To not want to be pregnant anymore?

[gonewiththepotter]

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I’m 5+3 into a planned and wanted pregnancy. But I did not plan for, or want, all the horrific side effects that hit my almost from the moment of conception.

• constant nausea
• intermittent vomiting

-heartburn -horrific dizzy spells -painful gas (all the time) -horrible stomach aches -cervical cramping

🙄 it’s AWFUL I can’t eat a meal or sleep through the night and it’s been like this for weeks with no sign of improvement. I’m on my second set of meds from GP to control it. The first did nothing. These ones help some issues but make others worse.

Nausea gets better but stomach aches, gas and heartburn get worse! I can’t take antacids as they made the nausea unbearable!!

I’m just so miserable, lonely and fed up. DH has been working 14 hour shifts since Thursday so been lucky to see him got 20 mins a day (commuting on top). My DM came over today but I was so poorly we couldn’t leave the house.

I’ve rang pregnancy sickness support and they told me I needed to be admitted to the EP ward and treated aggressively. So I rang the EP ward who very kindly said... 😂 not a bloody chance!

I’m not dehydrated as keeping water down so I’m not a priority. I get that...but do they just expect me to keep going like this?

I’m so low and keep saying to DH/DM ‘I just can’t do this anymore/ for another 6 weeks’ and they just nod along - tell me it will get better soon- but won’t actually discuss any options. DH is devestated at the thought of terminating and I just feel so guilty.

I’m losing so much weight (don’t have it to lose) and just feel like everywhere I go for help tell me something different and pass me on!

I’m currently laid here, exhausted, with heartburn and horrible gas due to the anti nausea tablets. Desperate to sleep but can’t lay down and can’t manage to fall asleep in the 10-15 minutes between having to get up and pee!

OP. I hated pregnancy, and had tried for years to conceive. It was bloody awful.

But it was worth it once baby arrived.

I had HG, it was horrific. Go back to your docs and ask for the better anti sickness meds, keep trying different meds till you find the best ones. Some docs are more sympathetic and give you the better meds. Visualise your baby and how happy you will feel holding and spending time with your baby, that is what I did. Sickness is a sign that the hormones are there to support your baby's growth, think of the positives. You can get through this. Good luck OP.

Have you had a decent antacid prescribed by the GP? Not the chalky tablets or gaviscon. Acid makes nausea worse.

I totally feel for you.
I know it's probably little comfort but you can do this!
I'm 38 weeks now and having c section in 1 week. I NEVER thought I would make it.
I felt dreadful from 4 weeks. Was so so sick and bed bound for 8 weeks. I'm self employed and had to close my business for 2 months. I remember being so early in that I didn't think I could ever make it this far. I'd cry every day and I think my mental health has taken a battering being so isolated for so long. Keep going to the dr. There are different drugs and combinations you can try. If you don't think you'd dr is taking you seriously. Ask for another. Hyperemisis should be taken seriously.

I barely slept. ‘Woke up’ drenched in sweat with horrible nausea but the gas/tablet side effects were too crap to take another tablet.

So I nibbled a mouthful of ginger biscuit and ran a barely luke warm bath (honestly it felt cool getting in) promptly vomited the ginger biscuit back up and woke my DH up sobbing on the phone to the GP.

I rang THE moment they opened and sat on hold for 6 minutes. At 9:06 they told me they had no emergency apt’s left and would have to have a GP call me back this afternoon. I cried that I didn’t want a call back as that’s what I keep getting fobbed off with! They said ‘yes but the GP can book you an apt- we don’t have any left’

I said ‘but it’s not going to be today IS IT? If they don’t call me back until late afternoon and the chemist will be closed 😭

I explained that the GP had recommended I speak to pregnancy sickness support- who had said I needed admitting to EP ward- EP ward said they didn’t have room but GP SHOULD be dealing with this and seeing me as an urgent matter!!!

So you see the vicious circle I’m trapped in!

Honestly have never felt more let down by the NHS and my DH (as a DR who slogs his heart out for them) is finding it all very difficult to accept.

Feels like there’s such a ‘it’s just morning sickness either get on with it or get rid of it!’ Attitude!

Op please join the hyperemesis support groups on Facebook. I'm in Australia so scripts are different here. I've been prescribed Restavit by my ob which is just an antihistamine and should be available over the counter.

I'm 17 weeks and I actually don't know how I've made it this far. I've literally taken it hour by hour. It is absolutely shit and I really feel for you. A lot of women on the HG groups take a combination of Ondanestron, Restavit and B6.

