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AIBU?

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Jmcd2020 · 18/08/2019 11:07

OH came clean that a family member sent a “joke” text telling him his wife “drew all over my face” on our wedding photo. Haven’t spoken to them both for a few months after a fall out. I was furious and OH just said it was a joke and wasn’t pleased about it but hasn’t done anything since. AIBU to think that was disgusting and regardless of situation / whether it’s true or not I deserve an apology?

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Whattodo20192 · 19/08/2019 04:52

You had a fall out and haven't spoken for months so why would you get an apology?

My dsis has a person in her wedding photos that the whole family no longer talk to. She is deeply upset that someone who turned out to be such a nasty person is in all her wedding photos. If she said she was going to draw on his face in the photos then it'd obviously be a joke - she's not going to go around defacing photos.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 19/08/2019 05:08

Why would you want an apology from these people? Blerg...

Ask your DH to stop discussing them and live a twat-free life.

GlendaSugarbeanIsJudgingYou · 19/08/2019 05:20

She is deeply upset that someone who turned out to be such a nasty person is in all her wedding photos. If she said she was going to draw on his face in the photos then it'd obviously be a joke

That's fine - she could actually scribble, draw mustaches, devil horns, etc... and I would get it.

It would become bloody weird the moment your sister's DH rings up Awful Guest's partner and tells them all about the joke trying to have a good laugh.

pictish · 19/08/2019 05:22

I think your outrage is a bit disproportionate to be honest. If I heard that someone who didn’t like me drew on my face on a photo of me, I’d think it was childish and below my scope of care.
I wouldn’t be disgusted and expect an apology, I’d roll my eyes and think them rather pathetic. I might even feel satisfied that they’d chosen to show themselves as the twat they are.
Meh.

Monty27 · 19/08/2019 05:29

Very amusing. Not

WereYouHareWhenIWasFox · 19/08/2019 06:08

Comedy moustache and sideburns? You will never know. Why would you need an apology?

Jessbow · 19/08/2019 07:00

More than the person that did/didn't draw- I think its your husband that needs the slap.

Or you. Or at least a reality check.

You'd really like someone that you dont like/doesn't like you to apologise for something they didn't do?

Grow up.

flouncyfanny · 19/08/2019 07:17

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crosspelican · 19/08/2019 07:22

It's a wedding picture, not a piece of the true cross.

Just roll your eyes, confirm to yourself that this is why you're not friends any more and grow up.

No prizes for wondering if the falling was driven by you in the first place.

PapaShango · 19/08/2019 07:25

It’s just immature. Twisted is a bit strong. Ignore and don’t give it another thought. They’re just trying to get a rise out of you

TregunaMekoides · 19/08/2019 07:40

Sent her a pack of crayons and a bunch of photos of you with a note saying "knock yourself out!".

Coyoacan · 19/08/2019 07:51

Honestly OP, try to limit the amount you get angry, it is very bad for your health and only hurts you.

Soontobe60 · 19/08/2019 07:52

What we all want to know is why did you fall out with this woman in the first place?

Juells · 19/08/2019 07:57

People you don't like and don't talk to didn't do something.

BrightYellowDaffodil · 19/08/2019 08:03

So someone you don’t like and don’t talk to anyway didn’t do something but just joked about doing it, and you want an apology.

Put the drama llama away and get a grip.

goingdeepinthesky · 19/08/2019 08:40

Of course you care! It is a weird and strangely aggressive thing to do!

No one likes the idea of being erased.

There's probably not much of a way back from that,is there?

Why on earth did the husband send that text and why on earth did you DH tell you?!

Xalia · 19/08/2019 10:27

I don't think it's fair to single out Dollydaydream when other posters have made similar comments.

Sorry, Dollydaydream et al.

dollydaydream114 · 19/08/2019 11:13

Someone has defaced (or threatened to deface) a wedding picture and you say OP is the drama Queen???

The whole thing is a stupid childish drama. She's fallen out with someone, someone else made a stupid joke about it (there is absolutely no evidence to say the wedding picture thing even happened, I strongly doubt whether this person has a hard copy of her wedding photo at all to be honest, it's 2019 ffs), and she's now determined not to just ignore it and to create big hoo-ha over it.

Even if the wedding photo thing were true, who gives a shit, honestly? It's meaningless and has zero impact on the OP who doesn't even speak to this woman any way because they had a big falling out.

Everyone involved is being absurd and behaving like a bunch of children.

MrsBendurdickCuminmysnatch · 20/08/2019 02:25

So you fell out with someone and they did something mean that you don't like. Erm... get a grip love.

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