To think that he is ott about this woman?

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I’m totally sick of my boyfriend wittering on and on about his friend. Every conversation we have, her name seems to pop up . Her advice, her opinions, her intelligence, her humour. Boring on and on about her. He has too much contact with her and works with her too.He laughs at me when I ask him if he has feelings for her. As if I am being absurd because she is years older than him with kids and is married.I am sick of it but it doesn’t seem normal.he says he really enjoys her company and there is nothing else going on .

It really has only been serious a few months so I think that because he was so willing to stop the contact , he is taking it seriously now and is getting over his adulation . Do you agree?

Nope, but it’s your life and relationship, so you have to do what is best for you. Good luck with everything, I hope it works out well for you

Mmm. Doesn't sound good op. It's a shame the weather is pretty shit lately you could have a bbq and 'invite' her round. That would be interesting....

I Do not want to meet her . She spends most of her weekends with her family camping around wales . Wish she could stay there

How is he getting over his adulation? You said he has been agitated and always checking his phone since the reduced contact. That's not getting over someone.
I can't believe you would accept this crap. Your boyfriend is grieving the split with his crush and you want to stay with him??
You've only been together eight months-he should be infatuated with you, not some other woman.
Stop making excuses and dump the fucker.
Find someone that has 'mentionitis' about you.

He is not checking his phone as much now and has not said her name since our most recent conversation . There has been no social media activity either that I can see so the contact stopped very abruptly . I would like to see her message to him but it might be too cheeky to ask would It? I only have his end of things

You need to stop blaming her with your little comments about her staying in Wales. Your boyfriend clearly has a crush on her and likes that you are jealous. It doesn't always matter what someone looks like, but beauty is subjective anyway. My husband finds older women attractive and the fact there is a market for older women in porn means he can't be the only one.

I think your boyfriend is treating you badly here but I don't think you are ready to acknowledge it. I hope things work out for you

I Do not want to meet her . She spends most of her weekends with her family camping around wales . Wish she could stay there

You're a bit harsh on her OP. She hasn't actually done anything wrong at all. In fact, since she has known your bf of 8 months 5 years, posts loads of photos of her husband and family on her FB and has done nothing to encourage him, I'd say you should be pretty glad she is who she is. She sounds nothing like a very decent person.

Is it possible that you are a bit controlling and because this is a relatively new relationship your boyfriend is trying to demonstrate to you that he is allowed to have a life outside it, while doing so with a "safe" ie happily married woman?

Alternatively, if he is one of those men who drones on and on about someone else (usually female) then why don't you just ditch him and find someone more fun to be with?

Of course, its also possible that despite her great age, as you seem to describe it, this woman is very attractive, and has the sort of charisma that cannot help attracting male attention, despite her making no effort to do so.

Why are you blaming some innocent woman because of your boyfriend (who you've only known 5 minutes) inappropriate behaviour?

Why is her behaviour inappropriate? Surely it’s your bf you should be looking at.