Baby fucking mama!

[patrickstarismyspiritanimal]

My ex-dp and I never married, we didn't want to. We were together for 20 years and had 3 planned and wonderful kids.

He's got a new girlfriend who has recently had his baby. She's now calling me baby mama like I'm a one night stand and herself the mother of his child.

I don't speak to the girl, I actually have a restraining order against her but she's saying these things in front of my kids and my ex-ils.

She's very jealous of me, at one point she was stalking me and doing all kind of weird things. She knows I use this so she's probably on here searching for my old threads!

Would I bu to shover her in the bin where she belongs?

OP as you have got a restraining order against her then she is trying to get to you the only way she can.

Is there anyway of getting the restraining order to include the children as she’s using them as a way to get at you?

dontfluffit

What makes her sound like a young Romany lad?
Sorry, but I call it everytime I see it.

She has MH problems AND the poor cow is with your Ex partner who you left for DV reasons. I’d pity the poor woman

Yes, it’s a horrible derogatory term for someone who was with a man for 20 years and had 3 planned children, but she’s only making herself look stupid using it completely incorrectly

TRY to rise above her - shouldn’t be too hard 🤣🤣

I can understand why you are angry about being called this, I wouldn't like it either, but I think that after giving off steam on here, the best thing to do in real life is to rise above it. This young woman has got herself into a relationship with a horrible man, and she obviously has deep seated issues. She is someone to be pitied more than anything else. Do you honestly think the future is going to work out great for her? These people only impact your life for a few hours every month. You can rise above it.

Everyone knows the truth of what went on before she was ever even on the scene.

If anyone listens to her bile then they aren't the person you thought them to be an they aren't worth your time!

I'd probably have a chat to the kids though and explain that just like sometimes at school someone isn't nice to them or says something that isn't nice about someone else that happens with adults too and when that happens you just ignore it just like they would if someone said something not true or nasty at school unless they needed to tell an adult. It's the same with adults when something like that happens it's best just to ignore it unless it's serious then the police get called.

I mean obviously word it more personalised for your kids and circumstances but you know the type of thing I'm trying to say.
As long as they know from you the truth (in a age related way) then that's all that matters.

I'm just ranting on here and smiling in real life. I'm not letting the kids know it's annoyed me, I just changed the subject

I clicked on this thinking it was a rant about the awfulness of ‘baby mama’.

Sounds like you’re loving the drama tbh - if she stopped calling you baby mama and behaved sensibly I think you’d be disappointed because you’d have to find something new to get wound up about. Let me guess, this is all over Facebook as well?

Why oh why do people on here just make things up?

You are a grown woman who has successfully extricated herself from a violent relationship. She is a young woman with mental health problems who has had a child with an abusive older man and is probably very aware that she is the one who could more accurately be described as the baby mama. I would try and rise above this. Don’t buy into her pettiness and drama. If people report derogatory things she’s said just roll your eyes and tell them to ignore her.

Your DP is the one with visitation rights, not his girlfriend. If you have a restraining order against her and she has been convicted of stalking you and genuinely does have a severe mental health condition that has caused her to fixate on you, I’m not sure why she is now allowed access to your children and I would be considering consulting a solicitor.

You both seem a bit unhinged tbh

🤔🤨🙄. Hardly. I think the one with the restraining order obviously is. OP sounds far from unhinged. Is that really the best comment you could come up with?

Is he capable of being with someone and not getting them pregnant?

Roll your eyes and ignore her. Her words are only worth the weight you give them.

As another poster pointed out she has mental health issues and a partner with a history of DV. She has fixtated on you as a distraction from her own shitty life.

I know where I would rather be, given the choice between you!

Thanks @Rainonmyguitar

I'm booking an appointment first thing in the morning to speak to my solicitor, hopefully the first half hour is free

Bloody hell there's some knickers being twisted today. One person has a restraining order, the other posted on mumsnet, and they're both as bad as each other? As if.

I understand the pettiness of it OP, a girlfriend of my dd's dad once went on his moonpig account and cancelled my mother's day card

She sounds crazy and given things it is hard to say .
Keep a log of events including any upsets with your children.
Then report her if you think she is breaching her order.
It must be horrid for you all.

@PixieLumos

Sounds like you’re loving the drama tbh - if she stopped calling you baby mama and behaved sensibly I think you’d be disappointed because you’d have to find something new to get wound up about. Let me guess, this is all over Facebook as well?

What a spiteful cuntish thing to say

I actually have a restraining order against her but ...

Sorry but I couldn't get passed that

Oh shit sorry OP I thought YOU had the restraining order!

Ignore and Ignore .... silence is golden and all that

Sounds like the baby mama is the least ok what could happen!

I understand completely why you're annoyed. However, If I've followed your posts correctly, your exP was a violent abuser and the new girlfriend has severe mental health issues. I'd be more concerned for her as a human being as it sounds like she is in an extremely vulnerable position.

Umm is everyone maybe overreacting a bit? Yeah it’s cringe but it’s just slang, it isn’t even a derogatory term it just means you’re the mother of his children, which you obviously are. I don’t get what you are upset about? I mean cringe away, I would. But the slang itself is pretty inoffensive.

It is very american and therefore sounds ridiculous said in the UK
But the OP used the term "high school" which is also American so maybe she actually is in America where "baby mama" would be a bit more offensive?

OP please dont say it "triggered me" it makes light of people who actually have a trigger for PTSD and such like.

Not really Oldraver. There’s domestic violence and restraining orders and kids involved in this situation, but yeah ‘baby mama’ as an personal insult is what’s the main issue to me that is soaking up the drama and the OP making it all about herself. I’d be terrified for my kids in this situation - ‘baby mama’ wouldn’t even register.