Aibu to be sick of people saying my baby is huge

[Mynotsolittlemonkey]

So my baby is 7 weeks old today. He is absolutely perfect and the picture of a happy healthy baby which everyone agrees with. However I am sick of people commenting on how huge he is, how we should put him on a diet etc. Mostly it is said in jest but it's starting to wear thin. I'm aware he is big but he is also healthy and I think he is actually long not just 'fat'.

He doesn't look like a 7 week old, he looks about 3 months and it makes me sad he is growing so fast which isn't helped by these comments. Today in the supermarket a lady asked how old he was and when I said she told me I was feeding him too much?!

I've also been told he will be a big boy and that I'll need to watch he isn't obese :-( I'm so worried that when he is older he will be bullied or something for being big which I know is ridiculous! Has anyone had a big baby that has evened out as they grew?

He was born 9 pounds and is now just over a stone. He is on the 94th or 95th percentile I cant remember which.

He is bf exclusively and mil has said I'll have to wean him early as that won't satisfy him until 6 months? I'm a bit cautious of anything she says tbh as we have a terrible relationship and she has already tried to give him a bottle so she could have him to stay.

Aibu ? I'm probably being over sensitive! To me he is just perfect :-)

I used to get this ALL THE TIME! My son is 2 now and people still comment on his size
He was 9 lb 8oz at birth and has tracked 98th centile for weight and high all his life. But he's in proportion so the HV doesn't care
You get used to it, and as your baby gets older people will be less shocked/ask less. Just grit your teeth and keep walking when people comment, just because he's heavy now doesn't mean he'll be obese (it also doesn't mean you need to wean him early or give him tops ups, your milk is enough and you'll know yourself when he does need more, but people can't possibly know that t 7 weeks)
Maybe your gonna have a big tall basketball player

When I had dd via emergency section. Everyone was saying she was huge. I was lying there listening and wondering whether my baby was alright. She was 9 pound 9! She’s lovely and chunky and also pretty tall. She’s perfect. Don't worry about other people. Xx

@Mynotsolittlemonkey You have my sympathies - I went through exactly the same with all my 3 twenty years ago! They were all 10 1/2 pounds (give or take half an ounce) and went straight into 0-3 month baby clothes but were in 3-6 months by 6 weeks. My middle child in particularly was very solid, everything about him was (and still is!) big. Its easy to say but you need to perfect the half smile and nod and hmmmm .

Both of mine were born average (7 pounds and just under 8 pounds) but both were hungry babies and were pretty chubby. My son went up to the 91st percentile in the weeks after his birth and DD was on the 75th. They both were chunks.

I used to get comments but now they are both incredibly healthy 8 and 4 year olds and are no different size to their peers.

When DD was about 6 weeks old I took DS to soft play. There I met a friend who’s DD was born 2 weeks before mine and she was going on how dainty her DD was compared to mine and it made me feel awkward 🙈 the truth was her baby wasn’t gaining weight because of a feeding issue and was incredibly tiny because she wasn’t getting enough nutrients. As soon as she started feeding properly she caught up and over took DD and now they are 4 her DD is a lot taller and broader than mine so to be honest it makes no difference in the long run!

Just reply he`s not as big as your mouth

Don't worry 2 of mine were like this, I always went by.... if their height was on the 98th which it was, the weight was matching this =fine, one grew into a tall lean child and the other is tall but built very sturdy, not fat.

It's great having a child on the bigger side I think, particularly in the first year or so, if they get a bit sick and aren't feeding as well, I think you're a little bit less worried. I had a friend who had a small baby who struggled to gain weight and understandably worried whenever she'd be a bit off colour and not eating as much as usual.

I agree. DD was under 6lb at birth, then lost more than 10% of her birth weight. She developed serious health issues and was uninterested in feeding. I used to be envious of parents of larger, chubby babies as DD had no reserves if she was ill. When she hit the 10lb mark at about 12 weeks I was so happy as it seemed such a positive milestone.

