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Jmcd2020 · 18/08/2019 11:07

OH came clean that a family member sent a “joke” text telling him his wife “drew all over my face” on our wedding photo. Haven’t spoken to them both for a few months after a fall out. I was furious and OH just said it was a joke and wasn’t pleased about it but hasn’t done anything since. AIBU to think that was disgusting and regardless of situation / whether it’s true or not I deserve an apology?

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Alloftit · 18/08/2019 11:09

Family members wife did? Who cares? You aren’t speaking to them anyway.

Bluntness100 · 18/08/2019 11:10

Well I suspect they don't like you. Whomever it is, as such I doubt they'd be uo for apologising.

CacenCrunch · 18/08/2019 11:10

Well it's not a very funny joke, who thought it was funny? OH?

YourVagesty · 18/08/2019 11:10

I think that person should be embarrassed by their childishness. They probably won't apologise. I wonder why your DH told you? I wonder what his response was?

swingofthings · 18/08/2019 11:13

Find some satisfaction in the knowledge that you clearly posed in the middle of family members rather than the edge so she couldn't just cut you off!

Aquamarine1029 · 18/08/2019 11:14

Don't waste your time demanding an apology from someone who clearly isn't sorry.

Littlechocola · 18/08/2019 11:15

I would wonder what your dh has sent for that to have been said.

DontBuyANewMumCashmere · 18/08/2019 11:15

Why do you care that they drew over your face, presumably on their copy of your wedding pic? As long as they didn't sneak into your house and deface your wedding pic it doesn't affect you in any way... Confused

BlancheBeachcomber · 18/08/2019 11:16

Why do you even care?

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 18/08/2019 11:16

Is she 6years old? I wouldn’t even need an apology from someone so pathetic

reginafelangee · 18/08/2019 11:18

If you are not on speaking terms then it sounds like the relationship has totally broken down on both sides.

If you don't intend for this to change any time soon then ignore it and get on with your life.

Butchyrestingface · 18/08/2019 11:18

Well, if you’re not speaking to them, why do you care? At least they’re not using photos of your head as a darts board. 🎯

I take it the fall-out was between you and them as opposed to you and your husband vs them?

Bit odd of your husband to tell you, mind. Is he a shit-stirrer generally?

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Jmcd2020 · 18/08/2019 11:19

It wasn’t their photo, it was someone else’s in another household. You’re right I probably shouldn’t care. Just think it’s twisted.

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AngelasAshes · 18/08/2019 11:21

Not worth getting angry over. A joke about defacing one copy of a picture is minuscule. If the text had been joking about throwing a milkshake on you IRL, then THAT would be worth getting furious about.

MrsTishellsNeckBrace · 18/08/2019 11:22

If they own the photo and it’s in their home, why do you think they’ll be apologising ? The act was childish but it is their property.

Reallywanttomovenow · 18/08/2019 11:23

The wrecked someone elses photo of your wedding? Thats fucked up. What did the owner say/ do? at first i thought you were onabout like on the internet making a joke with glasses or a mustache but thats really weird. i hope your dh is on your side and sees that defacing a photo of his wife on his wedding day is extremely disrespectful to him!

MrsTishellsNeckBrace · 18/08/2019 11:24

X post, very odd behaviour. Must be hoping to provoke a reaction that makes you look unhinged, I would just ignore tbh.

TregunaMekoides · 18/08/2019 11:24

What's the context? Did it actually happen? Do OH and this family member have a joke "thing" going where they try to out-do each other to get a rise?

Wherearemycrayons · 18/08/2019 11:25

As pp have said, if in their own home then childish but not worth getting stressed over.
However after your update... wtaf

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Jmcd2020 · 18/08/2019 11:34

OH said it didn’t actually happen and was just a “joke” from who told him’s side. But the fact it was even said makes me so angry. No one on here seems to think it’s a big deal so maybe I’m making too much of it, understood. I just think if the tables had turned I’d be grovelling for being so twisted.

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Sparklesocks · 18/08/2019 11:35

Very weird behaviour! Probably best not to engage and leave alone, not worth giving them any more thought

nowayhose · 18/08/2019 11:35

Ermmm........... you don't like them and are not speaking to them, but your husband is ?

If your DH is still friends with them, why is he having 'jokes' and conversations about you with them ?

SoyDora · 18/08/2019 11:37

It’s weird and childish but I wouldn’t say it’s ‘twisted’. You’re not talking to them, they obviously don’t like you, so it’s not worth getting worked up about.

bluebeck · 18/08/2019 11:37

So someone you aren't on speaking terms with after a falling out did this?

Agree with PP - why would you give a shit?

You don't like them. Why would you want any contact, let alone an apology?

Butchyrestingface · 18/08/2019 11:41

I just think if the tables had turned I’d be grovelling for being so twisted.

You’d grovel to people you no longer speak to?

Shirley knot.

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