Neighbour walked straight through my house to tell my builder off

[rainandshine52]

We moved in to this house 2 years ago. Our neighbours have been lovely. They are younger than us with 2 small kids. My DD babysits from time to time. I am friendly with her but have realised she has 'an edge' to her. Last summer my DD was looking after their house and when they returned she came round and asked us if DD has eaten anything from the freezer as she had noticed some food had defrosted. DD was adamant she hadn't but I did explain there had been a brief power cut. She did not seem convinced and I 100% trusted my DD. Last week I was working from home and was upstairs. I heard footsteps across my hall and some words being exchanged. I can downstairs and my neighbour had walked through my house to find my builder to tell him off because he had parked about 10 inches over her drive. I said 'is everything alright?' She said 'yes it is now' and left. I feel a bit pissed off that she did not ring the bell and ask me if she could enter my house!

I don't understand the freezer bit either.
If it was a brief power cut the food would have re frozen when the power came back on.
What was she on about?

Neighbour probably has a parking thread and has been advised by mumsnet to confront the CF builder parking on her drive.

It really isn't on though her marching through your house.

The freezer is just weird! I wouldn’t like that.

But the builder? The door was open, and she wanted a quick word about shifting the vehicle, yes? I have w friend who lives 2 doors down, who has been in my house many times. I don’t think she’d think twice about walking in (if the door were open definitely, and if closed but unlocked maybe) and having a quick word. She’d think she was helpful for not bothering me at all. She’s lovely - and though I wouldn’t do the same, I wouldn’t mind if she did. But then, she wouldn’t be telling the builder off, just asking politely! And I’d probably come down to voices of her having made a new friend! So I can see a situation where coming in isn’t awful.

But the freezer - fuck that!

She was very rude and entitled.

I would stop all favours and keeping contact to a cold hello.

I'd post the keys back through her letterbox.

And then shit through said letterbox for good measure.

In all honesty, I wouldn’t be doing the house/keys thing after the freezer questioning incident and her not seeming convinced. Hassle I don’t bleeding need, take your keys elsewhere. If I see someone breaking in I’ll call the police.

I wouldn't be looking after their house either. They could have the whole place 'bugged'.
Waiting to see if you're going to look in draws or cupboards (not that you would), but sounds like she wants to have a reason to hate you!
By all rights I should hate my NDN as the one and only time we asked them to look after the pets, they managed to kill 10 of our cockatiels and give us a bill for £50 for having one of our chickens put down!
...The story was that a fox got into the garden, maimed the chicken and scared the aviary birds to death.
Never let them into our property, but we still talk to each other.
This was 15 years ago.

Sounds like the affects of anxiety

It really doesn’t.

Yanbu. I get the impression that people who do that sort of thing feel like they are somehow better than the people they do it to. I'd NEVER do something like that, and find it hard to believe that she'd be ok if someone did that to her. So what gives her the right? That would annoy me to no end! If it was just the food/freezer thing, I might write it off as an anomaly in her personality, but the walking in the house thing? Kind of seals the deal...she's a knob.

Yes I thought when we first moved in she was really nice but uptight. I'm definitely going to keep things at arms length but DH is in la la land about it and doesn't think any of it is an issue. He grew up in a big Roman Catholic family where neighbours walk into other neighbours houses all the time. I've tried to explain this is not the same.

Tell her your freezer dissapeared and nobody has been in since she walked in

affects of anxiety? this is the last thing I or anybody I know who is diagnosed with it would ever think of doing. I wont even knock on people's door without a text conversation first.

Patroclus

He grew up in a big Roman Catholic family where neighbours walk into other neighbours houses all the time

😂😂😂😂 I can't imagine it's a religious requirement to do that! 😂😂

This is a Roman Catholic thing? I doubt it very much

Love thy neighbour does not equate to barging into their homes uninvited.

You've obviously not lived around big Irish families much!

Distance yourself from the neighbour but I would also be really pissed off at any builder who parked in front of a neighbour's drive and I hope you had words. It's extremely fucking entitled to block access to someone's drive just because you're carrying out work somewhere in the street and builders are famous for it.

Honestly I’d be telling my DD not to babysit anymore to avoid any further accusations. She sounds like a loose cannon

He grew up in a big Roman Catholic family where neighbours walk into other neighbours houses all the time
Maybe your husband told her just to walk in anytime.
This could all have been avoided by just answering back at the time- what on Earth do you think you are doing just walking in.
Same with handing over the keys- no, we don’t want to look after your house.
She’s walking over you and you seem to just be accepting it