AIBU to be angry at my sister and go get her up?

[jessley199327]

SO my 14yo sister is staying with me, my partner and my son, for a bit in the 6 week holidays because she lives about 100 miles from us. For days now she has stayed up late then refused to get up, not at an unreasonable time. Ive been trying to wake her around 10am but her not getting up til 12 or 1pm. Last night i went to bed around 8pm because of a migraine and woke up to her sitting in the living room painting at 4.30am, she immediately went to bed without me saying anything. I get up this morning with our boy and realise theres watercolour all over the sofa which wont come off.
AIBU to be annoyed by her attitude recently and go get her up to try clean it? Surely shes old enough to deal with the consequences of not going to bed at a reasonable time.

Whatttt? You don’t sound like a bitch to me in the slightest OP. That was a horrible reply. I’m glad you’ve got it sorted.

Borschter are you reading the same thread as everyone else. The OP isn't in the slightest bit bitchy whereas you on the other hand...

She's going n school holidays and she's 14 Iran's she is visiting you, id just let her get up when she wants.

She can help clean up & tidy but why wake her up?

You sound like an utter bitch. I hope she’s wanted at home.

That’s massively uncalled for. The OP has a had a minor disagreement with her sister over what time she gets up and some potential damage to the furniture. She hasn’t behaved in the least bit like a bitch.

Let her sleep,she sounds like hard work to me.
WD40 is good if nothing else works.
Spray and leave for a few minutes

I was up painting at 2am too. I’m 40.

You sound like a lovely understanding sister.

Agree, you sound lovely op!

And tbh there are a lot worse things a 14 the old could be doing at 4.30 am

Gah! 14 year old!

Where are you getting this from, @KurriKurri*?
I would hazard a guess that she doesn't feel comfortable sleeping in a room with you and your partner, I think a fourteen year old girl would find that very uncomfortable.

Of course & that would be ... all sorts of wrong for everyone.

Except she doesn't sleep in their room. She sleeps in the big hallway, so her own semi-private space. Maybe not ideal, but we can't all have big houses with enough rooms, & this space is what the sister prefers.*

My mistake, for which I apologise - I missed the bit about the hallway as it wasn' t in the OP. But you got rather needlessly aggressive didn't you? - And used the opportunity of my mistake to have a dig at what you suppose my circumstances are. You have no idea how big or otherwise my house is.

I wonder why people come on the internet and fly off the handle over nothing it is very strange behaviour. Maybe you are living up to your user name - which is offensive and innapropriate, unless you are a member of the Mussolini family in which case I'd keep quiet about it.

All of my teens are up all night and sleep in the day in the holidays. That's what holidays are for. If they want some alone time which mine do its the only time they can. I would make her clean up when she gets up but unless you have outings planned just let her enjoy the teen body clock. It soon has to stop when you go to work.

Congratulations @jessley199327!
She said she's going to get in bed by 1am while she's here so we can spend time together.

I was be totally unreasonable this morning in the wording of my post.
You really weren't. You were being understandably unreasonable ;)

Am so glad you have been able to comunicate, get heard, & achieve resolution x

Thank you! I try my hardest to be understanding with her and I always have. It's just hard to get the balance between guiding and suggesting, and being a parental figure. I'm glad we ajave sorted it though.

Thank you to everyone! Even if I do "sound like a bitch"

She sounds quite normal to me. Of course she needs to clean up the water colours, other than that I don't think she's done anything wrong.

My mistake, for which I apologise - I missed the bit about the hallway as it wasn' t in the OP. But you got rather needlessly aggressive didn't you? - And used the opportunity of my mistake to have a dig at what you suppose my circumstances are. You have no idea how big or otherwise my house is.
I din't mention your circumstances, & it hasn't occured to me to wonder anything about your house. I was imagining OP's, & thinking of my own & how I accommodate guest overspill. You are projecting.

I wonder why people come on the internet and fly off the handle over nothing it is very strange behaviour.
It is, isn't it!!

Maybe you are living up to your user name - which is offensive and innapropriate, unless you are a member of the Mussolini family in which case I'd keep quiet about it.

Don't worry about my username, I'm not hanging upside down from a lamp post yet. Now, what is it you were telling me about "needless aggression" dear? Was it anything to do with arbitrarily judging the OP for making her young sister share a bedroom with her husband, based on nothing but your own invention?
Anyone can make a mistake, or "miss the bit about the hallway as it wasn't in the OP" That's perfectly understandable. But to jump from there to a fabricated account of sleeping arrangements is quite the leap ...

Thank you to everyone! Even if I do "sound like a bitch"

You so don't :)
Wish I'd had a big sis like you when I was growing up x

In 29 and I wake up at 11 during weekends and holidays. If you need her up by 9am or whatever time let her know the day before so she can set an alarm. If she doesn't go go bed early then she is tired, but she knows about it and it's her decision. As for making a mess, yes she should clean it herself.

Interesting that you call anyone who disagrees with you or calls you out on your aggression 'dear' . You really don't like it when people stand up to yoiu do you - quite apparant on other threads wheere you [pop up with your spite.

And I do worry about your user name. Mussolini decided people of my race were not fit to live. I find using his name as offensive as someone choosing Hitler or PolPot or IdiAmin as a user name. It is crass and disgusting. It says a great deal about your personality and suggests you are very hard of thinking or incredibly unpleasant.