To take DH up on this offer

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DH has an annoying yappy dog. Yappy dog and I intensely dislike each other. When DH and I got married, DH and his dog moved in with me, because they came as a package deal - fine (I love DH that much). DH does all the dog care. Dog and I avoid each other at all costs and try very hard not to be in the same room ever. Whenever DH has to go on a work trip for a night or two, I feed and walk the dog without grumbling.

Now DH is going away for a fortnight and has offered, without me suggesting this, to put his yappy friend in (nice, expensive) kennels for the duration of the trip. AIBU to say "Yes, please"? I know I could technically look after the dog, but having a break from it sounds blissful.

I would never leave my dog in the care of someone who disliked it so much. Definitely say yes to the kennels - DH is probably worried about the dog, I would be

Do it. YANBU.

OP you’ve tried your best but neither of you has felt inclined to bond. Let the dog have his holiday. Our Vet runs a place where the guests appear very happy, certainly our darling cat didn’t complain and he was adored ( by us and the “holiday inn” staff)
Unless excessively shy I think pets enjoy the extra stimulation.
Go for it

I would put him in kennels if he is used to it. We looked after a friend's dog when they were in holiday and it died. I think they always thought we did something wrong - (she was really old and was dead on the sofa in the morning) have been loathe to look after anyone's after that!

Let him do it. Caring for an animal you hate isn't fair on the animal, you may be tempted to bite each other.

Yep I would do it. For the person who says people who don't like dogs are not very nice people, frankly you are an idiot. Some dogs are not nice dogs for a start .

I love dogs but in your situation I'd go for it! You'll at least be able to go out/go to work etc without having to worry.

Let’s face it there are dogs and dogs. I am a cat person, had cats for thirty years, never had a dog, but I could love a springer or a lab but MILs yappy, crotch sniffing mini poodle cross something? Not a chance. She isn’t allowed to bring it for Christmas lunch, i cant stand it. I would never look after it whilst she went away.

Never ever.

YANBU YANBU YANBU YANBU

I quite like the idea of one week (or may 10 days?) kennels and then you collect it and see if makes you two bond.

I love my dogs - but even i would ship my 2 off to kennels for a break!!

Yanbu. Gives you both a break. Better then both being stressed with one yappy and one snappy.

Let yappy dog go to the kennel. I reckon you will miss yappy dog though, and secretly love it to bits!

One of my neighbours puts their beloved energetic dog in kennels whenever one of them is away for work for a week or more.

The logic is that it is too constraining and too much work for one person who works full time. They like to have a couple of nights out when the other is away and getting home first after work to take care of the dog spoils that.

The kennels are lovely.

Take him up on his offer.

I actually think this is the perfect opportunity to get to like the dog as he’s probably “protecting his master” when he’s there.

Sit next to him (he must stay on the floor - you’re the head of the pack whilst DH is away), you don’t need to touch him unless he asks for a cuddle. Use positive tones, say good boy and make friends with him. Give him a few healthy treats. Call his name to get him to come to you. Always eat before him (pack thing again).
You can always have the kennels number on standby.

Definitely take up your husband's offer. It's considerate of him and you will be as free as a bird while he's away. Lovely jubbly.

I would never marry someone that doesn’t like dogs, or animals in general. I think it’s weird, and doesn’t imply you’re a very nice person

I'm a very nice, kind and caring person who has lots of friends and work, unpaid, to raise cash for charity, and also for Home Start by giving people under stress a break from caring duties.

But I fucking hate dogs.

something about the situation makes me feel a bit like a wicked stepmother!

Nah, you're a saint putting up with it. It would never have crossed my threshold.

I’d look around first. We took my family dog once to some highly rated kennels. She was distraught on our return and clearly so upset. I could never do it to another animal it would break me. Maybe see how the dog gets on for a trial weekend or something first?

@VenusTiger dogs don't form packs (they form loose social groups which are very different in make up and behaviour). Even wolves - who DO form packs - don't have a strict linear hierarchy so don't have a leader in the way we used to think they did, and the babies most often eat first, not the grown ups.

Any attempt to trick a dog into thinking you are an alpha leader of it's pack is going to be a waste of time because...
a) they don't behave like wolves and form packs
b) even if they did, wolf packs do not have alphas; they have parents who most often make decisions on behalf on their youngest offspring until those offspring are old enough to make their own decisions. At that point it seems like decision making is much more shared/democratic and not just made by one 'top' male.

I vote go for it! I like dogs but yapping gets on my nerves big time

Are you unreasonable to say yes to an offer someone else has made? Is that really your question?

You’re perfectly entitled not to like the dog.
My DP has grown to love my dog, but admits he wouldn’t choose to have a dog if I hadn’t come with him as a package.
If I died he wouldn’t keep my dog - he would be very carefully re-homed to a family who would love him.

If the kennels are good and the dog will be happy there - go for it!

Yes to kennels

Really sad you don't love the dog though

Can we see a pic of its gorgeousness ?