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Jmcd2020 · 18/08/2019 11:07

OH came clean that a family member sent a “joke” text telling him his wife “drew all over my face” on our wedding photo. Haven’t spoken to them both for a few months after a fall out. I was furious and OH just said it was a joke and wasn’t pleased about it but hasn’t done anything since. AIBU to think that was disgusting and regardless of situation / whether it’s true or not I deserve an apology?

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Witchinaditch · 18/08/2019 11:42

Why did your OH tell you? Seems like they wanted to upset you and by him telling you they achieved their goal! Just rise above it and be glad they are not in your life. Why did you fall out?

SoyDora · 18/08/2019 11:50

Why would you grovel to someone you don’t like and don’t talk to?

slashlover · 18/08/2019 11:53

So someone you have fallen out with joked they were going to scribble your face out in a picture but didn't actually do anything?

TregunaMekoides · 18/08/2019 11:54

But what's the context? This person just randomly texted tour OH out of blue telling him this? Or was it part of a wider conversation? It seems weird but going purely from what you've said I think you're massively overreacting.

sonjadog · 18/08/2019 11:56

I don't understand why the guy told your DH that this had happened, and then why your DH told you. Either there is a lot of context missing or they are a couple of shit stirrers. But either way, I wouldn't expect the person who did it to come groveling to you or even just apologize. She didn't do it in front of you, you wouldn't have known if these two men had kept their gobs shut, you already know she doesn't like you, and you never speak.

SoyDora · 18/08/2019 11:56

So to be clear, you want someone who you don’t talk to to phone you up and say ‘I’m sorry I said I was going to draw on your wedding photo, even though I didn’t do it’?

SmellbowSpaceBowl · 18/08/2019 11:58

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AnyFucker · 18/08/2019 11:58

Stop engaging with this bullshit

Fillipe · 18/08/2019 12:00

Why is DH still in contact with them?
Anyway, you need to rise above this childish (but slightly disturbing) act and try to forget it.

SparklyMagpie · 18/08/2019 12:01

Personally for me I couldn't give a shiny shit about this

S1naidSucks · 18/08/2019 12:04

Take some comfort from the fact that they were so irritated by someone having your photo up, that they felt need to try to annoy you. It must have really grated on them that someone else cares about you enough to have your photo up in their house.

MotherofDinosaurs · 18/08/2019 12:04

When does school start again?

NoSauce · 18/08/2019 12:07

I don’t even understand that.

GrouchoMrx · 18/08/2019 12:15

OH came clean that a family member sent a “joke” text telling him his wife “drew all over my face” on our wedding photo.

Do you have 'an OH problem' if a family member would dare send such a joke text to him? That is the big question here.

messolini9 · 18/08/2019 12:15

How can someone you are not on speaking terms with apologise?
More importantly, why do you care?

katewhinesalot · 18/08/2019 12:16

Well I wouldn't be forgiving of the "joke" either way.

WorraLiberty · 18/08/2019 12:17

OH said it didn’t actually happen and was just a “joke” from who told him’s side. But the fact it was even said makes me so angry.

I'm confused about who you want the grovelling apology from?

The person who didn't actually do it but joked about it, or the person who told your DH about it?

SparklyMagpie · 18/08/2019 12:23

If you have fuck all to do with them then seriously, why are you arsed?

I can't believe people would be Confused

RelaisBlu · 18/08/2019 12:43

The apology ain't gonna happen.
Just forget about it

NameChange92 · 18/08/2019 12:53
Biscuit
BuzzShitbagBobbly · 18/08/2019 13:07

OP you are going way OTT with your reaction.

Calling it "twisted" is huge overreaction to something someone didn't do to a photograph you don't own in a house you don't live in by someone you don't like.

Is there more to this because it sounds like a ridiculous overreaction on your part of it not, with talk of apologies and grovelling.

dollydaydream114 · 18/08/2019 13:47

You’re a massive drama queen. Grow up.

Xalia · 19/08/2019 03:22

You're a massive drama queen. Grow up.
Someone has defaced (or threatened to deface) a wedding picture and you say OP is the drama Queen???

If I were OP I'd also be a bit upset/angry/creeped out. Not normal behaviour by any means is it?
Or maybe that is normal in your neck of the woods, Dollydaydream114?

Xalia · 19/08/2019 03:31

Don't think you can expect an apology though OP, but would you even want one from this creepy person?
Don't think I would. My advice is to rise above it and continue to keep well away!

steff13 · 19/08/2019 03:32

I don't think it's fair to single out Dollydaydream when other posters have made similar comments.

It's a weird thing to say, and your husband probably should have kept it to himself, but ultimately I couldn't bring myself to care about it. Let petty people be petty, and be happy you're not them.

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