Dp won't leave

[Spanglyprincess1]

So I finally had a bit of enough, it was over something relatively small but the straw broke the camels back and I can't do this for another day let alone a year.
I asked dp to leave. Its my home, he owns nothing in it apart from his work stuff and the dsc beds. Obviously he can collect everything etc later or now as I wouldn't take things that arnt mine.
He refused to leave and is acting like I'm being unreasonable. He says he has too much work to do (wfh) and won't go. I've asked him repeatedly to please go even just for a while initlaly. He keeps says he won't and that it's ridiculous, I said I need space and him being here is making things worse. We have a 13mth old that I don't wnat to be around the bad feeling.
He has somewhere to go to, his parents.
I don't know what I can do. I don't wnat to call police or anything as we have a child together and will need to Co parent regardless of what happens between us.

HE can have a bottle before bed. It is fine.

Surely that depends on whether he'll take a bottle? My DD wouldn't go near one, nor use a sippy cup. It was breast or nothing.

He will but I will hurt iuswim if he does, as he has a full feed at night and in the mornings. I'm planning on weaning him at 18 months anyway so it'd not long.

Days for so many hours to start with.

Overnight possibly eow from 2

Oh gosh I hadn't realised you were the holiday poster. So sorry, how's it going now.

He sounds like an arse. Can you pack his stuff while he is out/away?

I'm slightly feeling a bit for him as living with you has left him with less rights than a lodger. That may be how it has to be but I wonder why it can't wait for the weekend for him to leave? Walking away from his chlid must be difficult for him. Have you asked him when he will go? Is it the end of the world if he leaves on Friday or Saturday? Or do you think he is planning on digging in his heels for the longer term?

He is a lodger legally speaking.
No he's talking weeks which is what we settled on, not days.
I moved countries with less notice for work before.

Does he have a plan, somewhere to go?
Is there a reason for the delay or is he hoping you'll change your mind?

Sorry if I sound a bit harsh I'm just not that sympathetic that an adult who is nearly 40 has saved nothing in his life, no pension. No pot of saving for emergencies nothing, despite having significantly lower living costs than anyone else I know including myself.
It's one of the reasons tbh as I can't imagine being this unstable in 5 10 or 20 years time and supporting a child too.

Yep parents and it's due to logistics around work, moving stuff and making space at where he's going. So reasonable ish

Set a hard deadline then, expect him to be moving stuff each weekend etc
If he's there after then I'd start putting it in the garden

It's okay as you can probably guess I can be firm when needed. Although a degree of flexibility and working together is needed, like I said earlier we have a joint child so no reason to make things worse if it can be avoided.