers online can tell you whether that’s reasonable (other than that it seems unreasonable to get worked up about a card at all )

Actually, I don’t think my darlin’ DH has ever given me a card at all!

Maybe that’s the bit to focus on? He went to the trouble of getting a card that has a nice sentiment in a not-over-the-top way, that makes it clear he wants to continue even if things are a bit tough at present?

He probably didn’t even look very closely at the smirky little faces - most people just look at the words (this doesn’t fly if he’s an artist/graphic designer/in the creative industries). I’d give him the benefit of the doubt on the image.

I love that sort of banter (sorry...at least I didn’t say ‘bantz’) labrador. That’s how relationships are meant to be.

I don't know the back story, but if for example you've been having issues because one or both of you are "bored" then maybe it's a bit close to the truth. On the other hand, maybe he's his way of saying that although I appreciate life is not perfect and maybe a bit shit, I'm not at the point where it's over yet.

Given the fact you're asking about it, I think it's probably a bit too raw and although the card itself is funny, it likely isn't for your situation.

I find it funny you are overthinking it

I already knew my marriage was in trouble, but when I opened a Valentine's card that said "Ever feel that life is passing you by?" and inside "No, me neither", I knew that he'd bloody searched for hours to find a card that said absolutely nothing, and didn't commit him to anything.

To the person asking where it’s from, I’ve seen lots of this range in Sainsbury’s.

Ha, I quite like it.