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AIBU to be embarrassed about mowing the lawn?

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Folicky · 15/08/2019 05:52

Or maybe not unreasonable, but rather am I being neurotic in being embarrassed about mowing my own lawn?

I’m a single parent. I used to have a large front & rear garden and paid to have it mowed. I’m moved to a house on a smaller plot and it is definitely feasible that I mow the lawn. The only thing is, I think it advertises the fact that we’re without a geezer. And while I live semi-rurally, there are a little knot of houses around me, so others could see me doing it and I’m likely to be doing it at times when other people are around (evening or weekends) as I work regular full time hours. Maybe, I’m being a bit sensitive about it because my new & closest neighbours are being very boundaried / dick-ish if I ask for advice about anything eg whats’ the best gp surgery in the locality? Do you need BT and a satellite dish to get a good signal (it’s rural)?, etc. They seem to see that asking for advice as a sign that I’m a bottomless pit of requests when really they’ve been questions about quite discrete areas of life. I think they must have had a bad experience in the past. Somewhere in my psyche I think they’ll see me pushing a lawnmower in my garden as a request for help (it isn’t, I don’t want them or him in my garden) and it will feel awkward. I also don’t want to be adopting a stance of placating my new neighbours when they’re probably a bit difficult. That wouldn’t feel good to me, I don’t think.

Any other dude-less (for the moment) mothers feel this way?

Any solutions? From emboldening words to suggestions about early morning mowing, and advice welcome. Thanks.

OP posts:
DarrellMakepeace · 16/08/2019 07:53

What's wrong with not living with a man?
Why do you want to conceal this from people?
It just makes you sound batty.

SarahAndQuack · 17/08/2019 19:51

You sound almost homophobic, you know. I'm sure you don't mean to. But do you have any idea how your post reads?

We're two women living together in a very rural community, which also happens to be quite elderly. As it happens it's been a lovely, welcoming place, but posts like yours put me on edge and remind me there are people like you who think being 'dude-less' and a mother is somehow a source of shame.

It's a really nasty feeling, actually.

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