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Neighbour walked straight through my house to tell my builder off

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rainandshine52 · 16/08/2019 07:36

We moved in to this house 2 years ago. Our neighbours have been lovely. They are younger than us with 2 small kids. My DD babysits from time to time. I am friendly with her but have realised she has 'an edge' to her. Last summer my DD was looking after their house and when they returned she came round and asked us if DD has eaten anything from the freezer as she had noticed some food had defrosted. DD was adamant she hadn't but I did explain there had been a brief power cut. She did not seem convinced and I 100% trusted my DD. Last week I was working from home and was upstairs. I heard footsteps across my hall and some words being exchanged. I can downstairs and my neighbour had walked through my house to find my builder to tell him off because he had parked about 10 inches over her drive. I said 'is everything alright?' She said 'yes it is now' and left. I feel a bit pissed off that she did not ring the bell and ask me if she could enter my house!

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Provincialbelle · 16/08/2019 07:38

I simply wouldn’t put up with that - tell the cheeky mare

sheshootssheimplores · 16/08/2019 07:38

She’s a CF lol (but I admire her style 🤭)

BadnessInTheFolds · 16/08/2019 07:44

That's massively weird

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 16/08/2019 07:50

She shouldn’t be letting herself in your house and the builder should not have parked on her driveway.

Maybe the builder let the front door open and she could see him on the house and didn’t realise you were in as well?

Original poster
rainandshine52 · 16/08/2019 08:03

Yes I thought maybe she had not seen me. However when I asked her if everything was ok I personally think that would have been a good point to say 'oh I didn't realise you were in. Sorry to just walk in but....' I feel a bit pissed off she didn't even attempt an apology.

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Ermmmmidunno · 16/08/2019 08:05

She sounds like a knobber.

YANBU

Chilledout11 · 16/08/2019 08:06

I hope your daughter isn't babysitting for her. I wouldn't like this at all. Very rude.

Horehound · 16/08/2019 08:08

Yanbu!

Nabana · 16/08/2019 08:11

She's a nut Grin

Original poster
rainandshine52 · 16/08/2019 08:11

Also my car was in drive and she knows that's my car. They came round last night and handed the keys to DH as they are going away. Following these incidents I am becoming more and more reluctant to help as I feel she could get quite funny but DH just shrugs it off.

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Pinkarsedfly · 16/08/2019 08:11

She sounds dreadful. No boundaries whatsoever.

No more babysitting and tell the cheeky mare to wind her neck in when if she does anything like that again.

herculepoirot2 · 16/08/2019 08:11

You need to tell her not to walk into your home. Outrageous behaviour.

missyB1 · 16/08/2019 08:12

She’s rude and a cheeky fucker. Stop your dd from babysitting and be very frosty towards her from now on. In fact distance yourself as much as possible, people like this need no encouragement.

ASimpleLampoon · 16/08/2019 08:18

Does your DD get paid for babysitting? I bloody well hope so..

Piffle11 · 16/08/2019 08:19

They've given DH they keys - I really wouldn't be allowing this to happen again: anything goes amiss with their property and no doubt they will be blaming you! Some people get away with rude/obnoxious/insensitive behaviour only because they are not called out on it. I wouldn't be letting my DD babysit again: complaining about some food from the freezer? What's going to happen when she misplaces money or jewellery? Is she going to be pointing the finger at your DD? Even if she felt comfortable enough to enter your home without asking, she should have rang the bell or knocked before entering, and shouted for you. Very entitled behaviour, she clearly has no boundaries and little respect for you.

verticality · 16/08/2019 08:21

I think you have to be aware that when you are having work done it massively effects your neighbours. There is no way to make a building site a clean, tidy, silent area. She's probably putting up with quite a lot of incursions over her own boundaries right now, by virtue of the work you are having done. So you do owe her a bit of patience. That said, she was rude to march into your house without knocking like that and she should have apologised. But I don't think you necessarily have the moral highground you think you do here. A bit of give and take goes a long way towards preserving good relations.

lovelookslikethis · 16/08/2019 08:24

You know lovely neighbour is not so lovely after all.
They will blame you for anything and everything that happens to their property.
Hand the keys back and say you are going away now at the last minute, she will need to find someone else.
No more babysitting or any other arrangements, and keep a cheerful distance.

Keep your doors locked etc, and make sure you tell her if she is overstepping the mark next time.

'Neighbour next time you come over, please can you knock first'

You have been warned, and I would heed the warning. Distance will be key to keep these neighbours on friendly terms.

OMGshefoundmeout · 16/08/2019 08:25

I agree she probably thought you were out, hence just walking in. The fact your car was in the drive doesn’t mean you are home!

That said,she sounds like a stroppy mare and I would be limiting contact from now on.

MrsEricBana · 16/08/2019 08:26

I'm not sure. Freezer thing might because fair question if it had been opened and not shut properly. If my neighbour's door was open and builder had blocked my car in I think I'd stick my head in and ask him politely to move it rather than bother her and suggest it her that her builders are causing me an issue. But perhaps do take this as a warning to be a bit wary as you don't want to get into a problematic relationship with her.

Ticklemeelmo · 16/08/2019 08:27

So rude. Tell her to knock next time

Or maybe just go marching into her house next time you need to speak to her

Boysey45 · 16/08/2019 08:30

I've had to put up with the neighbours relatives parking on my drive by just a bit for years. It really gets you down.
Your builder is an inconsiderate person OP. Also I'd go to just basic hellos and good morning etc with the NDN. I wouldn't be looking after he house etc. Say you cant do it anymore. She was bang out of order walking in your house, I'd be very pissed off about this.

DocusDiplo · 16/08/2019 08:30

Prick. Steer clear of her. She needs to learn some manners. Your DD can find someone kind and grateful to babysit for.

CoraPirbright · 16/08/2019 08:48

Annoying of your builder to park a little bit over her drive way. However, I would just stick to polite greetings from now on with this neighbour - no more favours like baby sitting or house watching. If anything goes wrong, I have a feeling she will be blaming you in the strongest terms.

Mary1935 · 16/08/2019 08:57

Why did she give you keys? What needs attending too?
She’s a bold women eh - I wouldn’t let my daughter babysit and I’d be tempted to post the keys back through. She sounds the type to accuse someone of theft!!!

ifonly4 · 16/08/2019 09:11

She's stepped over the boundaries of what's acceptable. Fair enough, she might have a grievance with the builder especially if she's secretly finding noise, dust etc a problem, but she can't just walk into your house. Even if the door was open, I'd except her to call out loud to get your attention.

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