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Original poster

To take DH up on this offer

74 replies

splitthedifference · 12/08/2019 17:18

DH has an annoying yappy dog. Yappy dog and I intensely dislike each other. When DH and I got married, DH and his dog moved in with me, because they came as a package deal - fine (I love DH that much). DH does all the dog care. Dog and I avoid each other at all costs and try very hard not to be in the same room ever. Whenever DH has to go on a work trip for a night or two, I feed and walk the dog without grumbling.

Now DH is going away for a fortnight and has offered, without me suggesting this, to put his yappy friend in (nice, expensive) kennels for the duration of the trip. AIBU to say "Yes, please"? I know I could technically look after the dog, but having a break from it sounds blissful.

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fleshmarketclose · 12/08/2019 18:11

I think kennels are pretty harsh on dogs, can you look for home from home boarding instead?

NotVeryMatureForAnOldLady · 12/08/2019 18:14

Absolutely put the dog in kennels - because it would be awful if it died (of natural causes) in your care. #suspectno.1

OtraCosaMariposa · 12/08/2019 18:17

FFS, dog people just can't accept that not everyone is like them. Not liking dogs doesn't make you a bad person. OP shouldn't spend the fortnight spending quality time with a yappy dog she hates.

Kennels is perfect.

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splitthedifference · 12/08/2019 18:19

NotVeryMature This has actually crossed my mind, especially as the dog is no spring chicken and has a tendency to hoover up all sorts of crap from the side of the road. It would be just my luck! Blush

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Pursefirst · 12/08/2019 18:21

I'd do it OP!

Myself and DH have dogs and his fiend is so badly-behaved when he isn't there (which is v rare, thank goodness) that she goes to board with our dog walker.

You and yappy dog will be much happier with that arrangement (as will your DH I daresay)

BuildBuildings · 12/08/2019 18:22

OP you must really love your hubby. My partner is my world but if he came with a yappy dog I'm not sure I could accept them as a package! Grin(we've been together so long do would probs be dead now anyway...) definitely take him up on the offer.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 12/08/2019 18:22

I don’t know why this even needs a thread. DH has offered (voluntarily) and you want it to happen. What’s the AIBU?

Surfskatefamily · 12/08/2019 18:23

Do it. I worked in a kennels years ago and honestly the dogs had a great time. We played with them in a big yard and they got 2 walks a day... Lots of attention too

MustStop · 12/08/2019 18:24

YANBU it isn't your dog and you shouldn't have to take care of it.
Take him up on the offer.

hughwhatascorcher · 12/08/2019 18:24

Not liking dogs doesn't make you a bad person

This.

@Derbee Do you really belive that everyone who doesn't like dogs is "not very nice"?

Ariela · 12/08/2019 18:26

Compromise and do the weekends, but dog --> daycare or kennels while you are working?

MustStop · 12/08/2019 18:28

But I’m biased because I would never marry someone that doesn’t like dogs, or animals in general. I think it’s weird, and doesn’t imply you’re a very nice person.

Dogs are working dogs or shit factories, or just shit factories if your breed is a worker and doesn't. Grin

ReanimatedSGB · 12/08/2019 18:28

Definitely take him up in it. It's fine not to like dogs, or to dislike a particular barky shit machine, as long as you are not actively cruel.

flouncyfanny · 12/08/2019 18:30

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category12 · 12/08/2019 18:30

Absolutely take him up on it.

Ragwort · 12/08/2019 18:32

Of course the dog should go into kennels.

And how ridiculous to say that just because people don’t like dogs it makes them ‘a not very nice person’. Hmm

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splitthedifference · 12/08/2019 18:33

barky shit machine Grin

Re. why I started a thread - I was expecting to be flamed to be honest, I thought I might be U because something about the situation makes me feel a bit like a wicked stepmother!

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Preggosaurus9 · 12/08/2019 18:37

I love dogs though not yappy ones and I'd say of course use doggy day care!

Stripyhoglets · 12/08/2019 18:40

Yeah but it's a dog not a kid. It's not like you've popped a child in with social services while your dhis away! I love dogs but I think it's completely reasonable to take him up on this offer!

missbattenburg · 12/08/2019 18:48

I adore dogs and most of my non-working time is soent with one or three.

I still vote for you to take this offer. Sounds like bliss and certainly no harm in you both (you & dog) enjoying your fortnight in different ways vs enduring it together :)

ilikemethewayiam · 12/08/2019 18:51

My dog is my world but I appreciate not everyone likes them. When I met my DH he wasn’t interested in dogs at all but I made it clear we could not live in the same house if he didn’t like my dog. They are now best buddies and my dog adores him! If I were in your shoes I would definitely accept his offer and enjoy the peace and quiet, providing the kennels are a good safe environment of course.

bmbonanza · 12/08/2019 18:59

If he has offered then great. If you have suggested it then no.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 12/08/2019 19:04

You could compromise and put Yappy Dog in for the first week, then he spends the next week with you:

You'll have 100% peace for a week
You then pick him up (make sure you DO remember tocollect him Wink )

Yappy Dog will be sooooo grateful to see you
Spend a week bonding over liver cake

Pocket the cash that the 2nd week would've cost ( get DH to pay you direct) and buy yourself something nice as a reward

Tell Yappy Dog every day how lucky he is to be at home even though it's under sufferance and he could've been in 2 weeks (he won't understand , just use a Nice Voice)

Seriously ,though if the dog is old , he really just needs his home comforts .

Billben · 12/08/2019 19:05

I would never marry someone that doesn’t like dogs, or animals in general.

Completely your choice.

I think it’s weird, and doesn’t imply you’re a very nice person.

😂🤣😂 Don’t Be so stupid

MerryDeath · 12/08/2019 19:16

YANBU. and well done for bagging such a reasonable DH too.