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Neighbour’s kids house party in garden next door

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SteamedPotatoes · 17/08/2019 23:39

It's nearly midnight, his parents are away and they are all, maybe 15 - 20 of them, singing extremely loud in the garden. I have a 3 month old and can't sleep. Tried texting him to ask him to tone it down but no response. WWYD ? They don't normally have form for this but also didn't tell us he was hosting a party.

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hmga90 · 18/08/2019 01:03

Personally I would lie and say you have seen a mysterious car with blacked out windows outside several times this evening handing bags of white powder out of the window. I’m sure that would get the police interested

hmga90 · 18/08/2019 01:05

There’s a difference between moaning about a house party when your single childless adult (or one with older D.C.) then from what I can gather a first time mum with a practical newborn who is probably already over exhausted.

I’m not a party pooper, far from it, but if I knew I had a neighbour with a tiny baby I wouldn’t be blasting music at this time.

Medievalist · 18/08/2019 01:06

Why the fuck should anyone have to put up with it? Never ceases to amaze me how many people think they have a god given right to inflict loud noise on people.

Stonerosie67 · 18/08/2019 01:06

No you wouldn't because that you make you not only a liar, but also a twat of the highest order.

LemonPrism · 18/08/2019 01:07

The police aren't going to break up 15 people on a Saturday when it wasn't even midnight.

I understand you have a baby but they're adults doing nothing illegal

Stonerosie67 · 18/08/2019 01:07

*that would make you!

LemonPrism · 18/08/2019 01:08

I live in an apartment in a busy part of C London. I have earplugs

Pepperstripe · 18/08/2019 01:12

Stiff like this majorly pisses me off. I hate the way ppl think it's ok to play their shitty music loudly late at night. I don't care you're having a party, I don't care if it's a ' one off'. Shut the fuck up I want to sleep

Defenbaker · 18/08/2019 01:12

OP, are you down on the south coast? If so, maybe we live close by, as we have a similar noisy party going on in a garden that backs onto our road. The music stopped about an hour ago but the shouting and singing is relentless, very loud and annoying. Mostly male voices and they sound very drunk.

The house seems to have a summer party about once a year, each summer, and it's always very loud. Last year I was tempted to ring 101 but decided to let it go unless they went past 2am... they packed it in around 2, so I didn't phone or complain.

I do think it's pretty selfish behaviour to make so much noise in a medium sized garden in the suburbs, until well after midnight, no matter what they're celebrating, but as a once a year event I can put up with it. I think people have become much more selfish and entitled about these things over the last few years, but it's not worth going into battle about, it's not worth it. Pick your battles wisely, it's the best way, in this selfish world we live in. Maybe a spot of early morning lawn mowing would be in order, tomorrow? Or do you have some hedges that need trimming with a chainsaw?

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SteamedPotatoes · 18/08/2019 01:13

@Stonerosie67 copying & pasting word I've typed whilst griping about the selfish lot next door ? I have a valid reason to be arsey right now. I still don't stoop to misusing ellipses. In actual fact "arsey" means lucky around these parts !

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Stonerosie67 · 18/08/2019 01:18

Of course it does
Anyway, I'll bid you goodnight, now you've put an end to those pesky kids partying next door you'll be wanting to get to sleep. Enjoy!

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SteamedPotatoes · 18/08/2019 01:19

Yes yes yes ! It's the selfish, entitled twat-haft behaviour. We are in Essex. They've taken it indoors now but I'm now wide awake

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Hidingtonothing · 18/08/2019 01:22

You'd never cope round here OP, next door but one have been known to start on a Thursday and still be going on Sunday night! I'm pretty much immune to it now, as are DC but it's ridiculous really, speakers set up outside and everyone shouting and singing in the garden, they can still be going at 6am

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SteamedPotatoes · 18/08/2019 01:25

@Hidingtonothing that sounds like my idea of total hell ! Can't you move ?

