Interested to know your thoughts on a disagreement I had with DH last night.
We are just back from holiday. We had planned a two-week camping holiday in Cornwall but had to cut it short by a few days due to the bad weather. Originally we were going to come home on Sunday and he was going to go back to work on Thursday. Instead we came back on Thursday and he’s gone back to work today.
On Friday I started the very normal post holiday process of washing and being a slightly damp camping holiday there was lots of it. Clothes, towels, sleeping bags other blankets/bedding and as we have a washer/dryer rather than separate machines and the weather was rubbish for drying it’s fair to say it has taken ages to get through. On the Friday, DH went off for the day to do his hobby so I had all three kids at home. Saturday, the weather was awful so I thought it was a good day to just plough through chores that needed to be done. DH moped around not knowing what to do with himself. Sunday he and DS went to a sporting activity and we all went out in the afternoon.
Come yesterday evening, DH said to me that he was annoyed that I had spent the remainder of HIS holiday time doing jobs when he had wanted us to do family stuff together like we would have done if we had still been on holiday. He’s annoyed that I just seemed to be trying to get all the jobs done over the weekend so that I could have fun with the kids while he’s back at work. He feels that I should have left it all till Monday so that he could make the most of his holiday time and I could do all the jobs once he’s back at work even though he knows I would also have three children including a baby to look after as well as that’s what I would have done if we hadn’t come back till Sunday as originally planned. However as I said previously he wasn’t going to go back to work till Thursday if that had been the case.
I think he’s being massively entitled! I admit that a big part of me wanted to get a lot of the post-holiday unpacking and washing done over the weekend so that I can focus on the kids when he’s back at work on Monday but is that so wrong? Or should I have just pretended we were all still on holiday and put all the jobs off till he was back at work so that he could make the most of HIS holiday? I should add that I did the vast majority of these jobs not him and I kept encouraging him to take the kids out or go out and do something if he wanted to rather than moping around the house but he didn’t. Who is being unreasonable?