To say - It really is just one day

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I see so many brides on here, and irl getting so her up about a single issue about their wedding. I was the same- spent £300 on veil - that I just “had” to have. Was panic shopping two days before for bridesmaid gifts etc.

I’ve now been married for about 5 years and within a month thought - I loved it, but all that money - all that fuss- it was just ONE DAY.

I’m not talking about marriage, simply weddings, id to remind panicking brides to be that - honestly - afterwards you will remember it fondly, it will be a great day, but it really is just one (that tbh you can only half remember as it goes so quickly).

Aibu to ask - if you’re married - be honest - do you feel the same?

And you don't get brownie points for spending £20 and having it down the pub.

You do from me.
@PooWillyBumBum's wedding sounds brilliant - every bit of it:
We did registry office then a curry with 8 of us. Then knocked £20k off the mortgage. Perfect. Our wedding night was spent on the sofa watching Peep Show and drinking champagne from the bottle.

I cannot fathom why people spend so much on 1 day, which is usually at a time of their lives when they'd be far better off putting the money into buying/paying off a chunk of their home together.

It also so often seems to become more about everybody else, & conspicuous consumption, than a day for the B&G to simply celebrate each other.

I cannot fathom why people spend so much on 1 day, which is usually at a time of their lives when they'd be far better off putting the money into buying/paying off a chunk of their home together

Good job it isn’t your money then

I go for a curry all the time. It isn’t a special thing to do to me, and I wanted to mark the occasion. However that’s our choice and I’ve no doubt the registry office and curry wedding you reference was lovely, and what that couple wanted so all good.

I just don’t get the snarking about other people wanting to use their own money to have a big celebration of their wedding.

People can spend what they want on their wedding, my gripe is the people who brag about how much they are spending but also complain about needing to use credit cards/loans to do so.
There is far too much Keeping Up With The Kardashians when it comes to weddings these days. I follow a few wedding florists/event venue dressers on Instagram and in the past year almost every decor has been the same - LED floors, tall vases overflowing with flowers, multiple cakes, flower walls, grey kilts and so on. They have all spent £20-30,000+ but there is no sense of the couple because it's all about having the Instagram wedding and spending a shit load of moneym