Aibu to be sick of people saying my baby is huge

[Mynotsolittlemonkey]

So my baby is 7 weeks old today. He is absolutely perfect and the picture of a happy healthy baby which everyone agrees with. However I am sick of people commenting on how huge he is, how we should put him on a diet etc. Mostly it is said in jest but it's starting to wear thin. I'm aware he is big but he is also healthy and I think he is actually long not just 'fat'.

He doesn't look like a 7 week old, he looks about 3 months and it makes me sad he is growing so fast which isn't helped by these comments. Today in the supermarket a lady asked how old he was and when I said she told me I was feeding him too much?!

I've also been told he will be a big boy and that I'll need to watch he isn't obese :-( I'm so worried that when he is older he will be bullied or something for being big which I know is ridiculous! Has anyone had a big baby that has evened out as they grew?

He was born 9 pounds and is now just over a stone. He is on the 94th or 95th percentile I cant remember which.

He is bf exclusively and mil has said I'll have to wean him early as that won't satisfy him until 6 months? I'm a bit cautious of anything she says tbh as we have a terrible relationship and she has already tried to give him a bottle so she could have him to stay.

Aibu ? I'm probably being over sensitive! To me he is just perfect :-)

And I exclusively breastfed for 6 months, and then breastfed alongside solids from 6 months until now. He was slow to get the hang of weaning and didn't really eat anything substantial until he was 10 months old. Even now I don't think he eats much considering his size. Your breastmilk will be perfectly fine for him, don't be encouraged to wean early by people who may think otherwise.

Theres a picture of me and my cousin born a week apart -she looks about 3 months old and i look small and wrinkly she didnt grow to be huge im the fat one now-dontg wory about it

Diet comments? Tell em to fuck off.

I had two babies who were exclusively breast fed for six months and people were shocking and commented on how big and solid they were.

They are both adults in their 20s now and are fine athletic specimens.

Congratulations on your lovely baby! I’m sure he’s cuddly and delicious. My twins were chubby and looked older, so we got attention because they are twins, and then the surprised comments about their age. It used to take quite some time to get around the supermarket.

I worried constantly about their size and feared that, because I hadn’t been successful in breastfeeding, they were so big because they had formula. Now they have an exclusively breastfed 7mo baby sister who, while admittedly not as big as her brothers were, is all thigh rolls and bracelets. It turns out that my husband and I just produce chubby babies. And our twins, now nearly four, are bigger than average, tall and solidly built, but lean, strong and perfectly in proportion. I imagine the baby will follow a similar path.

Enjoy your bonny baby, keep feeding when he wants, wean at six months, and work on perfecting your best ‘fuck off’ face so you don’t have to engage in conversations with nosy strangers.

He sounds absolutely gorgeous!

My dH was an absolute porker until the age of three and then shot up to be a fine figure of man. He has recently had a work medical and the only thing the doctor could find wrong with him is that he is 2 lbs overweight - everything else is perfect. My DS is following suit - a right blob until three and then boom. The only advice I can give you is to feed him the healthiest diet available, give him lots of fresh air and sleep and don’t worry too much. He will be fine!!

OP, don't worry. Your baby sounds perfect. My first was nearly 10lb, and I had all these comments. He was above the 99th centile for everything, but gradually went down to be more 'average' (now aged 17, 6 foot tall, and arguably too thin). My second was also nearly 10lb and has remained off the centile scale ever since she was born. I remember the HV saying that so long as length/height, head circumference and weight were in proportion, it was fine to be off the scale. Both of mine were bottle fed. All children are all different, and it's nobody else's business to comment.

I was about 9.5lbs and fully breastfed, I suspect weaning was early (1950s) but breast as well up to 6 months. I have always struggled with my weight.
My sister was over 11lb at birth. Refused the breast (mum's 6th baby so !!!) Midwife said she was hungry so enlarged the teat hole and added fairex (baby rice) from day 1.
I'm 5'7" and struggle with weight. Sister is 5'4" and size 8 to 10 all her life.

I dropped out of A levels, she got a first from Oxford
We're both in our 60s now and both healthy even though she is a size 10 and I'm 18. She has had a hip replacement and heading for a second - I've needed neither (maybe - or maybe not - the breastfed benefit is finally kicking in.

Ignore everything. Dd was 10lb3 and everyone thought she was enormous. A few years on she was average height, slim build, nothing to indicate she was an unusually large baby. Just smile and tell them their babies were stunted.

Mine was 9lb7oz two weeks early. 95th centile until she was two. Now she's a petite 11 year old in 9-10 clothes and the shortest in her year.

DS was a smallish young baby, a HUGE oldert baby and toddler, a very tall but very solid early school child ... and is now a 6'4" 18 year old who has the physical proportions of a stick of bamboo (long, thin and knobbly).

Don't worry.

