To take DH up on this offer

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DH has an annoying yappy dog. Yappy dog and I intensely dislike each other. When DH and I got married, DH and his dog moved in with me, because they came as a package deal - fine (I love DH that much). DH does all the dog care. Dog and I avoid each other at all costs and try very hard not to be in the same room ever. Whenever DH has to go on a work trip for a night or two, I feed and walk the dog without grumbling.

Now DH is going away for a fortnight and has offered, without me suggesting this, to put his yappy friend in (nice, expensive) kennels for the duration of the trip. AIBU to say "Yes, please"? I know I could technically look after the dog, but having a break from it sounds blissful.

YANBU. It is good of him to be sensitive to your feelings, and he has offered ... why on earth would it be unreasonable of you to accept?

Maybe you and yappy dog could get to like each other if DH wasn't there. Wouldnt it be worth a try, maybe yappy dog is just jealous of you.

I would accept, he sounds like a very nice oh and very reasonable. Dogs are very tying and he really seems to have thought about it.

How old is the dog/how much longer is it likely to be around? If it’s a long time then it might be worth buckling down for these two weeks and cracking the bond between you?

What lovely reasonable behaviour from both of you. Of course take him up on it.

If yappy dog and I were going to bond, I think it would have happened by now...we've been living together for years. I work from home, so we're 'together' in separate rooms most of the time

Bite your partner's hand off! Two weeks of dog-free bliss...

I think if my partner wasn't keen on my beloved pet, I'd far rather the pet was in a lovely kennels for two weeks instead of being tolerated (however nicely) and lonely without me for two weeks.

Two weeks off? Go for it.
If you don't do it, try getting very tasty dog treats (or a pocket of chicken bits like that dog training man) and see if you can teach yappy all sorts of new tricks while he's gone, I bet Dh would be amazed. Bed! Play dead! and roll over! to start.

I love my dog. Like maybe slightly, a little bit obsessed with him kinda love... but I'd bite my H's hand off for a bit of a break too (he's like a constant ball of energy, practically another child in the house). Not for two weeks but certainly for a couple of days

YANBU. So long as the kennels really are nice and won't be awful for him

Or EBay.

As you say then if the dogs been around you for a long time the bonding period seems to be long gone. It's a very nice and considerate suggestion from your DH take him up on it.

OP I must admit if my partner did not like my dog deep down it would crush me. Could you not take this time to try? And actually try? He clearly loves you AND the dog very very much. What don’t you actually like about the dog? Do you like dogs at all? (Deffo try therapy if you don’t like dogs (kind of lighthearted)

I couldn't justify the absolute waste of money tbh. Even if it's an affordable waste, it's just needless.

And there’s never ever ever ever ever ever ever any guarantee that kennels are nice and ok for your dog. It all depends on the dog really, and whether they will be okay in that environment. And you won’t know... which makes it worse. (I’m very very pro dog - human? Not so much)

Yes definitely, dog goes to kennels, no second thoughts.
DH is also off for a 2 week trip of a lifetime in September, I had hoped that dog would stay with dog walkers for at least one week of it, but for various reasons that can't happen so I do feel somewhat resentful that I'm the mug picking up looking after the dog when I didn't want him in the first place.

NB dog is sleeping cutely beside me, so he's not all bad, just hate the stinky dog food first thing in the morning and the constant walking all the time.

Definitely accept. I think it was very considerate of your DH to offer this option without any hint that you should be up for looking after yappy dog for two weeks. I don’t like dogs and would not be up for a fortnight of dog care.

Accept the offer, my Dcat is a nightmare and I will put her in a cattery when I next go away with work as she was hard work last time

Waste of money for kennels, when you work from home anyway. I think it’s awful to send a dog away to kennels, which may well be stressful for the dog.

But I’m biased because I would never marry someone that doesn’t like dogs, or animals in general. I think it’s weird, and doesn’t imply you’re a very nice person.

That’s a bit harsh Derbee!

Take him up on it! Some pets do not like their humans partner and nothing will change that. Kennels are variable- there are good ones and bad ones. If it is one your DH has not used before, you could offer to do surprise visit to kennel to make sure yappy dog is well cared for.

Lol re earlier post saying you’re not a very nice person. I think you must be a saint to marry someone and put up with their yappy dog, I couldn’t do it!

@Derbee
I don’t like dogs. Because I’ve been mauled by a Great Dane who ran me down like a deer and dragged me off my cycle with her jaws.

But I guess that’s makes me not a nice person in your book? I beg to differ, I am simply irresistibly delicious to dogs and so I live and let live.

I'm pretty sure the kennels are nice. PIL's dog goes there occasionally and comes back all fluffy, clean smelling and with a new vocabulary!

YANBU - I'd totally take him up on it, gives you a break!