Fucking confused

[bastardmarriedmen]

A few weeks ago I met a man on a work do and we drunkenly flirted. He told me he wanted sex with me. I said I wouldn't and went home. But he continued messaging me asking me sexual questions. I was flattered so reciprocated. Eventually I picked up on a few things about him that made me realise he was after one thing entirely and I backed off. I think he was gaslighting me. He was making out I was crazy because I was questioning him over the rumours about him being a womaniser. I know I am completely better off without him but I keep thinking did I get him wrong. Should I have been kinder to him. I keep thinking about him but I know he is a narcissist. It's doing my head in. He's left now. And he blanked me after I told him to leave me alone.

Well he's a catch, OP.

Married for two weeks, wants sex with you although you're in a relationship.

Mmmmm. I would get back in touch immediately. You're made for one another.

You've got it into your head that he was interested in YOU. He wasn't - he just wanted sex. He said that from the beginning. Because you were flirting and then returning his texts he thought there was still a chance that you would have sex with him. When he realised there wasn't, he lost interest and got abusive. Now you're blaming yourself … why? Because he's acting like an arsehole? He was always an arsehole, but disguised it as he wanted sex. It sounds as though you miss the attention. Asking him questions about why he's like this, telling him you've heard rumours that he's a womaniser? Why on earth would you keep talking to him after hearing that?! And then act like you're trying to work him out, or understand why he's like that?? You've completely romanticised what was in fact a rather grim, sleazy situation: married man tells married woman he wants to shag her. Married woman says no, but keeps lines of communication open and flirts … you're as bad as each other.

So, you were cheating on your dh by sexting a married bell-end. Rather than take any responsibility for this whatsoever, and apologise to your own husband, you've decided you're the victim in this?!? Lol, nice one.

When he realised there wasn't, he lost interest and got abusive

Not sure he got abusive. I mean he told her she was crazy for suggesting he was a womaniser, but I don't think that's really a clean cut case of abuse, more he was being a lying arsehole. When she questioned if he wanted a proper relationship with her, the let's leave our spouses malarkey he said she was scaring him and blocked her.

Which most folks in this scenario would do 😂