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Biggest Shithole in the UK

513 replies

DickieDonkey · 10/08/2019 20:23

Am retiring soon so want to relocate away from the rat race but everywhere I consider away from the Home Counties seems to be regarded as a dump. Money goes further away from the SE, I thought about Norfolk which is within reasonable distance of civilisation but my friends think that it is backwards/racist. Is it true that Lincs/Cambs/Norfolk is best avoided. AIBU to move?

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Matildalamp · 11/08/2019 00:30

@SheWoreBlueVelvet
Having just come back from Scotland I have no idea why people are recommending it. Everything is miles apart and very similar to the last place when you do get there. Grey seems to be the colour of choice for the utilitarian houses and the bloody weather. Yes the scenery is pretty but it’s three hours in every direction to get to it from wherever you started.

I don’t know where to start with this. It’s all nonsense Confused

Rachelover40 · 11/08/2019 00:32

Whitstable is lovely, op, especially the Tankerton end.

HobbyIsCodeForDogging · 11/08/2019 00:35

@DickieDonkey where in particular do you currently live? What are the things you like and dislike about it?

cannycat20 · 11/08/2019 00:40

If you'd like to move somewhere that your friends will probably approve of, then:

Exeter
Bath
Cornwall in the summer

Small villages in the Cotswolds (I'm not sure Gloucester or even Cheltenham would be quite the right locale but somewhere like Cirencester might do at a pinch - the Royal Agricultural College is just up the road, and Cheltenham Ladies' College is in Cheltenham, to give you an idea)

Bristol - though you might find some parts of it a little too vibrant, real and diverse to meet with your friends' approval. I do understand, however, it is in the process of being civilised. House prices have certainly soared in the last few years and it's considerably easier to get sourdough bread.

If you have to move to the north, then parts of York or Richmond or Harrogate might suit you. I've heard York described as "a southern town in the north of England". (Disclaimer - exiled Geordie here, who has lived all round England and elsewhere.)

I'm delighted for those in the north east who have been able to profit from the bottomless pockets of "DFLs" - or I suppose, technically, "UFLs" geographically. This is exactly why large parts of the south west are now utterly unaffordable for the offspring of families who lived there for generations and why much of the coastal West Country now pretty much only has ghost towns in winter. I know that doesn't apply to the coast around Newcastle, obviously; but if OP is used to the relatively balmy climate of the Home Counties I don't think the biting winds of the North Sea would suit, really. (And that's in August, most years.)

OP, if you did move to the north east, I'm not sure anywhere but Durham, Jesmond, Gosforth, Tynemouth, possibly Darras Hall, and some parts of Northumberland would suit your friends, really.

And if you did decide to move to Scotland, the culture shock anywhere but Edinburgh might be a little too much, I suspect.

Good luck finding somewhere.

HappyLoneParentDay · 11/08/2019 00:54

Excuse me?!

These three pictures depict the area in which I live

IN NORTH YORKSHIRE!!!! A very looong ways north of Home Counties!!

For goodness sakes.

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HappyLoneParentDay · 11/08/2019 00:56

@Spaceprincess Bottom of the Chevin? Or B in W?

HappyLoneParentDay · 11/08/2019 00:58

@isseywithcats Whereabouts are you Issey? I'm in Harrogate x

Mileysmiley · 11/08/2019 01:41

I like Devon

Dowser · 11/08/2019 06:44

My town in th ne has been thoroughly trashed over the years but again you get loads of house for your money.
We are a 5 minute drive from several lovely beaches and even less from the countryside.
We have a lovely warm , covered in shoppping centre and still plenty of independent restaurants . We haven’t been hit by two many chains...not counting Greggs or macdonalds...we have an independent carvery that knocks the spots off Toby for quality and price
We have a multi screen cinema, bowling greens and alleys some good museums and art galleries and old ships.
It’s still a nice place to raise kids and there’s an amazing community spirit
My dh and grandson recently did a walk to raise money for a local museum. Over 200 people turned out and raised over £20,000
Yes we have food banks, soup kitchens, etc but the townspeople rally round to support them.

There’s a feeling that if you slip through the net there’s support from the people who will help you.

Dowser · 11/08/2019 06:47

Happyloneparentday
Is that Knaresborough, I know one of the pics is york.
We live half the week just outside of york.
Love it.

Nautiloid · 11/08/2019 06:55

There's an abandoned cesspit on my neighbour's farm. I reckon she'd sell it too you for £40.

Nautiloid · 11/08/2019 06:56

To you

BenWillbondsPants · 11/08/2019 07:01

I hate the home counties. Full of uneducated arseholes ...

allthegins · 11/08/2019 07:14

The north east is a shit hole. Full of people with massive chips in their shoulders. Especially Sunderland.

Spaceprincess · 11/08/2019 07:17

@HappyLoneParentDay Addingham :)

Gladimnotcampinginthisweather · 11/08/2019 07:22

According to Wikipedia Hertfordshire is in the Home Counties (I had to look it up).
I assume the OP doesn't live in Watford.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 11/08/2019 07:22

North Nottinghamshire is lovely, lots of ex pit villages which are all being rejuvenated and cheap as chips (some shit holes too mind you), we'll away from the rat race and rural.

Lincolnshire can be lovely (too flat for me).

I love Harrogate, Wetherby and surrounding areas (not so cheap as chips tho)

Ski4130 · 11/08/2019 07:26

The attitude that everywhere outside the Home Counties is shit is in itself a stupid attitude. I can’t speak for Norfolk, I’ve never been there, but can tell you that our little corner of the world (South West, Bristol area) is amazing. Diverse, interesting, culturally rich and friendly. Get out your Home Counties bubble and go and experience other places.

origamiunicorn · 11/08/2019 07:28

This is one of the most purposefully goady posts I've seen on here for a while. Not sure it's even true but just a way to rule up everyone who lives outside the Home Counties.

I thought about Norfolk which is within reasonable distance of civilisation

If this is true I'd stay where you are OP no one else needs or wants a small minded snob in their home town.

Rock4please · 11/08/2019 07:33

There are some very chippy and aggressive people on this thread - no wonder the OP has fled. Or perhaps the thread is a wind up and OP is laughing at all those who have risen to the bait! Grin

Ellisandra · 11/08/2019 07:33

OP not been back then!

I’m surprised that so many people have been kind enough to answer this seriously and helpfully.

As the OP has plenty of other posts, I think she’s genuinely rude and ignorant, not just pissing about being goady for some stupid reason.

@DickieDonkey do come back and explain your “civilisation” comment Hmm

MrsExpo · 11/08/2019 07:45

OP please do not move to Derbyshire.

It’s beautiful and full of lovely people who really don’t need someone with your attitude living amongst them.

Gormanuary · 11/08/2019 08:02

My advice is don't forget to consider the weather - a few degrees colder can really make a difference.

Also consider the difference between surface friendliness and actual openness to making new friends/similar interests/outlook type stuff. People always recommend places as "friendly" meaning the former, but to actually move there you need to fit in to some extent. (I sometimes felt like an alien living in the North East after the South. People were friendly (though sexist) but it just wasn't my planet!)

Nautiloid · 11/08/2019 08:05

I just assumed it was a wind up...if it's a genuine thread my mind is boggled!

leckford · 11/08/2019 08:11

If you are the MN types who seem to want, artistic, crafts, coffee shops and diversity beyond the M25 is probably not for you.

There are many interesting and attractive places beyond there but perhaps too English for you.

Beware of moving somewhere just because the houses are cheap