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1forAll74 · 18/08/2019 01:33

I wish someone was having a party next door to me, I would go and join them.. I live in a place where nothing happens at night.

Defenbaker · 18/08/2019 01:34

A party from Thursday to Sunday?!? That's pretty hard core partying! I'm surprised they didn't end up with alcohol poisoning!

Commiserations to you, plus everyone else having to put up with noisy selfish neighbours. They're very prevalent these days, so if OP or anyone else wants to vent on here about selfish neighbours inficting loud noise on them for hours on end, that seems a pretty reasonable thing to me. Better than starting a war with neighbours, that might get out of hand. Vent away, YANBU.

Rachelover40 · 18/08/2019 01:36

Sounds like it's a one off (just saw that whatthehell has said the same), SteamedPotatoes; I think you can bear it as it isn't a regular occurrence and your baby will be none the worse for one broken night. I expect the party is over by now or at least transferred to indoors. Young people will be young people, especially when they have the family home to themselves!

Spacerader · 18/08/2019 01:38

I’m with you op. I’m all for people having fun. But there should still be a level of respect.
I’ve had my fair share of parties but always try and keep the volume down after 11. It’s never spoilt my fun.

I was annoyed with the neighbours teenagers a few nights ago. They decided to camp out, not in their garden but on the small patch of green just outside my house which is under my bedroom window. They were out shouting and running around till around 2am when I finally told them to shut up. They did calm down but I could hear the mattering all night still and they were running around marking loads of noise again by 7am. I was so relieved when I heard their mum tell them they wasn’t allowed to camp out another night because they didn’t behave the night before.

ToesAndFingersCrossed · 18/08/2019 01:40

My upstairs neighbours (students) had a party when DS was 10 days old. I politely asked them to keep it down at 1am only to be told to fuck off by one of the attendees. Well hell hath no fury like a sleep deprived, hormonal woman with a badly infected episiotomy wound who’s been told to fuck off by an 18 year old child. The party was over in 5 minutes and there were some (2nd cheapest from Sainsbury’s) flowers on my doorstep the next day.

Hidingtonothing · 18/08/2019 01:40

It's not that often fortunately, they seem to have a little spate of parties within a few weeks and then nothing for months. Its social housing, we could do an exchange but it's a gamble as next place could be even worse! Only other alternative is private renting but we couldn't afford that and at least here our tenancy is secure.

Defenbaker · 18/08/2019 01:42

Interesting that these parties are both happening outside... presumably so there is less chance of their homes getting trashed/people puking on carpets? Maybe OP's neighbours don't know about the party and their son thinks he's being clever and will not have to do much cleaning up tomorrow? OP, you could have an interesting chat with them when they return... just casually mention in passing that their son's party seemed to go with a swing...

Mothership4two · 18/08/2019 01:42

Why would you get narky with a mum with a 3 month old? Can't you remember how knackering it is having a baby that young? It's what I have come to expect from MN.

Neighbours having the odd party is one thing, neighbours making a racket in the garden so no-one can sleep is quite another. Especially as they know there is a young baby nearby. I'd have gone round earlier to tell them to take it indoors. I have no problem with going instead of dh.

Hidingtonothing · 18/08/2019 01:43

I know Defenbaker, serious stamina! There's always little pockets of people coming and going through the weekend so maybe they do shifts

MsTSwift · 18/08/2019 02:13

Don’t move to Spain. Last 4 nights of our holiday last year there was “Europe’s largest beach party” nearby - started 11pm ended around 8am We watched the clubbers come home as we ate breakfast. We weren’t that close either lots nearer and very nice previously quiet family resort.

SweetMarmalade · 18/08/2019 02:21

I’m with you OP.

Bet his parents don’t know about it and I’m pretty sure most of those saying leave them be, wouldn’t want to if it was going on next door to them!

By the sounds of it the party friends don’t give a stuff because it’s not their neighbours and host is too drunk to even realise!

Pity it’s not raining eh! Flush them back indoors!

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