Big fat horrible mess of a woman

[ExplosiveShits]

I’m sat here in black harem pants that are out of shape with a hole in. They’re also mucky. Why? Because they’re the only fucking trousers that fit me. I’m so fed up. I eat shit (I.e packet of crisps for breakfast) but don’t actually eat a lot. What I do do, is drink too much. I drink around 7 cans of bud light every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. THATS probably why I’m such a fat mess. I look like a tramp. None of my clothes fit me anymore.

AIBU to think the majority of my fatness is due to how much I drink? I don’t even leave the house unless I have to as I’m so ashamed of how I look.

your never going to change unless you get some nice things and thoughts about yourelf.people will tell you about its all diet and exercise buts its not.when you get to this stage your doign this for far more reasons than just the love of "food and drink" youve got an emotional link in their.and your cycle is self hate and drink and then you ffeel like this the next day and so you carry on.
you need to make a break in the circle and start making your own star!
that means you gotta kick in some good vibes about yourself.find the you that deserve to go get em

Nobody's blaming the OP's partner, just suggesting that he does not drink at home or offer her beer. Surely you can see that someone stopping smoking will not be helped by a partner lighting up in the same room. If he wants to help her he could have a beer elsewhere at the very least.

Thanks for all the advice guys. I will attempt to stop drinking completely for 2 weeks (initially). I’ll also do a good food shop.

Can anyone recommend somewhere online that I can buy nice clothes? I’ve seen boohoo mentioned so I’ll have a look. I normally only order from Next but their stuff is awful lately.

I had to go out earlier to take my puppy to class so I do feel a bit better for getting out x

My DP didn't stop drinking when I did for those months BUT ended up barely drinking at all anyway, that's what happens when you lose your drinking buddy. That break meant that both our healths improved.

I quite like fat face and white stuff for stuff that’s easy to wear.

If your budgets not great there’s always loads and loads of stuff on eBay.

Good for you @ExplosiveShits

It takes a lot to turn your life around but I have a feeling you can do it

You're a strong woman

Have you looked at Sainsbury's for basics? Or M and S? They both do good quality basic clothes quite well I think

Also, check out charity shops! when I put on loads of weight (comfort eating) I hit my local charity shops for a new-to-me wardrobe at little cost and felt great! lots of clothes, and I donated clothes that no longer fit so my wardrobe wasn't bulging with stuff I could no longer wear (a depressing sight). As the weight came slowly off, did the same again.

You sound more depressed than anxious OP. Alcohol seems like a friend but always ends up as the problem. It’s always the problem at the front of the queue too and the one that needs dealing with first. I’d get some outside support and that support can also advise on how to tackle unsupportive partners as you probably need strategies for dealing with your partner’s behaviour from the off. You could see about AA and your GP can refer you for free counselling or psychotherapy. However, the counselling/CBT service is unlikely to see you until your alcohol intake is lower, but should refer you to a local agency dealing specifically with alcohol issues in your area if not AA. Alcohol is a terrible depressant along with its calories. You might find some of the Compassion Focussed Therapy of Paul Gilbert helpful given the way you describe yourself. Good luck, you deserve to be happier. www.amazon.co.uk/Compassionate-Mind-Compassion-Focused-Therapy/dp/1849010986?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

I'd stop alcohol first because it could be that booze is the thing depressing you and making your anxious. It can also really screw up your sleep and of course, make you gassy. I highly recommend harem trousers from Ebay, the £6.95 ones are brilliant!

It's Sunday today, so you're probably suffering from the depressing after effects of the alcohol of the last few days.
I wish you well, you're still young, so have the power to do something about it.

Simplybe.co.uk has clothes from size 12-26. Asos are great, they have a range of sizes as well.