to ask what you did for your hen night

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And how much it cost?

I'm not married, or dating. Just curious. Had to say no to a friend's hen as they wanted £200+ for a hotel, then gowns that said 'bride' etc on them then matching ones for us. Then other bits and bobs. Then considering an activity like paintballing.

This was all for 1 night away...

I hate the idea of buying clothes I'll never wear again. It's a waste, and also, £200 just for the hotel for one night to me it just nuts! It did include a meal and breakfast but I just don't get the need for it..

Am I a proper grouch?

Had to say no a couple of years back too as a friend wanted a hen do in Spain. It was going to cost £1000 plus...

AIBU to think it is all really stupid and pointless?

I'm having little afternoon gathering and then tea at a lovely pub. I don't really feel like my friends should be spending ££££ just because of my life choices.

Nothing. I think hen nights are hideous.

I had no interest in a big boozy night out (I love big boozy nights out, don’t get me wrong, but no way was I going to be trailing round town half cut & drunkenly telling people I was getting married...not my scene).

I had a Sunday lunch (with lots of bubbly) instead, with my closest female friends and relatives. It was lovely. We laughed, cried, talked the hind legs off a donkey...and we’re all home by 7pm .

Cocktail class followed by a meal and indie club in the city a lot of us live in or near. Plenty of spare beds for the non locals. Hopefully not too pricy for anyone

Had a few drinks in the house, sat in the chippy and then went to a disco. Everyone paid for their own food and drinks and wore what they wanted. There was no "traditional hen" stuff.
It was 25 years ago

Agree re forced fun..

I've seen some hen dos where ppl look like they are miserably participating in 'fun' activities that someone has decided everyone will enjoy. eg the time I saw a hen group at the ice rink and they all trooped in, paid for skate hire and skated half-heartedly round a couple of times and then came off.

Not had mine yet - it'll be next summer. We're renting out a beach hut for the day (about £10 each) and all bringing a bottle/some snacks. Fingers crossed the weather's ok!

Weekend away in the sun then a night out for cocktails in the nearest city for those who couldn’t make it. My friendship group all got married at a similar age and liked going out so we all made a fuss of each other in that respect.

Went to another city for the day/night - hotel, Turkish bath, meal, entry to a club for £90, just a few spends on top. There were about 12 of us, friends and family. I've never been invited to one that was ££££ thank goodness!

I had a deal through one of those companies for mine it was 115 each for cocktail making with lunch included. Then a 2 course dinner with half a bottle of wine per person, an overnight stay with breakfast included so peoples only extra expense was travel (city an hour away and all car shared so that wasn't much either) and any extra drinks on the evening out.
That was back in 2012, so not as cheap as just a night out locally but thought it was good value for everything all in. Had a great time although there's been others I've been to I've actually enjoyed more. Sometimes depends on the mix of people you get together!

I went out for drinks with my friends. In the town where I live. Then we went dancing. There may have been a kebab...

Went to the local pub for drinks, then walked across road to local Italian for dinner and cocktails. 4 of us in total (including one person who I literally had never met before - my friend brought her along!)

Turned out to be one of the best nights out I've ever had.

For background I didn't feel I deserved a hen do for various reasons and my lovely friend noticed I wasn't arranging anything and she sorted this. So grateful to her and she's still my lovely friend all these years later

I shall be having manicures and pedicures followed by tea and cakes at a local tea shop with my mum, sister, sister in law, her friend and my best friend. Looking forward to it.

Afternoon tea at a posh restaurant. My DM and DSis paid for it, and DSis devised a quiz which was multiple choice based on "how well do you know Lobster?"

It was really good although the wedding didn't take place after all.

Spa day with 5 close friends and a nice afternoon tea (what I actually wanted)

Then Ann Summers party with about 15 people and clubbing (which I absolutely did not want but many of my guests did so went along with it)
The first part was great. second part pretty rubbish but fine.

It wasn't the be all and end all of my life so I didnt really care and would've been happy without a hen do at all. I think people get far too invested in the whole thing being the best weekend ever and it gets a bit OTT

I hate the idea of having a weekend away with loads of people I barely know, doing activities I wouldnt choose in a city miles away and having to pay £££ for the privilege.

I had a bbq at my parents house. It cost whatever the food and drinks cost (to me, probably less than £80) and a few friends brought a bottle. I had just finished big exams and was exhausted, so that was plenty exciting for me. It was lovely and low key and most people slept over.

I hate hen dos. I was fairly much forced to have one so just opted for a night out in my hometown, cocktail making and then went to a club.

Only one I've been to and enjoyed was at her house, she'd hired a karaoke machine, there were nice nibbles (we all brought something) and it was very laid back and fun. She wanted something both her nannas could be at and enjoy.

We went to the Harry Potter Studio Tour (fancy dress optional!) followed by Frankie & Benny's. It was perfect and hopefully not too expensive (half the guests didn't need to stay overnight although there was travel for most). Bloody fantastic day!

I was very lucky OP. I had a wonderful friend who organised a lovely 3 night stay in an enormous house for 20 of us! It was 3 days of fun including some adventure and outdoors activities, a delicious buffet one day, a roast another, a few meals out including dinner, drinks and dancing, and afternoon tea in boutique cafe. And she did it all for £70 per person (minus what we spent in the bars) (in the south east!) and I didn’t even pay. It was so lovely and I’m eternally grateful to her. I would have hated for my friends to feel they were spending too much!

Absolutely nothing. Can't think of anything worse but that's my personal opinion

Met at my sister’s house for cream tea and bubbles. Then went to an escape room for the afternoon. Back home to get glammed up before cocktails, lovely meal out and went clubbing to a cheesy venue (first time clubbing since uni lol 😂) Was a brilliant day. No cost to me as everyone else paid but i’d Estimate about £100.

Strip show and then club. Club was included in an entry so it cost just little bit more than normal night out.
According to blushed cheeks and wide smiles all the girls enjoyed the show🙈

I had an amazing hen do which my bridesmaids organised. 8 of us in total and we hired a large house in a UK city for 2 nights. We had a private chef and butler in the buff on night 1 which was hilarious. Day 2 was a morning spa, lunch and an escape room. Then dinner and drinks in a bar later. Pretty simple to be honest. Cost wise i suppose it was in the 200-250 region but everyone was ok with it, and those that weren't just came for one night.

I will admit I had 2. Lol first one me and 4 of closest friends went to benidorm for 3 nights. And, am ready to be hung out and quartered but yes we had matching tshirts for flying and had a themed fancy dress night

And then home hen had a party bus and curry karaoke with about 30 family and friends. Total cheese and tack fest but I fuckin loved it.... What I remember of it anyway hahaha