I don’t think people are being rude, just commenting on what they see. To me 14lb at 7 weeks is big, simply because DD was so small. I would never comment on a baby’s size though.

Please don't worry. My friends litt boy was 'chunky' as a baby. He's now 13 and a very handsome, slim and active teenager. My son also a solid baby and gained weight very well (nearly 2lbs in one week at less than a month old and BF). He's now 2.5, a lovely build, eats a lot but doesn't sit still and constantly running around.

Ignore the comments. And FWIW, I said a few times recently that my baby niece is big but completely meant in a 'omg, how cute are her chubby cheeks and rolls!' way. So it could be meant in a nice way as well

Ignore what your Mil says about having to wean him early, that is a fallacy. Your body will make enough milk to satisfy him.
Enjoy him and ignore people's comments I am sure most don't mean anything by it. If he was small people would comment on how small he is! Enjoy him for who he is, your perfect little boy

My eldest was huge. Born at 7lb 7 and gained a pound a week. 20lb at 18 weeks. Fast forward 17 years and he’s 5ft 11, broad but slim, fit and very toned and an absolute picture of health

It's great having a child on the bigger side I think, particularly in the first year or so, if they get a bit sick and aren't feeding as well, I think you're a little bit less worried

Totally agree with this and often thought the same

You cannot over feed a breastfed baby. You may want to introduce solids earlier, most people do anyway, the recommendation was 4 months when I had mine, but that's nothing to do with his size. I had the opposite, people telling me to supplement because they were tiny - they were both 6lb born!

My second was 10 pounds 8. I was a little sad never to deliver a “proper” new born sized baby (a friend’s baby at 4 months was the same weight as mine at birth!) but now you’d not know what size he was when he was born. He’s just lovely and healthy. And I didn’t worry half so much as others I know about him not eating or getting ill. For contrast, one of his peers was born at 31 weeks and you’d never guess as she is the same size as him and extremely healthy.

I have 3 big baby boys. Who are now all tall slim boys in junior school. Two were bf and one bottle - made no difference. Enjoy your baby.

Ignore them, he sounds lovely.

My eldest was quite dinky (between the 2nd and 9th centiles) and people used to comment on his size all the time. My favourite being “are you sure he wasn’t premature?” Erm yes I recall being 41 weeks pregnant plus he wasn’t THAT small!

Oh and mine is now a strapping teenager and built like a brick shithouse!

You do learn to let it go over your head. People are so surprised now when I say DD was 10lb6. She is very tall for her age (3) but slim, long legs and narrow shoulders.

You are being slightly over sensitive really, just smile and ignore. I have had four ‘big babies’ (95-99th centile) so experienced lots of these comments but it doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

My 1yo was 98th centile for height and 92nd centile for weight at the 1 year check. She had a really fat little tummy. Then she started walking. Now she bombs all over the place and changing her nappy yesterday I noticed her tummy when she’s lying down actually caves in, like she’s basically malnourished!! I mean, I know she’s not, she eats like a trooper, but once they start walking the weight will go.

Aw! My boy was 10lb 5oz born, he looked about 3 months old and was a very chunky baby! He's now approaching 7 and is lean as anything, he has a very solid build tho compared to his peers, his legs in particular! He's not unusually tall for his age, just above average. Ignore the comments and enjoy your beautiful boy! xx

Another one who says ignore!

My son was a big boy throughout his baby and toddler years, and like you, everyone we met would comment on size. I was constantly worried that I'd caused him to have a lifelong weight problem.

As he started moving more and stretched out, the weight disappeared. He is now 14, slim with a six pack and the fittest kid in the class. I wish I knew then what I know now.

You need to roundly ignore absolutely anyone who is not a health professional specifically assigned to you and your son.

My eyes are watering at the sizes of some of the new-borns here

My eldest was a huge baby, 5 years old now and petite and lean!

Mine was born 10lb 7oz

He's 3 now. His ribs are visible and he is 45th percentile for height.

There's little relationship between the size they are born and adult size