DH had a vasectomy yesterday. All went well, he's a bit sore but no problems so far. Walking normally, managing fine with paracetamol etc. For context, we have a 4yo and a 9 mo.
Before we left the clinic we were told by the Nurse that, as well as all the aftercare advice we had been expecting based on our research, DH must not pick up our 9 month old DS at all for two weeks.
I was surprised by this as she had just said he should be fine to drive, go back to work and basically resume all his usual activities in 2-3 days. I assumed I had misheard her at first but she confirmed it was 2 weeks, not days.
So if he can't pick him up that basically means DH can't be left alone with the baby for any significant length of time for two whole weeks. We've no family support other than my parents, who are on holiday for the next two weeks. So in order to follow the Nurses advice I've had to cancel a medical appointment on Monday (which I've been told cannot be rescheduled for several weeks) and will also have to cancel a couple of meetings that have been planned for weeks as I can't leave the house without DS in tow.
DS is currently teething so he's pretty clingy and miserable at the moment, constantly wanting to be held and waking several times a night. We've had nights recently where he's woken up every 30 mins- 1 hour and is always up for the day at around 5am. I know I'm BU to be making this about me when DH has just had an op but the thought of all the night wakings being down to me to deal with, plus not being able to go anywhere alone for the next couple of weeks is pretty grim. I'm sure I'd feel differently if DH was properly laid up and on bed rest or something, but he's going to be back at work, socialising with friends, doing everything he normally does except look after DS while I'm going to be very restricted. I know it's not anyone's fault and I need to just suck it up. I have PND which is almost certainly contributing to how fed up I'm feeling about this. I'm supposed to be having weekly sessions with a therapist but won't be able to see him for two weeks now.
Has anyone else's DH been given the same advice about picking up young DC following a Vasectomy? AIBU to think that this advice isn't realistic for many parents and to wonder why, since DH has been told he will be able to resume all his other normal activities in a few days, picking DS up in particular would be so detrimental to his recovery?