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To put baby in nursery when I’m not at work?

54 replies

SunflowerSunshine · 17/08/2019 18:54

DD is 13 months and currently goes to nursery 3 days a week 8-5.

I have some time owed so have an extra day off coming up.

Would I be unreasonable to still put DD in nursery and get my nails done, watch tv and take a nap instead of spending an extra day with her? I love our time together but she is absolutely exhausting and I feel like I need a break.

Mum guilt is creeping in.

Does anyone else do this?

OP posts:
PlatoAteMySnozcumber · 17/08/2019 18:56

Do it, take some time for yourself and you will be a better parent the other days you are with her.

Lazypuppy · 17/08/2019 18:56

At my dd nursery you have to give a months notice to change days and it would be pointless for 1 day?

If you've paid for it why wouldn't you send her?

TeachesOfPeaches · 17/08/2019 18:57

Drop her off late and pick up early then you won't feel bad

TheWernethWife · 17/08/2019 18:58

Does DH/DP feel dad guilt when she goes to nursery, of course not.

Stayinin · 17/08/2019 18:59

Take the break and don't feel guilty. She'll appreciate a happier, refreshed, more relaxed mum! Everyone needs a break.

TinyMystery · 17/08/2019 19:00

Do it! God when I think about all the he things I could achieve if I had the day to myself!

partofyoupoursoutofme · 17/08/2019 19:02

Definitely have a day for yourself! You'll be a happier mum because of it. Enjoy it, don't waste it feeling guilty Wink

Merryoldgoat · 17/08/2019 19:03

I purposely take some leave when my toddler is with the CM. We all need down time now and then. Zero guilt required.

peachgreen · 17/08/2019 19:03

I have done this and I'll do it again. It's brilliant. Do it!

Buddytheelf85 · 17/08/2019 19:03

Do it and never give it another thought Smile

frangipanflowers · 17/08/2019 19:04

i would do it but that’s a long day so perhaps as others have said in late, pick up early. Enjoy it!

livinglavidavillanelle · 17/08/2019 19:04

I do it one day a week. I occasionally get an attack of mum guilt, but then I watch some catch up tv and have a nice cup of tea in peace and quiet and suddently I'm over it :)

Seriously, one day for yourself is not the end of the world. If anything, it's time to recharge your batteries and be a better mum to her. Enjoy getting your nails done and ditch the guilt.

Moreanonymousme · 17/08/2019 19:04

Definitely do it. I'm a teacher so not currently at work. DS has still been doing some of his nursery days (he goes 2 days a week when I'm at work) To be fair, some of the days he has gone in I have then gone into school to get my classroom ready, so am technically at work, but I've had a couple of days to myself. Its needed once in a while! Smile

Gillian1980 · 17/08/2019 19:04

Yanbu.

I take days of when dd is in nursery so that I can have a me day. DH and I also take days off to spend together child-free. Everyone needs a day off.

TheresWaldo · 17/08/2019 19:04

Absolutely do it!

HalyardHitch · 17/08/2019 19:05

Do it. As soon as april hits my two are going in for two mornings while I'm at home. I work evenings and have no childcare so I'll be skipping out of preschool

Eistigi · 17/08/2019 19:05

Take advantage of the day and do something nice for yourself!

Sandybval · 17/08/2019 19:05

Do it!

WhyBirdStop · 17/08/2019 19:06

DS is starting nursery 5 weeks before I go back after mat leave, partly so I can settle him (all settling sessions in his first week) and then in case I need to pick him up etc but also I need some time to have my hair cut, buy some new work clothes, maybe go for a swim/gym session. No guilt what so ever

Userzzzzz · 17/08/2019 19:07

Do it. I find sticking to routine is much better. Mine has always found it harder if we need to arrive later etc. When your child is in school you won’t have the luxury of childfree holiday days unless you’re v lucky, make the most of it while you can.

Original poster
SunflowerSunshine · 17/08/2019 19:09

Absolutely loving these positive responses! Grin

Yep we will have paid so there’s that.

I will probably end up missing her and picking her up early.

Just dying to sit down with a cup of tea, do some cleaning, read a magazine or even just walk around the supermarket by myself.

It’s just the fact I work long days so only see her a few hours when I’m working so part of me feels like I should jump at the chance for that extra day together..

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Readytogogogo · 17/08/2019 19:09

Hope you're reassured by the unanimous response. DO IT!

SimonJT · 17/08/2019 19:10

If I’m not at work for any reason on a preschool/nursery day I still send my son, it means I can do sod all for a day, but it also keeps him in his routine.

Original poster
SunflowerSunshine · 17/08/2019 19:10

DH and I also take days off to spend together child-free. Everyone needs a day off.

I think DH and I need to do this. We desperately need to spend some time together. Maybe a spa day or day trip!

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Backtothenewme · 17/08/2019 19:10

Do it without any guilt what so ever...like none..zero...nadda...nothingSmile

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