I think DD (just turned 14) might be being groomed on instagram...

[TrigglyPufff]

Don't have time to NC as this is happening as I write, I just hope this very personal thread doesn't get published in a bloody tabloid.

So DD has just turned 14. She is quite a quiet girl and doesn't have a busy social life, she's quite shy. She and all her friends have Instagram and there has never been anything untoward. Our accounts are separate but linked so I can access hers.

Yesterday she receives a message from a '15 year old Italian boy' asking if they can chat. There are only 4 photos on his page, it all seems a bit dodgy. So they chatted fairly innocently for a while. She seems really exited to have a boy to talk to. She is naive for her age. He messaged her last thing last night then fort thing this morning, he's now saying he'd like to meet up and could come to England and that he thinks she's 'different' and 'kind'.

AIBU and massively overreacting?

Report it to CEOP here

Do not engage. Just report.

I don't know much about this but am going to have to get super smart quickly as my dad is 9 and nagging to get her own devices....

One quick thing to add - I would be VERY careful of saying you are suspicious because he said she is different. This can be deeply hurtful to a child because it sounds like you are saying She isn't different - which of course she is. She is wonderful and unique and you want a genuine boy when the time is right to think exactly that.... seeming to tell her he must be a scammer to say that feels like it might push her to feel rejected by you and that the 'special thing' between them needs to be hidden from you because you don't get it....

I think the more evidence you have the better- and stress that of course she is special and different, but that people find that out through deep, face to face getting to know each other, over long periods of time, rather than on the internet with strangers....

But I don't know much, as I say! Just a thought. 🙂

Dd obviously - sorry spell check!