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In not thinking that this is offensive?

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yesIhaveanopinion93 · 16/08/2019 18:35

Just wondering...

In regards to kids, little munchkin, little fart, little squidger.. are any of these terms offensive? Somebody has just said it's not 'appropriate' to call anybody's baby a little fart.. but it's not like I said little brat? Or little shit? 😂
I would have thought little fart like munchkin is more of a cutesy term? AIBU???

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custardlover · 16/08/2019 19:04

You really can't see the difference between little squidger and little fart? Do you know the meanings of those words? Their connotations are wildly different and if someone - especially a stranger - called my child that I could only assume they were being deliberately horrible and I would be surprised and pretty appalled at their vulgarity toward a child. And I'm Irish too so I don't think that has much to do with it.

notmenope · 16/08/2019 19:04

I would find referring to a baby as a "little fart" offensive and quite derogatory. Teenagers behaving anti-socially maybe, but not babies.

AmIThough · 16/08/2019 19:05

FWIW I also wouldn't accept somebody calling my child a 'squidger'.

AbsolCatly · 16/08/2019 19:05

Just say it with an Irish accent and a loving tone - it's fine (lots of Irish aunts /uncles /grandparents)

GREATAUNT1 · 16/08/2019 19:06

Why don’t you change your username to big fart then if you like the name little fart so much?

coconuttelegraph · 16/08/2019 19:06

I have never heard little fart used to describe a person never mind a baby, it's a horrible way to describe a baby, whilst I probably wouldnt be offended Id steer clear of someone who said it as I would for the terms little shite/shit

Totally unecessary imo

feistymumma · 16/08/2019 19:07

Little farther? How is that even remotely cute? YABU to call any human being a litle fart and think it's a term of endearment

Bertieandernie · 16/08/2019 19:07

Lots of people love to be offended on here when no offence is intended I see Hmm

WelcomeToShootingStars · 16/08/2019 19:07

People must be trying awfully hard to be offended by that, surely?!

Babies often do smell, they are boring and they often are annoying.

yesIhaveanopinion93 · 16/08/2019 19:08

@Oysterbabe yes I do and the only reason I can't understand it being so bloody offensive as much as you lot are making out is because I have tried explaining the context in which it is used and still some are choosing to be offended by it. but maybe @forkfun is right in saying that language is used differently everywhere 💁🏻‍♀️ as I've said, I nor anyone I know that uses it, does so in any other way than affectionate.

@AmIThough your uncle is right.

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PasDeGeeGees · 16/08/2019 19:08

People often call their child a little poppet, which sounds nice, doesn't it? Nothing untoward there at all.

Until you find out what a poppet is.

SparklingGin · 16/08/2019 19:09

I live in Dublin and have never heard it used, I would find it offensive.

LadyRannaldini · 16/08/2019 19:10

This is MN, the home of perfection, of course people will be offended, many are offended by alphabetical order!
When we travelled back and forth to Germany we always referred to the baby stuff as the shit-kit, it was so perfectly descriptive, someone even then thought it was awful!

yesIhaveanopinion93 · 16/08/2019 19:11

@custardlover are you sure you are?
I think it has a lot to do with it!!! We are less formal with language, for the most part and as another poster stated, language is used differently everywhere.
For example, when I was in Kansas I was told that Americans much prefer the term 'oh my gosh' rather than 'oh my god' as a lot are fiercely religious and it's seen as offensive. Where here in Ireland, not so much.

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Juells · 16/08/2019 19:11

Maybe it's because I'm Irish, or maybe I'm on another planet but I've asked my friends with babies if it offends them and they all basically had the same reaction - laughed hard and said there were worse things somebody could say.

I'm Irish and never heard that, and wouldn't have liked my babies to be called little farts. It's insulting. You call someone a little fart when they're jumped-up and officious.

feistymumma · 16/08/2019 19:11

little fart

yesIhaveanopinion93 · 16/08/2019 19:12

@PasDeGeeGees what does poppet mean? Never called a child 'poppet' btw as it's a bit of a posh term..

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BertrandRussell · 16/08/2019 19:12

I have lots of Irish friends and family who manage to have good manners....

yesIhaveanopinion93 · 16/08/2019 19:12

@Juells are you serious? That is the name you would called somebody who is 'jumped up and officious'?! A little fart? Do they laugh at you when you call them that? I would..

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Oysterbabe · 16/08/2019 19:12

I find the idea that you can call babies rude terms if said with affection a bit odd. It probably won't seem as cute when they're older repeating it to their teachers.

Anyway I've got to go and put little Cunty Chops in bed so I'll catch up later.

MonstranceClock · 16/08/2019 19:13

Are you working class? As a foreigner, with an outsiders perspective, I usually see working class people are a lot more open with language and can be more crude. Middle class people tend to be really desperate not to appear to be working class so take offence at these sort of things.

Pardonwhat · 16/08/2019 19:13

I’m giggling.
Some of those are actually quite complimentary phrases among my friends. I guess it depends on the audience and the relationship you have!
Little fart is a new one and I shall be implementing the use of it as soon as I can.

feistymumma · 16/08/2019 19:13

Calling your own child little fart if you want to is ok but to meet someone else's child and say 'arent you a little fart' and expect the parents to find that amusing is unbelievable.

yesIhaveanopinion93 · 16/08/2019 19:15

@MonstranceClock define working class..
If it means I work my ass off to get myself through college, don't see myself as entitled, and also don't get offended at every little thing in life then yes I'm working class 😂 just kidding.. but yes, raised on little else but love!

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SexFarmWoman · 16/08/2019 19:15

Also Irish! Still wondering what is so offensive about my username?

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