To not want to be pregnant anymore?

[gonewiththepotter]

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I’m 5+3 into a planned and wanted pregnancy. But I did not plan for, or want, all the horrific side effects that hit my almost from the moment of conception.

• constant nausea
• intermittent vomiting

-heartburn -horrific dizzy spells -painful gas (all the time) -horrible stomach aches -cervical cramping

🙄 it’s AWFUL I can’t eat a meal or sleep through the night and it’s been like this for weeks with no sign of improvement. I’m on my second set of meds from GP to control it. The first did nothing. These ones help some issues but make others worse.

Nausea gets better but stomach aches, gas and heartburn get worse! I can’t take antacids as they made the nausea unbearable!!

I’m just so miserable, lonely and fed up. DH has been working 14 hour shifts since Thursday so been lucky to see him got 20 mins a day (commuting on top). My DM came over today but I was so poorly we couldn’t leave the house.

I’ve rang pregnancy sickness support and they told me I needed to be admitted to the EP ward and treated aggressively. So I rang the EP ward who very kindly said... 😂 not a bloody chance!

I’m not dehydrated as keeping water down so I’m not a priority. I get that...but do they just expect me to keep going like this?

I’m so low and keep saying to DH/DM ‘I just can’t do this anymore/ for another 6 weeks’ and they just nod along - tell me it will get better soon- but won’t actually discuss any options. DH is devestated at the thought of terminating and I just feel so guilty.

I’m losing so much weight (don’t have it to lose) and just feel like everywhere I go for help tell me something different and pass me on!

I’m currently laid here, exhausted, with heartburn and horrible gas due to the anti nausea tablets. Desperate to sleep but can’t lay down and can’t manage to fall asleep in the 10-15 minutes between having to get up and pee!

@NoSauce
To make sure the pregnancy is growing in the right place (womb) and that there is a heartbeat and it’s growing properly...etc.

@Wenttoseainasieve

Oh god! That’s worse than I am. How did you get through that? Well done you!!

I’m only vomiting occasionally (couple of times a day most) but spend 90% of the day with crippling nausea! If I eat, if I don’t eat...constant nausea!

Sorry OP I though that’s what you meant but couldn’t work out why.

That’s a good idea. I really hope you can get some support and help with how it’s affecting you. I’ve not had HG so cant say I know how you feel but I did have nausea and vomiting all day for the first 16 weeks but I could eat a little bit and I could go out and function to a large degree.

Do you feel any better with sleep? Lemonade ice lollies helped me sometimes and having a fan blow in my face.

Hope things improve for you soon.

I had this for 41+3 with my first. For 38+1 with my second- both girls.
You have my sympathy.
My managers actually stood over me while I was vomiting and checked my sick bag because they didn’t believe how sick I was.

Stay cool- I carried a little spray bottle everywhere (as well as sick bags, ginger biscuits and a can of fat coke). I would wet my wrists and neck- sounds bizarre but it did help.
Carbs and sugar are your friend. I lost 3 stone but I did have it to lose.
The only thing I could ever really keep down were handfuls if dry cereal, ginger bread biscuits and cola. I swear they kept me alive.
Good luck, it will be worth it in the end I promise xxx

OP you’re not alone. Pregnancy is really, really, really difficult for a lot of women. I tried for over 8 years to conceive after a loss and ended up getting SPD at 19 weeks. I could barely move. I asked myself more than once what I had got myself in to. I’m now nearly 24 weeks pregnant after another loss and have felt rubbish from day one. I developed severe backache around a week ago and again can barely move, add a toddler in to the mix and I’m asking again what I’ve got myself in to. I feel massively guilty for not enjoying my much wanted pregnancies but I really want to just get to the pushing baby out stage so I can start to feel normal again. I’m sorry you feel you’re not being supported but please know there’s woman world wide who are in absolute agreement with you.

@OhMyDarling
My managers actually stood over me while I was vomiting and checked my sick bag because they didn’t believe how sick I was.
I’m so sorry! I hope you took legal action

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