Op please join the hyperemesis support groups on Facebook. I'm in Australia so scripts are different here. I've been prescribed Restavit by my ob which is just an antihistamine and should be available over the counter.

I'm 17 weeks and I actually don't know how I've made it this far. I've literally taken it hour by hour. It is absolutely shit and I really feel for you. A lot of women on the HG groups take a combination of Ondanestron, Restavit and B6.

Oh op I feel your pain. I'm still vomiting at 21 weeks (not what you want to hear).

Mine was never as bad as yours. I'd go to the doctors and wait until they see you. Alternatively tell them you will present at A&E and they will get the bill. The NHS is generally fantastic but non emergency care is difficult to access.

A friend of mine terminated for hyperemesis. A difficult devision and still suffers from health problems resulting from the constant sickness a year later, although she has mixed feelings about it as you would expect, but i dont think she could have coped any longer.
I reckon its more common than people think.

My first pregnancy made me really poorly so I sympathise.
The cramping should stop soon, it's still very early days and everything stretching and the embryo is embedding. It doesn't go on for long usually. I also found the hot flushes stopped by about 7 weeks.
Try sipping ice water or cola for the nausea and see about anti sickness tablets. Go to a walk in centre if you can't get in with your gp, or call 111 especially if you feel you're getting dehydrated.
Have you tried anti sickness wrist bands?

My first pregnancy made me really poorly so I sympathise.
The cramping should stop soon, it's still very early days and everything stretching and the embryo is embedding. It doesn't go on for long usually. I also found the hot flushes stopped by about 7 weeks.
Try sipping ice water or cola for the nausea and see about anti sickness tablets. Go to a walk in centre if you can't get in with your gp, or call 111 especially if you feel you're getting dehydrated.
Have you tried anti sickness wrist bands?

My first pregnancy made me really poorly so I sympathise.
The cramping should stop soon, it's still very early days and everything stretching and the embryo is embedding. It doesn't go on for long usually. I also found the hot flushes stopped by about 7 weeks.
Try sipping ice water or cola for the nausea and see about anti sickness tablets. Go to a walk in centre if you can't get in with your gp, or call 111 especially if you feel you're getting dehydrated.
Have you tried anti sickness wrist bands?

I was like this. Prescribed omeprozole for heartburn, indigestion etc and it was a lifesaver.

Ranitidine and gaviscon didn't help at all.

I was like this. I wasn't given anti sickness tablets but I did ask for omeprozole for heartburn, indigestion etc - it was a lifesaver.

Ranitidine and gaviscon didn't help at all.

OP I'm so sorry this is happening to you and you're not being supported. The amount women are expected to just tolerate in pregnancy is a disgrace. I guarantee if men endured pregnancy there would be whole bloody teams of people looking in to how to make things easier.

Couple of suggestions to consider. Could you call 111 and see if they can get you an appointment elsewhere? Alternatively they might be able to push your GP to get you an appointment. Can you take your DH with you to any appointment to support you?

You could also ask to speak to the practice manager at your GP and see if they can pull any strings.

I think in your position I would also book an early scan. If I was going to endure this then I'd want to know that the pregnancy was viable ASAP. I would probably have fortnightly scans up to 12 weeks if it was me.

I really hope you make some progress soon OP, look after yourself.

OP I'm so sorry this is happening to you and you're not being supported. The amount women are expected to just tolerate in pregnancy is a disgrace. I guarantee if men endured pregnancy there would be whole bloody teams of people looking in to how to make things easier.

Couple of suggestions to consider. Could you call 111 and see if they can get you an appointment elsewhere? Alternatively they might be able to push your GP to get you an appointment. Can you take your DH with you to any appointment to support you?

You could also ask to speak to the practice manager at your GP and see if they can pull any strings.

I think in your position I would also book an early scan. If I was going to endure this then I'd want to know that the pregnancy was viable ASAP. I would probably have fortnightly scans up to 12 weeks if it was me.

I really hope you make some progress soon OP, look after yourself.

@gonewiththepotter I totally understand how you feel. I've name changed for this. Because I feel horrible for some of the thoughts I had i early pregnancy.

I like you was plagued by terrible nausea & sickness. Horrible heart burn. Dreadful trapped wind (honestly, never felt pain like it, thought I'd done something to my back, could barely walk) awful constipation and then piles. Oh the joys of pregnancy.

I was job hunting at the beginning of my pregnancy due to being made redundant. All of the above made this extremely challenging.

All of these side effects put my life on hold. Made me a terrible person to live with. Was awful.