My DD is 6 months and 99th percentile. She weighs almost 24lbs but she is tall like her daddy and in proportion. She also looks older and I’ve had similar comments. It can be annoying but I’ve learnt to just smile and say, ‘She’s fine!’ It’s the same with weaning, everyone has an unwelcome opinion .

I do wish people wouldn’t make comments like these to new mums. I think as a society we have got slightly hysterical about obesity, and as a parent it’s yet one more thing to worry about. It must feel rude and hurtful to have people saying this about your precious DS, and as mothers of course we worry a lot about their nutrition.

I had the opposite problem - an underweight, really skinny, slightly prem baby with ginger hair. What with the comments about how little and skinny she was, and then some horrid, supposedly humorous comments about her lovely hair, I started to get quite defensive. Not what you want to feel as a mother. She’s still really slender, though tall. This is, of course, seen as a virtue in females but has absolutely nothing to do with anything she or I have done. She eats like the proverbial horse, and I provide a healthy diet but with a fair few treats.

It will pass, as he grows. Try to ignore it. You’re doing a grand job with him, and it sounds like he’s just meant to be on the larger side. Which is absolutely fine.

98th percentile here! LO was in 2-3 year clothes just before 1st Birthday. Was a bit rolls-poly as an infant but has stretched out a lot.

Now LO is 4, in 5-6 year clothes and still very healthy just very bloody tall

It will get to you but just try ignore it xx

Please don’t worry Op. my DS was 10 and a half pounds when he was born he was a big baby but he was fine when he got older he grew tall and he is now a 6ft 2 26 year old.

Congrats on your DS!

My Dd was below the charts and we went around for months having comments about how tiny she was, I even had one person in Ikea suggest I had birthed her in the car park and bought her in (she was 12 weeks at this point).

Everyone likes to comment, too big, too small, either way people will suggest weaning. 🙄

Good luck, turn a blind eye and do what is best for you and DS!

When I had my first, I knew a lady from baby group who was on her second baby. First kiddy was average sized, lovely. Baby was rolls, rolls, rolls upon rolls, let's like those extreme parsnips with the massive wide top and skinny at the foot. You get the idea. She said she was used to the comments because her eldest was exactly the same as a baby. Baby was EBF as had been the older sibling.

Some kids are squishier.

My eldest was skinny as a baby. Small. I used to worry a bit but was told she was fine. She was 9th percentile. Now, she's still short with small arms and legs but she's not skinny.

You're going to get comments. I don't see anything more or less than a 'my baby is fine, thanks for your unsolicited concern' being wrong in your response.

Ignore them my oldest ds was chunky as a baby but is now a very slim and active at 7 year old who is not a great eater and has to be reminded to eat.

My toddler was 6 pound 2 when he was born and stayed on the 9th percentile for about 3 months due to reflux and being an unwell baby. He is now nearly 3 and a big sturdy boy that eats anything and we have to be careful to fill him up with fruit and salad so he doesn’t get fat.

My nearly 5 week old ds is only just over 8 pounds and on the 2nd percentile but the health visitor has said she is not concerned as me and dh are small plus he is alert and feeding well etc. People often comment how tiny he is.

I've been getting this since my son was born. He's now just over 2 and is really tall for his age. People feel they have the right to comment on how big he is all the time. I just ignore it now. He ironically, eats much less than a lot of toddlers his age, but is prob one of the biggest in his nursery group. My DD who is 12 weeks, gets the opposite, that she is so small, etc. You can't win. Just ignore people who comment. If they weren't commenting on his size, it would be something else.

The one thing I would say about having a big baby that grows into a ig toddler - people often think they are older than they are and expect more of them than they are capable of. They expect 4 y-o behaviour of a 2 yo sort of thing.

I speak as the mother of a 9 1/2lb born DD who grew into a beautiful but very tall girl. (She's 33 now - just under 6' tall).

It's just something to be aware of (not worry about).

My DS is big, never chubby, just big, plus has a full head of hair so looks much older than he is. He's at least half a head taller than all his toddler pals.

The constant bloody comments. I'd never say anything to anyone else about their appearance or that of their child or their dogs so why ask me.

My eldest went from being tiny and weighed every month to a hv suggesting a diet plan when she was 6 months old.
She was the loveliest squishy baby.
Try not to let it bother you. People just feel the need to say something. It soon passes. Xxxx

dont worry about it, my son was HUGE, full term and he was in 3 month sized clothes, had so many beautiful outfits for him that we couldnt wedge him in to as he was too long, whereas my daughter, also full term, was so tiny we ended up ordering prem clothes from Australia, as we couldnt get any in NZ, she came home from the hospital in an outfit my mum quickly run up using a "baby born doll" outfit for a pattern, she nevevr got to wear any of the beautiful outfits we had for her, many mum had spent months making... and now both are normal sized kids, shes 5'6 and almost 20 and my son is 5'1 at 11... in a few weeks id imagine he will be taller than me