to ask what you did for your hen night

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And how much it cost?

I'm not married, or dating. Just curious. Had to say no to a friend's hen as they wanted £200+ for a hotel, then gowns that said 'bride' etc on them then matching ones for us. Then other bits and bobs. Then considering an activity like paintballing.

This was all for 1 night away...

I hate the idea of buying clothes I'll never wear again. It's a waste, and also, £200 just for the hotel for one night to me it just nuts! It did include a meal and breakfast but I just don't get the need for it..

Am I a proper grouch?

Had to say no a couple of years back too as a friend wanted a hen do in Spain. It was going to cost £1000 plus...

AIBU to think it is all really stupid and pointless?

Spa afternoon at SpaLondon which was cheap for a spa, meal at a place that serves lots of types of food (practical) and an 80's night in Camden where we danced like loonatics. We stayed at a chain hotel near Kings Cross.
I told my BM the basics and she booked it all.

I didn't have one. DH didn't have a stag do either. As DH said "Why would I want to celebrate my last night of freedom? I can't wait to get married."

I did..... nothing! Didn't have one

I've been married twice so have had two. Both times, went for a meal with plenty of wine and then bar hopping complete with inflatables. Fun times.

Cocktail making, games and a Cuban buffet at revolution de Cuba in a private room then into the main bar for drinks and dancing afterwards. My hens organised but I believe it was around £30-40pp.

An exhibition in the Goldsmiths Hall, then up the London Eye, stopped for cocktails somewhere along the Thames, afternoon tea at Claridges, more cocktails and out for a meal in the evening. There were only 5 of us. It was all very stylish, no dressing up, so silliness.

We got together again a few months later to go to the Lion King, which was what I really wanted to do, but there were no tickets available on the planned date.

I went to the theatre in London with my bridesmaids, mums and sisters and then an Italian at night with some more Friends. Cost all in all max £100 for theatre, travel and the meal/drinks....I had a blast and got a lot of feedback from people saying how lovely it was to do something different for hen do

Went to a festival. We would have gone anyway but some extras came and we trimmed our tents up with some bunting and what not. Was perfect.

Meal and drinks with friends. Whatever the cost of a decent pub meal was back then.
I think it's the height of rudeness to expect people to cough up huge amounts of money to travel to distant destinations and have a weekend of excess.

That said, I went to a friend's one, we all stayed in a brilliant historic b & b, with big rooms with four poster beds and basically had dorms, several of us in each room and had pillow fights after our boozy meal out. It was silly and fun and her wealthy husband to be paid for it.

I’m always really surprised at hen party/wedding threads on here. Maybe it’s because I’ve had the same friends since I was 11-16 years and we are all very much on the same page! I’ve been on lots of hen parties- both abroad and to cities. They’ve all cost £2-300. It genuinely doesn’t bother me. If I don’t want to go, can’t afford it, it’s my issue. I think of it as a invite not a summons...

25 of us went to Majorca, had a absolute ball. There was strippers, matching t-shirts, plastic willies and flashing veils etc I had the time of my life.

All the other hen parties followed suit. I’ve never been ‘forced’ to have fun. I genuinely love celebrating my friends up and coming marriage! I’m abit sad now we are all married... although I’m sure some will be doing it all again at some point no doubt

I organised my best friends hen do, we did
Lunch: £25
Cocktail making lesson: £20
This was followed by a night out with cup access in every nightclub in our city (most of the guests had children under 3 and were reluctant to go far)
Spa day the next day: £50
Dinner: £30

Obviously there was other costs, drinks, taxis etc

I personally don't want one

Dinner and a cocktail making class at a club. Then pub crawl, ended up in a Popworld for a foam and UV paint party.

Had an absolute ball and honestly the best night out I've ever had. Even though we had to call kind husbands to pick us up as no cabs would take us of course.

Cost about the same as a normal night out really.

Cocktails then a murder mystery dinner, about 20 people friends and family. Most expensive thing was hire of mini bus!