Worst of all, and I'm not sure I'll ever really forgive myself, but I had some heavy bleeding at 11 weeks. I cried with sadness but also with relief. Because I thought at least all these horrible side effects will stop! I felt/still feel terrible for thinking that.
Thankful everything was okay with baby. And (thank god) as I hit 12 weeks, all the side effects went. I wont lie and say pregnancy was easy, but the 2nd and 3rd trimesters were easier. And now as I sit here holding my little one, I can honestly say, id do it all again. Those first 12 weeks were awful. I cried everyday. But it gets better.

@gonewiththepotter I totally understand how you feel. I've name changed for this. Because I feel horrible for some of the thoughts I had i early pregnancy.

I like you was plagued by terrible nausea & sickness. Horrible heart burn. Dreadful trapped wind (honestly, never felt pain like it, thought I'd done something to my back, could barely walk) awful constipation and then piles. Oh the joys of pregnancy.

I was job hunting at the beginning of my pregnancy due to being made redundant. All of the above made this extremely challenging.

All of these side effects put my life on hold. Made me a terrible person to live with. Was awful.

Worst of all, and I'm not sure I'll ever really forgive myself, but I had some heavy bleeding at 11 weeks. I cried with sadness but also with relief. Because I thought at least all these horrible side effects will stop! I felt/still feel terrible for thinking that.
Thankful everything was okay with baby. And (thank god) as I hit 12 weeks, all the side effects went. I wont lie and say pregnancy was easy, but the 2nd and 3rd trimesters were easier. And now as I sit here holding my little one, I can honestly say, id do it all again. Those first 12 weeks were awful. I cried everyday. But it gets better.

@gonewiththepotter I totally understand how you feel. I've name changed for this. Because I feel horrible for some of the thoughts I had i early pregnancy.

I like you was plagued by terrible nausea & sickness. Horrible heart burn. Dreadful trapped wind (honestly, never felt pain like it, thought I'd done something to my back, could barely walk) awful constipation and then piles. Oh the joys of pregnancy.

I was job hunting at the beginning of my pregnancy due to being made redundant. All of the above made this extremely challenging.

All of these side effects put my life on hold. Made me a terrible person to live with. Was awful.

Worst of all, and I'm not sure I'll ever really forgive myself, but I had some heavy bleeding at 11 weeks. I cried with sadness but also with relief. Because I thought at least all these horrible side effects will stop! I felt/still feel terrible for thinking that.
Thankful everything was okay with baby. And (thank god) as I hit 12 weeks, all the side effects went. I wont lie and say pregnancy was easy, but the 2nd and 3rd trimesters were easier. And now as I sit here holding my little one, I can honestly say, id do it all again. Those first 12 weeks were awful. I cried everyday. But it gets better.

@gonewiththepotter I totally understand how you feel. I've name changed for this. Because I feel horrible for some of the thoughts I had i early pregnancy.

I like you was plagued by terrible nausea & sickness. Horrible heart burn. Dreadful trapped wind (honestly, never felt pain like it, thought I'd done something to my back, could barely walk) awful constipation and then piles. Oh the joys of pregnancy.

I was job hunting at the beginning of my pregnancy due to being made redundant. All of the above made this extremely challenging.

All of these side effects put my life on hold. Made me a terrible person to live with. Was awful.

Worst of all, and I'm not sure I'll ever really forgive myself, but I had some heavy bleeding at 11 weeks. I cried with sadness but also with relief. Because I thought at least all these horrible side effects will stop! I felt/still feel terrible for thinking that.
Thankful everything was okay with baby. And (thank god) as I hit 12 weeks, all the side effects went. I wont lie and say pregnancy was easy, but the 2nd and 3rd trimesters were easier. And now as I sit here holding my little one, I can honestly say, id do it all again. Those first 12 weeks were awful. I cried everyday. But it gets better.

From 3 weeks right through to when I delivered my baby I had hyperemeses, water retention, weird eating issues due to sickness, unbelievable tiredness, high blood pressure, suspected pre eclampsia, suspected GD....but I made it. It made the early weeks with my baby a breeze as I had been living a nightmare for 9 months. Stick with it...you can definitely do it.

From 3 weeks right through to when I delivered my baby I had hyperemeses, water retention, weird eating issues due to sickness, unbelievable tiredness, high blood pressure, suspected pre eclampsia, suspected GD....but I made it. It made the early weeks with my baby a breeze as I had been living a nightmare for 9 months. Stick with it...you can definitely do it.